We involved in the MHRM are often accused of just attacking feminists and not doing anything. Which isn’t true, but it does happen to be one of the best ways of getting in the mainstream media. Thanks, Bones!
Still, we do actually do things. Some of us go out and are activists. Some engage actively in what are normally considered feminist causes. Some create and support charities that care for men, seeing as men as a whole generate less sympathy and get less help than women and children. There just aren’t many normal charities that support men in any way, and those that do are lost in a sea of under breath politically-correct mumblings. Which got me thinking: I would love to gradually build a database of charities that DO offer some help to men, whether exclusively or as a part of their services, which might be of use to men around the world.
I am starting with my own back door: the UK, because I am most familiar with our legal, welfare and charity systems. So whether you are a man in need of help or an MHRA looking to donate to or volunteer for a charity that supports men, here are the first 11 charities I have found which offer support to men in trouble.
The Campaign Against Living Miserably is a charity for the prevention of male suicide. Although suicidal thoughts are just as terrible whoever has them, the fact is that more men commit suicide than women, and fewer male suicide victims sought help before committing the act.
CALM offers support for men who are in crisis via their helpline and website; they also work to ensure that male suicide is treated more respectfully on a legal level and challenge gender norms that prevent some men from seeking help.
Prostate cancer, depending where you stand on the trans* issue, affects either mostly or only men. Like all cancers, it carries a certain risk of further complications and death. Like all sex-based cancers, it impacts on the sense of self and attractiveness of the sufferer.
Prostate Cancer UK invests in research into the diagnosis, causes, treatment and cures for this terrible illness. Not only that, but they offer a support network for sufferers and their families, including forums, nurse help, and a free helpline.
The Mankind Initiative offers support for male victims of domestic abuse. They are a small charity that runs with very little funding and a lot of work from volunteers.
Their goal is to reach a world where male victims of domestic violence and their children receive equal support to female victims so that they can escape their situation. They also wish to change perspectives about male victims of domestic violence and create an improvement in how male victims are treated nationally.
Refuge is one of the UK’s leading domestic violence charities. However, they do not provide shelters for male victims, which would be the ideal end goal for this campaign, rather than a footnote on their website.
On the other hand, they do make some efforts and offer some outreach and support services which cater to men, unlike many domestic violence charities. If you need help, you can turn to them. Which is a step in the right direction and worth knowing before you pick up the phone and call some asshole charity who will try and make you out to be the abuser.
Another non-men-specific charity that really does its best to help everyone who needs them. Men are far more likely to be in poverty than women, mostly because women seek help more eagerly and don’t mind falling back on benefits in a heartbeat.
But if you’re in very hard times you might be entitled to some welfare support to tide you over. And Turn2us helps there. If a man is in poverty or about to hit hard times, he can call them for anonymous advice on the benefits he might be entitled to. Not only that, but boys and young men struggling to stay in education can get help for grants and other cash gifts to help keep them studying. Seeing as boys drop out of education more than girls and are often unaware of grants and scholarships, this is valuable work.
Homelessness, again, disproportionately affects men. This is because housing benefit and council houses are disproportionately given to women, and many homeless women can seek help in domestic violence shelters. It is also because people with children are given priority.
Crisis focuses on getting single homeless people off the streets, offering them the help they need and getting them in rented accommodation, on any benefits they need.
Men’s Aid is a UK charity that focuses on providing information and advice to couples who seek to keep healthy relationships with their children after family breakdown. Although some women are already mourning how terrible equal parenting is, generally women get given priority when it comes to the kids, as women are perceived as better parents and more likely to be hurt by being refused access to their children.
Men’s Aid seeks to counterbalance this situation by putting pressure back against a legal system which is biased against men and by offering advice and information to couples who do not want this system to rule their lives. Whether a couple splitting amicably or a newly single man desperate to get in touch with his kids, Men’s Aid will do their best to help.
Lasa is a social welfare law and tech support service provider, working behind the scenes for many bigger organisations. Where others are actively reaching out and providing advice and help to those in need, Lasa is supplying the software required to keep abreast of welfare developments and make sure everyone gets the help they set out looking for.
Whether you are seeking help with welfare or your council tax situation, Lasa may have been behind the advice you got.
Despite the religious overtone, this charity offers valuable help that many men could do with. Men are more likely to be in debt, on their own, destitute, in poverty and on the street than women. And what CAP does is they help people in such situations by providing debt help and a money course, helping people find work and defeat life-controlling habits like smoking, drinking or gambling.
This charity takes the Christian perspective of helping your fellow man and offering help without judgement or conditions to those in need. Their services are invaluable to someone whose life is well and truly hitting the skids.
The Citizen’s Advice Bureau is a charity that aims to help anyone and everyone with any problem they may have… which is quite a challenge, but often they do a great job. If anyone knows about where a man struggling with drug addiction and homelessness, or a father desperate to see his children, or a man going through cancer alone can turn, it is them.
You can get their advice via web chat, phone or in person at your local office. Just bear in mind that however good they are, they can take a while, so they are not the best for immediate crisis situations.
NORM-UK, or 15Square, is a charity that is concerned with preventing medically unnecessary circumcision. Most men in the UK are uncircumcised, but the repulsive American trend of “cosmetically” mutilating an infant’s genital tissue is trying to make its way over here.
15Square provides information about alternatives to medical circumcision, but opposes any unnecessary circumcision at all and offers advice about foreskin restoration for circumcised men. They publish a journal and provide online articles about religious circumcision, petitions against male circumcision and information on health conditions where circumcision is offered as treatment.
So those are the first 11 charities which have been known by some to provide valuable help to men in situations of crisis across the UK. And only the first 11 in a list which will hopefully grow and grow until a comprehensive data sheet of charities which support men across the world can be accessed easily for free.
Anyone have any further suggestions? Any comments about your experiences with these charities? If you’ve had a hard time with any of them, it will be considered and amended for the main list. Likewise, if you have been treated very well by any of them. All comments are read and I know that those who have read my other articles are supportive, determined MHRAs, so all your suggestions will be investigated.