“Whats the Difference?”
“I’ve come to learn that there is a real difference between men and women. It’s genetic.”
There is, and there always has been a difference between men and women. A significant portion of our world’s history based how it functioned off of those differences. In recent developments in human philosophy, certain groups have sought to blur the lines between the two sexes for their personal gain. In doing so, they have also tried to reorganize society more and more to their mold of how they think the world should be, versus what it is. Feminism is at the head of this movement.
Politicians and government officials have institutionalized all sorts of androgynous pseudo-equality measures because they wanted to double their voters and broaden the tax base. Social figures who want to be popular and make money cater to crowds of women who are waiting to be flattered, and told that they can be everything that a man can be on live television. Limp wrist males with no father figures or male role models spend their lives supplying women with unending attention, just at the chance that a female will give them a moment of acknowledgment in exchange. Feminists in this world live to tell one another all sorts of nonsensical folklore about how a woman is at best in life when she is trying to be a man.
All these people tell you that there are no differences between men and women. They shame men for laying claim to those differences. They teach you not to think about them. They teach you that it’s wrong to assign behaviors or roles to men or women like children or adults. The above is active at all times until situations arise where those differences matter and men must exercise their masculinity to provide for women, and save them from danger.
Leadership and fatherhood is the main endgame of masculinity, and man’s potential to become a patriarch is his birthright. But because of the “blurred lines” society put on gender roles and norms for men, many men born in this society often come across the sense that something is wrong with who they are and how they get treated in society, and they feel out of place. It is imperative for the Men’s Rights Movement, or the Man-o-sphere, to understand masculinity for it to win. Having purely intellectual arguments over statistics and such is not going to be a win in the long run.
If men want to challenge those they are not allowed to challenge, and do it effectively, the only way they will win is by stressing biology in every aspect of the dialogue. Getting into high falutin debates about sexism is never going to be as practical and direct as affirming your biological call to manhood. When you think about it, your chromosomes, your innate masculinity, is the ultimatum; It’s the conversation starter and the conversation ender. You are a man, and that’s all there is to it. Everything else you bring to the conversation is fluff, the central feature of it is that you are a man, and that makes you different.
Feminists know how important biology is to the discussion, and try to side swipe biology by asking questions like: “Aside from the biological differences between men and women, what else is there that’s different about them?” The straightforward answer to this question is that biological differences between men and women are why men and women are different. In short, biology is the difference. People asking, “what else is there” besides biology are asking for something intangible. And while I would say that there are indeed deep and strong spiritual differences between men and women, that’s a discussion for another day. For the sake of time, we are only going to talk biology.
Your gender affects who you are both physically and psychologically. Physical differences are the details people could tell about you by looking you. You can’t naturally change them because they are embedded into your biological makeup: hormones, sex organs, fitness capacity, how tall or short you are, your skin color, whether you are a man or a woman, etc.
Physical differences also influence who you are through your psychology. Having different physical makeup gives you different experiences. It’s hard to describe what those experiences are like to people not familiar with them, because they are tailored to you, and people like you, only. The list of physical differences there are between men and women, and how their respective bodies behave, are more than enough proof to say that men and women are not the same. Add that with how their experiences differ- from the type of actions they are inclined to take (or have the capacity to take), or how others act toward them- and we can affirm the fact men and women are different twice over.
Feminism and the Safe-Space
“For most of history, Anonymous was a woman.”- Virginia Woolf
The differences between men and women are the keystones of sexism, patriarchy, and feminism. If there were no differences between men and women, or the differences were so minor they were insignificant, there would not be discussions like this going on at all. Regarding masculinity, the crux that separates males from females, both physically and psychologically, is strength. It’s something that men naturally have a lot more of and has always been one of the central qualities women have had to rely on men for.
Because feminist are women, and they lack strength, they need safe spaces in first world societies to exist. They need places where freedom speech is prized, and people are not going to shut them down with legal measures, or use physical force to stop them from saying something because somebody didn’t like it. They need societies were the population is instructed to be loving towards all humanity. Women are generally not inclined to be as bold as men when speaking out about an issue, if beforehand they can’t know if they will be OK for saying it. Even after this assurance, a lot of women may still hold sheepish attitudes about speaking out, anyway.
Feminism also has a list of tenants that actively require participation from male sponsors, and male members of the community. Because women are naturally dependent on men, and feminist arguments are based on the idea that males control all of society, feminists think they are required to petition men for acceptance in order to be allowed to become something. Phrases like “Equal pay for equal work” are very common in these circles, and they imply that men have a responsibility to be fair to women by paying them the same as the opposite sex.
In my own mind, I don’t understand why feminists, especially in this day and age, will wait for a man to tell them what they are worth. They have the right to vote, the right to own property, the right to own a business, and the right to run for office; why they don’t band together, pool their talents and resources and start their own all-women/feminist businesses is beyond me. Since they think they are like men, I don’t understand why they choose to play the victim over trying to show us up in the way men show one another up.
