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Let’s talk about those rape posters

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By now, likely everyone in the Manosphere has heard about the attention MRAEdmonton garnered when they countered the “Don’t Be That Guy” rape posters with their own “Don’t Be That Girl” ones.

http://www.avoiceformen.com/updates/action-updates/mens-rights-edmonton-under-intense-media-spotlight-after-dont-be-that-girl-poster-enrages-feminists/

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2013/07/09/dont-be-that-girl-posters_n_3570282.html#slide=1826360

http://www.vancouversun.com/news/Rape+apologist+parodies+That+posters+Edmonton/8638284/story.html

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Personally, I love the posters, but what I want to talk about today is the original campaign, designed to teach men not to commit sexual assault.

On the surface, the original posters appear innocuous enough.  No, obviously, you should not be having sex with a woman so drunk she is passed out face down on the couch with her ass in the air.

No, you should not even think of having sex with a woman who is staggering around the men’s bathroom.

No, you should not be taking off your pants to fuck a chick passed out cold with an empty beer glass at her side and several more stacked on the bedside table.

Obviously, helping a drunk woman home does not entitle you to sex.

And in what is going to come as SHOCKING news to everyone, if someone doesn’t want to have sex with you, you should not have sex with them.

I’ll give you a while to process that information, because I’m sure that until this clever campaign came along, you were all busy screwing comatose girls at parties and gleefully hailing cabs so you could help ladies home and then rape them.

Tsk tsk.

Bad boys.

I think I have found a way to illustrate just how offensive these campaigns are, and what the real intention behind them happens to be.

Look at this:  the bike theft capital of the world is none other than Toronto, Canada.

http://dirtydawgs.livejournal.com/28898.html

Most of the stolen bikes are never recovered, with the bulk of bikes going to China and Jamaica.  Jamaica has quite a few black folks, no?  So it must be black folks stealing the bikes, right?  That right there is what you call LOGIC.  Stolen bikes go to Jamaica, Jamaica has a lot of black people, black people must be thieves!  Men like to have sex with women, sex with a woman against her will is rape, men must be rapists!

Don’t worry.  You’ll get the hang of it.

Let’s say the Toronto Police decide to tackle this epidemic of bike thievery by creating a poster campaign:  Don’t Be That Black Guy.

bike

Just because you can pick the lock doesn’t mean you’re allowed to steal the bike.  Don’t Be That Black Guy.

 

Just because she left her bike outside the coffee shop for five minutes doesn’t mean you can steal it.  Don’t Be That Black Guy.

 

Just because it’s easy to jump the fence into the backyard doesn’t mean you can steal that bike. Don’t Be That Black Guy.

And hey, why stop there?  There are so many crimes we could address by vilifying an entire group of people!

jew

Just because you found a wallet doesn’t mean you get to take all the cash before you return it.  Don’t Be That Jewish Guy.

bomb

Just because you own both a pressure cooker and some ball bearings doesn’t mean you can build a bomb and kill people with it.  Don’t Be That Muslim Guy.

meme

Just because you found a stray cat doesn’t mean you can kill it and add it to the menu.  Don’t Be That Chinese Guy.

meth

Just because you have allergy pills with pseudoephedrine and some hydrogen chloride lying around doesn’t mean you should cook a batch of crystal meth.  Don’t be that Latino Guy.

I could go on, but surely it’s clear that posters asking men not to be that guy, you know the rapist guy, will be just as effective as posters asking black guys not to be thieves.  And why are these posters not effective?

 

MOST MEN AREN’T RAPISTS

MOST BLACK MEN AREN’T THIEVES

MOST CHINESE MEN DON’T EAT CATS

MOST LATINO MEN ARE NOT DRUG DEALERS

MOST MUSLIMS DON’T BUILD BOMBS

And the ones that DO? They don’t give a fuck about your stupid posters.  They’re risking their lives and freedom and their livelihoods.  A police officer with a gun might stop them.  Some jackass poster won’t.

What the posters accomplish is to teach men they are natural-born rapists.  And to teach women to fear and mistrust men. To hate them.

All men.

It’s a hate campaign. There is no other word for it.

Does this look familiar?

jewish

Posters played a key role in convincing the German population that Jews were evil, scary, bad, some “thing” you should hate. And we know how that turned out, don’t we?  Don’t Be That Guy is hate speech, pure and simple.  And the more voices that call it out for what it is, the sooner we can expose the real aims of women’s groups that promote these campaigns.

They’re the new Nazis.

Sound harsh?  Just too much to swallow?  Think comparing rape campaigns to anti-Semitic propaganda is a false comparison? You might want to think again.  Silence is what makes these campaigns possible.  You may have other things to say about these posters, but say them you must.

first they came

Don’t be that guy.

Lots of love,

JB

 

CORRECTIONS:

In news that will come as no surprise to my critics, everything you read on this blog is a first draft.  I might go back and correct typos, but I have never gone back and done a re-write on any post.  This post has three major errors that I want to correct, with the caveat that the errors were the result of my first draft goes up policy.

1.  A commenter who calls himself Black Yoda at AVfM has quite rightly pointed out that I have left out one major group in my play on racial stereotypes:  white guys.  Allow me to correct that casually racist oversight:

golf

Just because you have a five iron doesn’t make the park your green.

Don’t Be That White Guy

http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/false-rape-culture/lets-talk-about-those-rape-posters/#more-44997

2. My list of what people AREN’T has omitted the statement that MOST JEWISH GUYS AREN’T OBSESSED WITH MONEY.

3. My comparison of the posters to Nazism has a glaring error in that I referred to the Nazi era posters as “Jewish propaganda”.  The correct words would either be “anti-Jewish” or “Nazi”.

Thanks for keeping me on my toes, readers!  Don’t hesitate to call me out on blatant oversights or errors.

JB

 

 

About Janet Bloomfield (aka JudgyBitch)

Janet Bloomfield is Social Media Director for AVfM. She has an undergraduate degree in Film Theory, a Master’s degree in Business Administration and is pursuing a PhD in Entrepreneurship and Innovation. She is a full time mother to her three children and a full time wife to Mr. JudgyBitch. Her children have never seen the inside of a daycare center and her husband has never made his own sandwich. That makes her very happy.

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  • yinyangbalance

    THIS IS BRILLIANT! I MADE THESE SAME POINTS A FEW DAYS AGO AND WAS FLOODED WITH A BACKLASH. SO I’M SENDING HATERS THIS WAY RIGHT NOW.

    And they might be surprised its a woman saying it this time….I wish I could see their faces.

  • The Real Peterman

    Great job, Janet! The juxtaposition of those two posters really says a lot.

  • The Real Peterman

    The Nazi poster apparently says

    “The Eternal Jew
    You too must see this film”

    according to Google translate.

  • http://funkymunkyluvn.wordpress.com/ Jason Gregory

    Excellent! Perfect 10.

  • Zorro

    Dear Judgy Bitch:

    Mike Tyson could take punching lessons from you and learn serious shit.

    I am still trying to catch my breath.

    Fuck!

  • http://manamongoaks.com/index.html Ray

    The vast majority of the more than 300 American men cleared by DNA evidence had false accusations of rape leading to their wrongful convictions. How many of those women were actually raped?

    How many more men (wrongly convicted of rape and rotting in prison) actually had sex with their false accuser so DNA evidence will never free them from their wrongful convictions?

    “Why Would A Woman Lie About Rape?”
    http://home.earthlink.net/~jamiranda/whyLie.htm

    Are there more than the eleven reasons listed?

    False accusations of rape are as old as time, i.e. Potiphar’s wife falsely accused Joseph of trying to rape her way back in Genesis 39 : 11-20 NIV.

    13 When she saw that he had left his cloak in her hand and had run out of the house, 14 she called her household servants. “Look,” she said to them, “this Hebrew has been brought to us to make sport of us! He came in here to sleep with me, but I screamed. 15 When he heard me scream for help, he left his cloak beside me and ran out of the house.”