Women arguing about how men don’t provide them with enough money at the workplace are sexist because they believe that men are supposed to provide women with everything they have. Some of them may outwardly despise men, but they secretly favor patriarchy and don’t think women are capable of providing for themselves. If they believed they were capable, and truly fed up with male standards of employment (or beauty, or whatever), they would have left our systems a long while ago to create whatever matriarchal utopia that they wanted.
A woman who says “I don’t need a man,” are to some extent full of themselves. Sure, in modern America you could live relatively comfortable without living with a man by your side, and make good money as a secretary or a doctor. But these women forget that they live in the most masculinely robust society that ever was. A society filled with powerful machines that crunch tons of metal, that pave streets and build skyscrapers. They are protected by the most powerful military in the world. These women are employed in clean, sterile offices, and live in areas that are heavily policed. All of their provisions are available in abundance at the local Wal-Mart or Costco and stored at home in their refrigerators. They may not need an individual man at their side to live on, but the collective of man has provided them with everything they have.
The reason why feminism happened within recent history, and not 5,000 years ago, is the same reason why feminism is hard to find outside the 1st world: throughout all of recorded history it was apparent to women that they absolutely needed men to help them to survive. Without men, monsters from the woods could come and eat them alive. They were more likely to suffer from the elements and natural disasters without proper male-built shelters. If the men in their community weren’t strong or went missing, men from other tribes could take them away. Women still have a right to fear all of that in this day and age, provided they are in the wrong place at the wrong time and don’t have good strong men around to protect them.
“There was, I think, never any reason to believe in any innate superiority of the male, except his superior muscle.” – Bertrand Russel
When women say they want to “act like a man,” they are often referring to the ability to talk with an attitude without being reprimanded and getting their feelings hurt. This is not manliness, nor is it anything that looks like actual masculinity. Even with their aggressive self-assertions, no one actually expects women to act like men. Our society may have achieved a high enough level of comfort where we allow females to play a pseudo-masculine charade, but we all drop the charade when a crisis happens, and men have to man up, and women can’t.
Feminists claim they don’t like male-created systems, but here in America, they love chivalry (which is patriarchal by design), because it pedestalizes women. Even radicals who think holding the door open for girls is sexist strongly favor the elements of modern chivalry that protect them from the dangers of other men. To empowered feminists minds, to women who appear aggressive and sure of themselves, women as a whole are not capable of delivering what men can deliver. This is why feminism is a word game, and not an explicit war for freedom.
Women also know that in our society, if they assert themselves and go too far, they can say it was all an act and return to their female core without any questions being asked. They can lay claim to all the gender-biases of old as if everything they said before was all a mirage. They will call you stupid and throw shame on your name for thinking that a girl could ever be a man. They will be the proud, soft, cuddly, dainty women that they weren’t five minutes ago. You’ve heard it said that a true test of a man’s character lies in how he acts under pressure? Apply that same logic to determine the character of females who use dissimulation when they come under pressure to act like men.
Running away in a cowardly manner after being so bold may be indicative of immoral behavior, and playing dumb when you got caught with your hand in a cookie jar is not empowering anybody. They know better, and that this type of behavior is not acceptable, respectable, or moral for anyone to take part in. That women want to retain all their female privileges in this society, while also wanting all the manly ones, does not measure out very well in this mess. In my mind, you either have one or the other, and you have them for the rest of your life. You cannot claim to be like a man and then withdraw when someone challenges you in the way that men challenge each other. Men who do that are called pussies.
This does not occur to women, because they are not men, and they escape all the true and honest pressures that men put on one another, and that would make a man a real man. No one wants to pull their card and go full force because treating women like actual men would be misogyny. It would be hateful to women. I’m not talking about your average “the cashier at Starbucks uses too many male pronouns” misogynist. I’m talking about the full-on loathing of woman-folk.
Treating women like men is misogyny because women are not men; treating women like men is unfair to women; treating women like men is misogyny because it would be cruel. I am not saying that men are superior to women, or that women are inferior as a sex; I am saying that men are always going to be better at being men than women are. That’s not politically correct to say, but that’s reality and truth is not PC.
Women do not understand what it means to be a man, and they short-change the definition of being a man by thinking it’s a lifestyle or a buffet where you get to personalize it for yourself. They leave out all the hard, gritty parts required at masculinities core, and think they are on the same platform that men are because they can wear an “I voted” sticker on election day. If men truly treated women as male-equals in open competition, it could potentially result in the subjugation of their sex. Women know this, and to “prevent” this from happening, have modified the west’s codes of chivalry to include a list of rules and norms that require men to refrain from being masculine, so that they could fit in better, and have a chance at competing with us.
Male Power and the Masculine Charade
“Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you’re a man, you take it.” –Malcolm X
Feminists have politicized subsets of female psychology where they change positions based on feelings, instead of on evidence and rationality. This produces an “empowerment/victim” duality that feminists use to confuse people in conversation. And it works extremely well on men who make the mistake of thinking that women think like men, and aren’t capable of being subtle, or wouldn’t think that they have ulterior motives.