    20 Joseph’s master took him and put him in prison, the place where the king’s prisoners were confined.”

    • OneHundredPercentCotton

      The men cleared by DNA were WRONGLY CONVICTED – not fictitiously accused.

      There is a HUGE difference between falsely identifying the wrong man(oft times intentionally to “close” a case, & sometimes not – as in “You all black men look alike”) and a woman pulling a false accusation out her ass.

      DNA cases only prove that the wrong guy was mistakenly accused/convicted originally. There would be no DNA if the accusation was fictitious. DNA now identifies the REAL rapist, frequently the very same person who pointed the trembling finger of blame at the innocent man).

      This whole subject is so closeted, cloaked in myth, misconception and mysticism that NObody can even discuss it properly – which works to the detriment of raped women AND innocent men.

      THAT’S what’s sooooooooooooooo fucked up about it. You can’t even discuss HONEST cases of rape because of the hysteric Greek Feminist Choir stinking up the place and sending everyone running for cover.

      • tyciol

        I have to dispute that there OHPC. The presence of DNA evidence does not mean the accusation was true. TNA only proves that sex occurred, not that the sex was rape. We should by no means assume that just because a woman has semen in her and says she was raped, that she was.

    • tyciol

      We should turn “Potiphar’s wife” into an insult for women (perhaps exclusively wives?) who make false rape accusations. I don’t suppose the wife of (the?) Potiphar (is that a name or title?) was referred to by name?

  • http://www.judgybitch.com Janet Bloomfield (aka JudgyBitch)

    Even if there was precisely ZERO false accusations of rape, the poster would still be true: lying about sexual assault is a crime.

    What the critics don’t like is that it implies ALL women are lying about sexual assault.

    Which is bad.

    Kinda like the original posters imply ALL men are rapists.

    Which is…… *crickets*

    La la la – I can’t hear you!

  • Peter Wright (Tawil)

    Your timing is impeccable, JB. Kudos.

  • http://manamongoaks.com/index.html Ray

    “Women who drink are not responsible for their actions especially when sex is involved.”

    Actually, under today’s double standards in law, women who drink are responsible for their actions, EXCEPT when sex is involved.

    # If a woman gets drunk, gets in a car, and runs over people she bears much responsibility for her actions.

    # If a woman gets drunk, then has sex, it’s not her fault according to the vast majority of laws these days.

    Why the double standard? Doesn’t the “woman” in the above examples “CHOOSE” to get drunk in both instances?

    Even if a man bought her drinks, doesn’t a “woman’s” own “NO CHOICE” actually mean “NO,” or does a “woman” not known her own mind enough to not pick up the first, and subsequent, drinks set before her???

    • OneHundredPercentCotton

      Actually – if she gets drunk and plows into a group of people she will NOT be punished as severely as a man who did far less, so really – women are not responsible when sex is involved – at all – and only mildly responsible in other circumstances.

      I’d bet good money women regularly don’t get punished as severely as men do when drunk driving is involved.

      I’ve witnessed it myself among men and women I know.

  • Jared Spencer

    It is absolutely amazing that two simple things that would absolutely solve the entire mess are so far beyond so many people: 1. Be accountable and honest, taking responsibility for your actions. 2. Don’t break the freaking law.
    Over simplification of a staggeringly complex issue within the complex nature of society and humanity, I know. But still….

  • Robert St. Estephe

    Its not sex when its “gender.”

  • Theseus

    Fucking awesome Janet! Pure gold.

  • theoutside

    An absolutely great piece.

  • AdVader

    trivial perhaps but to correct, the poster referring to hitler is in dutch and thus this one is not used to convincing the german population jews are evil.

    • scatmaster

      As quoted by JB on her website when another poster said the same thing:

      “Is it? Well, they were used all over Europe to get people to turn a blind eye to the Holocaust.”

  • eddy.dogleg

    I need feminism because…. it gives me permission to behave badly.

    Thanks for the article Janet.

  • pinetree

    Clear, cut and concise. Thank you for such a nice piece. Hopefully radical feminists will read it too.

    • scatmaster

      Hopefully radical feminists will read it too.

      Pipe dream brother. Pipe dream.
      They are trying to figure out more ways to euthanize us and if you don’t believe me check out the Agent Orange files.

  • http://www.avoiceformen.com Dr. F (Ian Williams)

    By far my favourite article in the last month. Thank you.

    You’ve already had a crack at Hugo, Betty and Shona, and you’ve served a beauty about the Donglegate “horror”. But this one is the coup de grâce for the original poster-lickers.

    I don’t always agree with what you say JB, and that’s great because you demonstrate a WGHOW in genuine form and that makes you a bloody nasty deal for the feminists.

    They already know that you are unapproachable, unbending and unpredictable, But unstoppable?

    Yes. You are their gathering menace.

  • http://www.blackyodaprime.blogspot.com blackyoda

    “Just because “black people” can be used to prove your point….Doesn’t mean you should throw them under the bus to do so. Don’t be that white guy/girl.” After the first example, I had that line all ready to go to mix it up a little, but I don’t necessarily feel the need to use it after reading the whole article. :-). Thank you for diversifying your examples…lol. It might seem silly, but I actually appreciate that because the article doesn’t read like a potshot against any particular group. Great points and presentation.

    • http://www.judgybitch.com Janet Bloomfield (aka JudgyBitch)

      Hot damn.

      Called out, and you sir, are correct.

      Just because you have a golf club doesn’t mean the park is your putting green.

      Don’t be that White Guy.

      I will fix that tomorrow, with full credit.

      But after a two hour radio show, I’m very sleepy. Bed time for me!

    • tyciol

      >Just because “black people” can be used to prove your point….Doesn’t mean you should throw them under the bus to do so

      But Rosa did so much work to get them moved to the front =/

  • Nightwing1029

    “I’ll give you a while to process that information, because I’m sure that until this clever campaign came along, you were all busy screwing comatose girls at parties and gleefully hailing cabs so you could help ladies home and then rape them.”
    Oh yes. Because all men want to have sex with a woman who just lays there.
    Or…
    Oh yes. Because all men think about is sex, with no consideration of what a woman wants.
    /sarcasm off

    Janet, as always, it’s rather entertaining reading your posts. Keep me laughing, and I keep coming back.

  • http://Bluedogtalking.com Bluedog

    Editor, this statement towards the article’s conclusion is incorrect: “Think comparing rape campaigns to Jewish propaganda is a false comparison?” The author has not compared anything to “Jewish propaganda” – that is the opposite of the intended meaning. The correct rendering of the point that is trying to be conveyed is “Nazi propaganda” or “anti-Semitic propaganda”. Please correct this error. You may remove my comment – I just wish to make this important correction.

    • http://www.judgybitch.com Janet Bloomfield (aka JudgyBitch)

      You are also correct. A terrible oversight.

      I have corrected all errors at my website.

      Thanks for the call-outs.

      • http://www.deanesmay.com Dean Esmay

        I’ll go ahead and add those here as well.

  • Andy Bob

    Incisive as always, Ms Bloomfield. I hope you don’t mind that I nicked some of your salient points when blogging on some of the recently published articles about MRAEdmonton’s posters. Your own pithy ripostes are brilliant.

    It has been very interesting to read the commentary on these posts. So many people are calling the Women’s and Gender Studies bigot out on her wholesale dismissal of false rape accusations, as well as her attempt to censor the posters on ‘her’ campus.

    The feminists can only respond with their easily demolished grab bag of slogans, lies and shaming language. They are unable to refute the contention that the original posters demonize men and infantilize women without reinforcing that contention with their blustering rage and arrogant dismissal of men’s human rights.

    MRAEdmonton has exposed feminism’s cleaned-up version of ‘all men are rapists’ as the rampant misandry that it is, and sent the sisterhood goose-stepping back to its drawing board. Try as they might, feminists can never disguise their fundamental hatred of men.