Many people get to live in vague delusions about what the word “equality” means until concrete physicality is involved, and distinctions between the sexes are made readily apparent. Before this point, feminists will first assert they are the same as men in every way. The more they can put up the illusion that they are just like men, the more access they have to male centers of power that men inherit societally by being men.
When rational, masculine males bring up the distinctions between them and women, it triggers a defense mechanism in feminists. They invent categories that sound conspicuously sexist, and vouch for “social equality” (which is a social construct) instead of absolute equality. They don’t fully believe in either of these positions. Depending on the circumstance, you will see feminists switch between both of them based on whether or not they feel they could get away with using the former instead of the latter (obviously because the former has more power behind it, at least as an idea).
Female masculine-charades are hard to find in areas where gender roles are the social norm. This is because women tend only to “act tough” if they have a net of social customs to fall back if something goes wrong for them. At the very least she would have to be among peers (which at some point has to include males) that can act as that net: A peer group whose attitudes allow or encourage being crude, or even physically abusive towards men, and think to some extent that women are allowed to do whatever they want to men without experiencing any repercussions.
In a darker setting, women do not fake at playing masculine roles where violence against women is an everyday part of society. This is because the differences in the masculine capabilities of men and women are comparable to the size difference between a puddle and the ocean. Regardless of whatever position people pretend to hold in public, everybody knows that men have the greater capability of delivering physical trauma to men, to nature, and especially to other women. This is why even the most liberal, tolerant, and progressive types are sexist at their heart. They know that their ideology is no substitute for physical reality.
The truth is that women do not have access to male power. They couldn’t have access to it if they wanted to. It is something you have to be born with because it is inherited with genetics. What women have access to in today’s world is a series of rights and privileges that men have built and provided for them at their own expense. The actual power it took to create and sustain these privileges is something beyond women. However, male power is also useless without women, and male power in a world where the women don’t want to act like women is meaningless.
For these reasons, when women talk about acting like men, we need to tell them that they have no idea what they are talking about. Everyone knows that masculine-charades are just a popular game women play in first world societies, similar to how people play months and months of video games to take up their free time. The difference is that, for the most part, people know that video games aren’t real.
When people tell you to check your male privilege, remember they are actually talking about male power. There is a difference, and it’s important to know that. They are trying to scathe your manhood because they are jealous. When they rally against a man, they will want him to leave his maleness at the door, because all of their remarks and opinions are entirely futile against a man who truly is grounded in his rational convictions.
The only possible way they can get you to “check your privilege” is if you volunteer to do so. The only other option for them is to use other male authority figures to evict you from the premises. They can’t defeat you by themselves, even in large groups. If a real man is exercising his masculinity in areas where feminists are, it’s obvious to everyone that there is a difference between the two, and they don’t compare. So they need to stop being a man, or get you to leave, in order for them to continue playing their game.
They are feminists. They are women. They feel that they are at the disadvantage, now and forever, because they are not men. In all honesty, they are probably right. Especially if you look at it from the feminist angle where women were designed to “compete” with men. In the end, we are men and they are women, and when you’re cut from the same clothe that successfully blistered through thousands of years of war, political upheaval, and built the seven wonders of the world, others have reason to respect and fear you. I’m sure if women were as capable as men in every way, our world history would look a lot different. Surely, female empowerment would have happened before the invention of air-conditioning, television, and the moon landing.
A game of charades, at the end of the day, is just a game of charades. It doesn’t matter how many were entertained, or how many people were convinced that their act was sincere- it was all theater. It’s theater so preposterous that no one, not even the feminists, thinks that it has any physical application in reality. When a real, masculine man confronts a woman playing a game of masculine-charades, they both know who is who, and who really has what. They know, society knows, and the law knows. It’s not a matter of feelings or social norms; it’s a matter of reality and facts.
 You can exercise to become healthier, but everybody has a genetic “cap”, so to speak, when it comes to strength and endurance.
 This is not to say that women do not have the ability to develop strong minds, but that because women generally lack physical strength, and whereas men have it, it effects female psychology with how they behave in the world.
 When I say “masculine charade,” I am not referring to so-called “tomboys” or women who participate in athletics. By “masculine charade,” I am mean females who pose aggressively when they want something, and retreat by appearing weak and feminine when dangers arise.
 “Why chivalry may not always be what it seems: Men who hold doors open and smile may actually be sexist, study claims,” Fiona Macrae, Daily Mail, March 10, 2105
 “Objective 17: Avoid Sexist Pronouns While Maintaining Agreement.“
 For the record, I am not implying with this sentence that it’s Ok to abuse women.
 For the most of history, many males haven’t been privileged enough to have anything save the shirt off of their back; living under the authority of a king or a despot who had the privilege to take whatever he wanted from anyone, at any time, within his own walls. Male power is strength, and can be honed regardless of one’s class or status in society, and used to fend off enemies and procure resources alike.
 But remember that pride cometh before the fall.