    Great work MRAEdmonton, Ms Bloomfield, and all the MHRAs who presented the cogent commentary which has clearly undermined feminism’s ‘award-winning campaign’ (that bit always makes me nauseous) and unnerved the smug bigots who designed it.

    • http://www.avoiceformen.com Dr. F (Ian Williams)

      AndyBob.

      “MRAEdmonton has exposed feminism’s cleaned-up version of ‘all men are rapists’ as the rampant misandry that it is, and sent the sisterhood goose-stepping back to its drawing board.”

      Wonderful summary, and to be bold, perhaps “Clawing board”?

      Couldn’t resist old son.

  • napocapo69

    The “do not be that guy” campaign is a propaganda trying to co-opt the withe knights.
    And it is also a dismissal of the education responsibility of families, evidentely considered by the HyperState, entities inadequate to educate the children.

    If we are stemming from a “rape” linked to the drunk status of a woman, how do we get to the need of educating men, preventive bashing and blaming?

    But it easy to catch the false intent of the campaing. I had a look at some of the pictures of the campaign and most of them depict a woman in unconscous state with a perfectly sober man (or men), the narrative of the beauty and the beast (beasts). They do not depict the typical scenario of drunk guys and gals, drunk and engaged in mutual intercourse. Because in that case the educative messages would be completely different, and mostly aimed at women. They depict scenarios where education does not play a role, since educative messages address people in good will not people with bad intents.
    The “educative” message sent out to men is “she can send you in jail for her faults and the society is supporting this”.

  • Klar

    bang fucking on :)

    AVfM and GWW – high point of the year how you get the point across

    damn yous are so good

    what ever discouragement mighta been lurking, feel ashamed now

  • gateman

    Just because he has a penis doesn’t mean he’s violent, a potential rapist, or a misogynist.

    Don’t be a feminist.

  • Andy Bob

    “If you are a guy, you’ll just shoot yourself after her course.”
    http://www.ratemyprofessors.com/ShowRatings.jsp?tid=184473

    So says the only male student who appraised Lise Gotell, Associated Professor of Women’s Studies at the University of Alberta, on the Rate My Professor’s website (linked above).

    Professor Gotell’s female students, however, are unstinting their praise, with many describing her as ‘insightful’, if somewhat ‘disorganized’. Pure speculation, of course, but one can be reasonably certain that her reputation for insightfulness stems from her ability to point out how the patriarchy has oppressed these poor victimized girls in ways that had, hitherto, never occurred to them.

    Reading the professor’s C.V. reveals a woman who has no other qualifications, or experience, in any field except Women’s and Gender Studies, and has been indoctrinating students with its dogma, the basis of her ‘insights’, since at least 1992.
    http://www.ualberta.ca/~lgotell/Lise%20Gotell/page2/page2.html

    Pay particular attention to the section headed, ‘Research Funding’. She received $78,000 for investigating ‘Canadian Sexual Assault Law, $64,000 from ‘The Status of Women Canada as an academic collaborator on something called, “The Tyranny of Vulnerability: The Controlling Image of Canadian Criminal Justice and Health Policies on Women Sexualized Through Work of Violence,” and $1,000,000 from something called SSHRC/CURA for her work on “The Healing Journey: A Longitudinal Study of Women Who Have Been Abused by Intimate Partners,” (her role included preparing the questionnaires).

    It would be a gargantuan understatement to conclude that Professor Lise Gotell has a personal and extremely rewarding vested interest in promoting and perpetuating the gendered feminist narrative far beyond her campus stomping ground. Equally personal, though probably less vested, is her unsavoury fascination with pornography and obscenity – from a legal gender-feminist perspective, of course.

    One can well imagine the utter horror that ran through her veins when she stumbled, in her disorganized way, across MRAEdmonton’s “Don’t be that Girl’ poster. She must have felt the bottom dropping out of her smug little world – not to mention, her bank account.

    The authoress of “The Ideal Victim, the Hysterical Complainant and the Disclosure of Confidential Records: A Case Study of the Implications of the Charter for Sexual Assault Law”, and “From Orgasms to Organizations: Maslow, Women’s Sexuality and the Gendered Foundations of the Needs Hierarchy” must have had a fleeting image of herself trying to find a real job. Professor Gotell’s ‘ideal victim’ is unlikely to have a penis.

    MRAEdmonton’s achievement extends beyond disquieting bigots like Professor Lise Gotell, and providing the MHRM with its most publicly visible platform to date. Feminist ideologues weren’t the only people who saw the ‘Don’t be that Girl’ posters around the University of Alberta campus. Young men, like Professor Gotell’s male student, saw them too. Hopefully, they no longer feel like shooting themselves, but instead, feel reassured that the misandry they had to endure in their Women’s Studies courses is no longer going unchallenged.

    That is a laudable achievement indeed. MRAEdmonton, I salute you.

    • OneHundredPercentCotton

      Great comment, AB. Outstanding. Instead of shooting himself, this you man should feel like shooting down misandry…(hopefully I couched that remark carefully…)

  • Xayadvara

    I have a question since I am not in FB.

    Were these posters allowed to be bandied about in FB? Or were they too shunned off as part of the ………. errr ……. “PoonBook Policy” , or was this one given a special pass as part of the “Publicity Policy” ?

  • -James-

    I’m confused. You’re telling me that black men in Toronto steal bikes to have sex with them?

    Also, you should mention that all sports enthusiasts are hooligans and there should be posters at every stadium reminding people it’s not ok to beat someone up because they like the other team.

  • TexasIsPangea Greg

    I’ve been struggling with the concept of generally calling a person a guy versus the more specific term black guy or whatever. If a woman has had bad experiences with black men, she would probably go and say that she dislikes men in general without the discrimination to the race. Your not going to tell that woman that she shouldn’t dislike men in general because most men aren’t that bad, are you? What if she said that she dislikes blacks?

    Would you dispel of things such as girl power because it sounds synonymous with black power or white power according to your logic? I actually don’t care about black power or white power by just associating that these terms have nothing to do with the thought of supremacy of one race over the other. Does girl power talk about the supremacy of girls over boys?

    This is very interesting territory. I know that you’ll probably disagree with me, but there is a huge dynamic between men and women, and the race is something that is secondary. I know that just because you are a certain gender doesn’t mean that you are a bad person. And gender doesn’t necessarily prescribe to a person that he or she is a bad person. Though sexual drive might have notorious effects on the male.

  • TexasIsPangea Greg

    And being proud of your race isn’t a bad thing either. Race is a feature such as having a big penis or having freckles on your face. If someone is proud of his skin color, then maybe it can be looked at like all the colors of the rainbow.

    FUBU, which is a “racist” clothing line, is fine with me as long as white people have the ability to make their own “white” clothing. And even though the attire is meant for a certain race, anyone can make any type of clothing that HE wants.

    I’ve been thinking about race and genetic features that come with that race. People tend to say that it is just a color or tone to your skin, but maybe there is something else to it. Of course, one could think that race can have its own genetic compartment in the DNA while all the other things are separate. If race does have its own exclusive compartment without inclusions that prescribe to that race, then maybe the separate features that tend to come with the race are just averages that are passed down from generation to generation. Very interesting stuff.

  • ComradePrescott

    This article was superb and helped me articulate some feelings I have been having lately. It was not terribly complicated, but I was still having some mental cramps that reading this solved. Lately, I have been seeing more and more, “Can a man hit a woman if she hits him first?” and other variations of the same question. I always find it offensive from the get go but until now I was unable to articulate my frustrations and explain why, in words (in my own mind) why this was so particularly offensive. All I could do was grumble something about misandry.

    And reading this I put it into words. It’s the same as asking, “Is it okay for a jew to hit a gentile in self defense?” or “Can a black man defend himself from a white attacker?” and so on.

    The very frame of it is offensive because it is a question at all.

    Well written article. Thank you for it and for helping me process some thoughts.

  • http://www.genderratic.com/ Jim Doyle

    The pain is starting to spread. Here’s an article from Salon:
    http://www.salon.com/2013/07/12/mens_rights_dopes_strike_again/

    More, please.

  • Redfield

    Isn’t this the radfem mantra “all men are potential rapists!” I guess the posters would make sense if they could back that up with real world facts, give us some sane reason for shaming every single male that sees these posters … Come on lets have the debate without your hate …

  • donzaloog

    Excellent job, Janet. Shut down all of this bullshit feminist propaganda. We’ve swallowed their lies for too long.

  • http://Socraddockmethod.com Clayton Craddock

    This is the latest example of the reality of this phenomenon. Did you guys read this?

    From the NY times:

    “The Default Is Yes

    For many Penn students, their initiation into the sexual culture takes place at fraternity parties during New Student Orientation, a five-day period before classes start in the fall, which, along with Spring Fling in April, is known as the biggest partying time of the year.

    “You go in, and they take you down to a dark basement,” Haley, a blond, pink-cheeked senior, recalled of her first frat parties in freshman year. “There’s girls dancing in the middle, and there’s guys lurking on the sides and then coming and basically pressing their genitals up against you and trying to dance.”

    Dancing like that felt good but dirty, and like a number of girls, Haley said she had to be drunk in order to enjoy it. Women said universally that hookups could not exist without alcohol, because they were for the most part too uncomfortable to pair off with men they did not know well without being drunk. One girl, explaining why her encounters freshman and sophomore year often ended with fellatio, said that usually by the time she got back to a guy’s room, she was starting to sober up and didn’t want to be there anymore, and giving the guy oral sex was an easy way to wrap things up and leave.

    In November of Haley’s freshman year, a couple of months after her first tentative “Difmos,” or dance-floor makeouts, she went to a party with a boy from her floor. She had too much to drink, and she remembered telling him that she wanted to go home.

    Instead, she said, he took her to his room and had sex with her while she drifted in and out of consciousness. She woke up with her head spinning. The next day, not sure what to think about what had happened, she described the night to her friends as though it were a funny story: I was so drunk, I fell asleep while I was having sex! She played up the moment in the middle of the night when the guy’s roommate poked his head in the room and asked, “Yo, did you score?””

    Only later did Haley begin to think of what had happened as rape — a disturbingly common part of many women’s college experience. In a 2007 survey funded by the Justice Department of 6,800 undergraduates at two big public universities, nearly 14 percent of women said they had been victims of at least one completed sexual assault at college; more than half of the victims said they were incapacitated from drugs or alcohol at the time.

    The close relationship between hooking up and drinking leads to confusion and disagreement about the line between a “bad hookup” and assault. In 2009, 2010 and 2011, 10 to 16 forcible sex offenses were reported annually to campus security as taking place on Penn’s campus or in the immediate neighborhood.”

    http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/14/fashion/sex-on-campus-she-can-play-that-game-too.html?_r=0&pagewanted=all

  • JGteMolder

    There’s another flaw about the Nazi poster; it’s not German. It’s a Dutch Nazi poster. They were a minority but the Dutch Nazi’s had their own National Socialist party, the NSB, and it probably came from them. It is a poster for that German film we all know though, apparently being shown in the Netherlands either dubbed or subtitled. They collaborated with the Germans when they invaded… and once we were free we hunted the traitors down and either killed them or locked them up.

  • Klar

    great article JudgyBitch, and there’s nothing you say that’s too extreme in bringing nazi examples in for comparison.

    In the UK, they’ve managed to convince the general populace that it’s fine to jail men while providing only counseling for women for the exact same crime.

    It is a tiny step farther to convince that same populace that that is proof in itself of the sub-human nature of men and that the next small steps are justified.

    One thing about this time around though, ain’a gonna be quite so many lambs going out with a whimper – gonna be a bang big enough…

  • HieronymusBraintree

    My problem is that I’m not Asian yet I have a strong even overpowering desire to be that Chinese guy.

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  • jerrytheother

    Janet, you hit the mark on so many points -you’re brilliant and logical. Bravo!

    See one of my rants here: