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Editorial note: The following completely unedited post was written by Samantha Allen on Tumblr. It has since been deleted from Tumblr after it was uncovered by people on Reddit and numerous other sites. It is archived here and here and has been noted on other sources online. We wanted to make sure as many people as possible know her hateful, bigoted views, especially readers of The Daily Beast, The Daily Dot, Salon, Huffington Post, The Advocate, Mic, Kinsey Confidential, Jacobin, and Adult Magazine–all of whom she has written for. We welcome her to write a followup piece explaining herself and apologizing to men, to boys, and to the women who love them, and hope she comes to realize that feminism is, indeed, a hate movement.—Eds.

what misandry means to me

i’m a misandrist. that means i hate men. i’m not a cute misandrist. i don’t have a fridge magnet that says, “boys are stupid, throw rocks at them.” my loathing cannot be contained by a fridge magnet.

i am not an equality feminist. i don’t believe that an asymmetrical world will be cured by polite obsequence to male-dominated systems. i am not a liberal humanist. i don’t believe that i need to stand up for men when they’ve been standing on top of everyone else.

misandry is not a political program; it’s a stance. i don’t care whether hating men is a good or bad feminist strategy (and i care even less what men think about misandry). i don’t think i have a responsibility to change the world. i think i have a responsibility to survive.

imagine being born into a world where your experiences are not represented, where your work is undervalued, where your body is always open for comment, where your friends are routinely harassed and abused, and where this situation will literally be your reality for your entire life. if you’re a woman, you don’t have to imagine that world because you already live in it.

if you’re a man, you never have and never will live in that world. but try to imagine what it feels like. i’ll tell you: when i think about the kind of world we live in, i feel simultaneously hopeless and infuriated and i oscillate so quickly between those two emotional extremes that i literally start to get dizzy.

being a woman in this world feels like getting buried alive. think about that. think about feeling that every day.

why do i have to answer the question “why do i hate men?” when men don’t even stop to ask why they have always hated women. i have to answer the question because men can’t tolerate for one second the sort of contempt they’ve had for women for thousands of years.

why do i hate men? because life is short. my life is getting shorter by the day and i want to fill it with women. in this sinking ship of a world, i just want to enjoy a tiny little space, a room, if you will, of my own. i want that room to be full of women and free from ego, hierarchy, sexual advances, and violence. i hate men because i can’t even have that fucking room without them knocking on the walls. you have the entire fucking house. go play in it. find something else to do.

i hate men because it’s not my job to fix masculinity; it’s my job to heal from it and to be together with my sisters as we try to make it through a hostile world. and yet i am expected to patiently educate men on how not to be an asshole. here’s my only tip: stop spending so much time around men. they’re assholes.

i hate men because men hate me and the burden to take the high road should not fall on my shoulders.

i am friends with some men, yes. usually these are men who have some experience of marginalization (whether via their race, class, gender identity, sexual identity, what have you) or who have gone through the self-interrogation and relational deprogramming necessary to build meaningful community with women. you don’t just get to read a book and you’re golden. you have to get fucking baptized in menstrual blood as far as i’m concerned.

i hate men doesn’t mean i hate you. it means i hate your position in this world. it means i’m not obligated to like you. it means i don’t have to talk to you if i don’t want to. it means i get to have my space and i don’t have to dance for you, smile at you, or soothe you. and you can put up with me being wary of you, can’t you, because the world has a fucking red carpet waiting for you wherever you go.

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    • lol taking advantage of what men have achieved ? many discoveries were made by women like marie curie and the computer youre using was first programmed by a woman. women were not allowed education before ignorant prick nor making their own money. if they had more privilèges LIKE YOU MEN they would have been better now. plus a lot of men have stolen ideas of women and work done by them. stop acting like the victim when youre not.

  2. Wow! Imagine if the word “misandrist” was replaced with “Nazi” and the word “men” was replaced with “Jew” …

    ———————
    I’m a Nazi. That means I hate Jews. I’m not a cute Nazi. I
    don’t have a fridge magnet that says, “Jews are stupid, throw rocks at
    them.” …
    ———————

    When are our ridiculously selfish politicians going to see this for what it is – a hate crime. Samantha Allen is a purveyor of hate and, like a Nazi, should be prosecuted to the full extent under the law.

    If I were a Nazi (and I despise Nazis as I despise Samantha Allen), I could very well find myself incarcerated for writing something so hatefully anti-Semitic – and rightfully so.

    And as for our law enforcement officials, please see all people like Samantha Allen for who they are – hate mongering criminals who do nothing to make our society a better place, but rather divide people using lies and hypocrisy. Charge them with a hate crime, try them in a court of law and, if they are found guilty, punish them accordingly with time in prison.

    For God’s sake – our politicians and law enforcement officials wake up!

    Enough is enough. When is our society going to demand an end to this blatant hatred?

    The fact that this website has a spell-checker that doesn’t recognize the word “misandrist” tells me everything I need to know about the third wave of feminism.

    • Wait, most Nazi’s were men. Actually the whole thing was created by a man. Therefore, you fail.

      • 1 – So the word “most” means that there were, in fact, female members of the Nationalist Socialist Party … and there were … lots of them … get your facts straight … http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_in_Nazi_Germany
        2. So because the founder of the party was a man – are you implying that all men are Nazis – the same as Hitler? Because if you are, then you are no different from a Nazi – you dislike me not for what I’ve done, but for what I am – the same thing the Nazis did to the Jews!

  3. And here I debated a “nice feminist, that don’t hate men” on a Norwegian site… .and then I read this.
    I hope all “nice feminists, that don’t hate men” stand up to this shit, because that shit ain’t helping the “feminist cause”

    • Sadly, most “nice” feminists only wear a mask of civility in public. They hear the crap being spewed by their more obviously bigoted cohorts all the time and either tune it out or support it. Even if they don’t personally hate men, they give tacit approval to those among their ranks who do. Feminism will never do a single thing to combat misandry.

    • For what? For thinking what she wants? You do realize how many men hate women and tell them they’re going to rape them, call them cunt and worse and no man ever points out that this behavior is wrong. Because penis.

      • I’m sorry Momo, but men calling women ‘the C-word’ is disgusting, but it is not hate-speech. Calling for another person, or group of people, to be killed IS hate speech, and it’s illegal in civilized countries.

      • I’m sorry Momo, but men calling women ‘the C-word’ is disgusting, but it is not hate-speech. Calling for another person, or group of people, to be killed IS hate speech, and it’s illegal in civilized countries.

        • Momo is as crazy as the writer. Feminists are violent bigoted haters, jealous of men, despite taking advantage of what men have achieved. Of course normally these crazies are ignored but the patriarchy elite are pushing and sponsoring feminism for power and control, divide and rule

          • It’s a shame that so many young feminists like Momo are consumed with hate when they could potentially be making a valuable contribution to society.

          • But that might mean actual work, which potty-mouthed princesses like momo are really not interested in doing. Not if they can get a man to do it for them.

          • lol taking advantage of what men have achieved ? many discoveries were made by women like marie curie ( discovered radium, worked her ass off in impoverished conditions where she got a disease) and the computer youre using was first programmed by a woman. women were not allowed education before ignorant prick nor making their own money. if they had more privilèges LIKE YOU MEN they would have been better now. plus a lot of men have stolen ideas of women and work done by them. stop acting like the victim when youre not.

          • lol taking advantage of what men have achieved ? many discoveries were made by women like marie curie and the computer youre using was first programmed by a woman. women were not allowed education before ignorant prick nor making their own money. if they had more privilèges LIKE YOU MEN they would have been better now. plus a lot of men have stolen ideas of women and work done by them. stop acting like the victim when youre not.

        • lol so you ahve to wait to get to the killing so that is become hate speech ? lol youre fucking out of your mind. women are always doubted and seen as objects, incapable. very recent they have rights and are allowed education and earn their own money, now they are succesful fuck you.

      • Speaking in hyperbole is a sign of a weak mind. No man “ever” points out that threatening to rape women is wrong? Bull. Men defend women ALL THE FRIGGIN’ TIME. It’s actually women who almost never defend men, cos women are usually too busy bashing guys and whining that some man didn’t agree with them or do exactly what they wanted. That’s really a big part of what feminism is all about: women telling men how to be men, and acting like our primary concern should be how our expressions of masculinity affect women. Sorry, we’re not interested in giving your selfish, myopic, illogical hate movement any authority over our lives. You clearly know nothing about men, so stop inaccurately reporting what we do or don’t do.

        • men dont care about women, shut the fuck up, why you think it is recent women had rights ? they were not allowed education before or to earn their own money. shut the fuck up. women are always seen as objects and doubted and incapable in the first place. I know it. ive seen it.

          • It’s hard to be sure what you’re even trying to say, since you can apparently barely talk. When you say women weren’t allowed to do certain things “before,” you should probably mention that “before” means generations ago. For generations, western women have been allowed to do anything they want. Feminists aren’t fighting to ensure that women can do things, they’re fighting to ensure that men and non-feminist women CAN’T do anything without feminist permission. Women and men are both often objectified as sex objects, but men have the added burden of also being objectified as human shields who exist only to protect women. Saying women are “always” seen in the ways you describe is inaccurate and hyperbolic. I will go right on saying whatever I like, since I’m a well-spoken person with valid points to make. Maybe YOU should try taking your own advice and shut the fuck up yourself until you learn how to speak like a human being.

  5. Short version: I’m terribly afraid of men

    And lest anyone claim otherwise, mentally unstable teenage girls have always been the face of feminism.

    This one’s just more upfront about it.

  7. QUOTE: “You have to get fucking baptized in menstrual blood as far as i’m concerned.” This is one sick puppy …. I think she has a bad case of rabies.

    • She hasn’t even been “baptized in menstrual blood” herself, since she doesn’t get a period. If she’s gonna pass out horrid, disgusting advice, the least she could do is follow it herself.

  8. This person is batshit crazy. She was born into the body of a man, after all. Seems like she is over-compensating to prove that she really didn’t become a woman so she could go into women’s washrooms and rape women.

        • You don’t even make sense. Why would anyone be jealous of someone with a bad heart who isn’t comfortable in their own body?

          • You’re absolutely correct Jarvis – Momo is illogical – she’s been brainwashed by a mainstream hate movement into believing is some kind of victim, when in fact she’s just a really confused, misguided and immature individual.

          • how can they be misguided while all they do is TAKE ORDERS TAKE ORDERS from fucking patriarchy because men take them as fucking slaves and give all the best opportunities to men ? huh ?

          • Max isn’t a male….it’s a false screen name. Or it is simple as he enjoys being pushed around and had an overbearing feminist mom who cut off his balls at birth.
            what is it max are you a woman or what? I find it impossible for any anatomically correct male to believe anything the “modern feminist” movement has to offer without being brainwashed from birth. So what is it max….are you a woman or do you just have severe mommy issues?

          • You can stop trolling now. This comment thread abounds with idiots. Don’t be one of them.

        • You don’t even make sense. Why would anyone be jealous of someone with a bad heart who isn’t comfortable in their own body?

        • That’s exactly what this article is, but with women. Yes, things may not be totally equal between men and women, but women like Samantha Allen are creating problems that aren’t even there.

    • “I was born with a penis and a congenital heart defect…” That line right there proves how deeply rooted this person’s misandry is. She lists “penis” next to “heart defect” as if both are equally serious medical problems. In fact, you could argue that she considered the penis to be the more serious threat, since she listed it first.

        • Try to reply to the points actually being made instead of spewing pointless snark with the maturity of a 10 year old. There’s a difference between being “offended” by the genitals you were born with and acting like a penis is as deadly as a heart defect. She acted as though her genitals are more important than her heart.

        • That’s just your opinion Momo – unless, of course, you’ve met and discussed this issue with every transgendered person on the planet – you imbecile!

    • Is there a feminist alive who works for a living instead of playing victim and begging for money?

  10. “I also want to disclose that I come from an upper-class family…” That figures: Spoiled rich kid lecturing the rest of the world on privilege.

    • On HoneyBadgerRadio recently they talked about this. These are the children of helicopter parents that were always told no matter what they did, they were special. They learned to open a door, they were praised. They learned that when they hurt others, it wasn’t really bad, but when others hurt them, it was the worst thing ever. That’s how they get this mentality. It sounds like criminal mindedness to me.

      • But somehow it’s mostly men who are the criminals. According to the actual numbers and not your feels.

        • Momo – please provide official government statistics to back up your claim that mostly men are criminals … otherwise, it’s just hearsay.

        • It’s not mostly men who are criminals, it’s just mostly men who actually get charged for their crimes, and who are given the harshest sentences. Being a woman is virtually a get-out-of-jail-free card. Even when women are actually charged for committing a crime, they are given much more lenient sentences than men who commit the same crime.

        • I have to agree with some of the others on here; your claim is subjective and unsubstantiated. When you make vague claims such as “it is mostly men who are criminals” you open yourself up to all kinds of criticism (and rightfully so). You need to be specific. It is the first rule in debate to make specific claims then back them up with evidence. If you are trying to make a point that, say, rape is a predominantly male crime, or pedophelia, then yes, you are being specific and factual and can back your claims with evidence (I suggest looking into national crime surveys/reports). The objective of making such a statement should also be clear. It stands to reason that not ALL men are rapists and pedophiles simply because most rapists and pedophiles are men so trying to say all men are equally likely to rape or have fantasies about sexual relations with a child is non-factual. But I believe what you were trying to point out is that most (violent) crime is committed by men? This too would be a factually correct statement if basing it off crime stats. But what you are trying to infer with this information is again, another matter. If you are trying to say most men are violent because most violent criminals are men, it is faulty logic.
          Dont get me wrong, I do observe extreme disparities in opportunity and treatment between men and women; yet you HAVE to create credible, factually based and logical arguments in order to carry any weight during debates.
          I can think a rule is unfair, but if I do not stick to the facts regarding WHY a rule is unfair but instead attack the makers of the rule using assumptions, I will get nowhere.
          Sure, it sucks that in 2015 we have to spell out exactly how sexism is still very much a part of modern society. But thats just the reality. I am sure it sucked for Hypatia when she was skinned alive and burned for having the audacity to say the earth wasn’t flat…but if it wasn’t for her scientific contributions to humanity and the very succinct way she formed her arguments and recorded her scientific experiments, it likely would have only ever fallen on deaf ears and her death wouldnt have been mourned or recognized for the tragedy it was, let alone her work celebrated for the genius it stemmed from.
          It sucks, but if we want to coax men (and women) to recognizing their inherent, covert sex bias, we need to formulate solid arguments, preferably in such a way that the recipient doesn’t feel threatened, intimidated or shamed NOT because they deserve special treatment, but because most people are not open to realizing that they are a part of a problem without being made to feel they can also be part of the solution.

      • I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with your asymmetric pain idea. The knowledge that hurting others for the “right” reason is okay, but any hurt or upset you feel is always unacceptable is part and parcel of feminism.

      • As Allen was born a man with “more privilege than the richest woman will ever have”, and not just any man, a white man from an affluent family, I have to wonder what she’s got to be so unhappy about? Perhaps if she hadn’t been messed up by feminist ideologues she might be a much happier and complete person instead of the tormented creature she’s become? Or perhaps you just want to achieve without merit and the best way of doing that is to try and tip the scales in your favour, which is why women like you invent “privilege” to try and damage men.

        • She’s just trolling to get some people fired up. Then she pulls the next steps. Sooner or later she’ll screen-capture some comments. The best bet is to flag and ignore.

          • Oh well, I suppose she’s probably short of male attention. I wonder if there’s ever any cognitive dissonance in her little head between how MRAs engage and debate dissenters whilst feminists shut down any dissent? I doubt it, but there’s always hope. If she hangs around men enough, some of our natural goodness might rub off onto her. 🙂

      • Here is the bottom line SWEET-PEA ….. Men allow and women follow, out of fairness to your bitter misandry we allow you to post your crap on this manly manful man-site and use your voice. The only thing a wo-man can do better than a man is incubate life, otherwise we have you beat in all other areas of life.

        • Wow, I don’t support Momo, but your response is sexist. Feel better about your manhood now?

          • Cathy, you just lumped yourself into the same category as Momo, in your opinion sexist my comment may be … BUT … As men know most women today do not like hearing the truth and when they don’t they often resort to shame tactic’s as you and Momo have, I am proud of who and what I am and extremely happy and full of joy to be a man. REMEMBER: It is better to live on the corner of a roof than to share a house with a nagging woman.

          • No Karl, YOU lumped me with Mom, just now. The part about ‘ men lead, women follow’. And shame tactics? I’m sure you use them too, plus being dismissive. You have revealed your misogyny. I could have respected you more if you wanted an equally fair world for both genders, but you came here to defend your gender against all comers, so there’s no talking to you.

          • “Feel better about your manhood now?”

            Did you just say something about dismissiveness and shame tactics?

    • Hating someone for what they are as opposed to something they did is no different from racism, Nazism, religious fascism, etc. Gender feminists simply don’t understand that you can’t raise one group of people by putting another group down. History has shown us that that never works, but only leads to violence.

  15. Looks like we got our first Nazi member – her name is Momo and, as usual, she’s filled hate and double-speak … enjoy her rambling assumptions.

      • I’m amazed at how smart these young girls think they are. If you do get a chance to find out anything about them, you almost always find that they are students and have no life experience whatsoever. Frankly, I can’t believe there are so many of these numb-skulls out there that are just sooooo ignorant, yet seem to think they are superior to so many other people … people they have never met and don’t even know.
        They really are a very large group of hateful imbicils … who are going to find out the hard way that society has no time for their silly behavior once they leave school and enter the real world.

  17. “being a woman in this world feels like getting buried alive. think about that. think about feeling that every day”
    …So am I the only woman that doesn’t feel like she’s getting buried alive every day…or ever at all?

    • No K – I think the vast majority of women do not feel like they are being buried alive, unless they have made choices that result in them “running” for 16+ hours a day … because they bought into the BS that they could be Super Woman and “have it all”, and now are unable to cope with their life choices.

    • Another way to look at it is this: I know of a woman approximately 35 years of age who came to Canada some 10 years ago and, at the time, she could barely speak English. Just a couple of years ago, she finished a university degree (with honors) while mothering her two children, holding down a full-time, high paying job and being married. To be perfectly honest, I don’t think I could have done that – but that’s just me.

      If Samantha Allen feels “buried alive” it’s because of her own life choices and has absolutely nothing to do with gender. In short, Samantha needs to stop blaming other people for her own life.

      • Thank you so much for making that point! These extreme feminists have to open their eyes and deal with life the way everyone else does instead of sitting around blaming men for their problems. And I would say the same thing if it were men blaming women for their life problems, too, because by now we should be further along in society than whining about petty problems that don’t exist and NOT fixing the problems that do exist.

        • Modern dictatorships use three tools: the military and police are used to intimidate citizens and quell uprisings. The media is used to “distract” citizens away from the problems at home by blaming other countries for all the woes.
          One example is the way middle eastern dictators constantly blame “the west” for all the problems when, in fact, the west has little to do with the vast majority of domestic, everyday Arab issues. Unfortunately for all of us, many middle eastern citizens buy into the “victim complex”, become radicalized and blame the west for everything!
          Sound familiar? The similarities between radical feminism and any modern day dictatorship are actually quite astounding.

          • I’ve just had a wonderful father, wonderful grandfather, and wonderful friends that happen to be males that have never talked down to me. Yes, some men have because I am a women, but if they treat me ill, i don’t even give them the time of day because they don’t matter. But I wouldn’t give another woman the time of day either if she were to treat me ill. People who believe that one sex is better than another are immature, but i do not blame the general population of males for my problems. Those who have that misogynistic attitude are ignorant and I don’t have to associate with them.

        • K Bren, I was just wondering, as a woman, do you speak against feminist extremism cos you think having a vagina means you don’t deserve equality? Because that’s what Bella told me everyone who ever opposes any aspect of feminism thinks, even if they’re women. So as a woman, I think your views on this would be invaluable.

          • Actually i just finished reading those comments. And I thank you for your response to her. As a matter of fact I do not speak against feminist extremism because I think having a vagina means I don’t deserve equality. I speak against it for the exact points you made. It victimizes women, creates problems that do not exist instead of fixing the ones that do, and belittles men instead of uplifting women.

      • I fail to see the point in your story about the mother who was educated and high-earning…this describes me as well (and I was single while raising two children on my own and holding down two jobs to support us while going to school) and I experienced PLENTY of sexism and sexist discrimination along the way. PLENTY. It is a real social issue, as I am sure your “friend” would tell you as well.
        My personal endurance and cognitive capabilities (and what I do with them) has little to do with gender, however, my endurance and cognitive gifts have helped me navigate my way through the overwhelmingly male-dominated fields of Science and Math. Why? Because I know how society expects me to behave. I admit, at times I had to play in to mens’ expectations simply to get through a unit or project. I have had to bite my tongue and let men take credit for MY work numerous times troughout my life just to retain acceptance on a research team. I publish my work under masculine sounding pseudonyms because it generates more attention/appreciation.
        To top it off, I am a physically attractive woman. I have had male colleagues speak down to me and even make comments about my body, to my face, simply because that is the kind of crap men DO. And they get away with it. I was assaulted at school by a professor who solicited me for sex. I made the mistake of reporting him. He didn’t fail me, but I was given a “D” even though I followed the syllabus and provided quality work; it is the only grade I have ever received of its nature in my life.
        Feminism isn’t about “making men feel bad” or “blaming all problems” on them, any more than racial studies asnd advocacy groups for minorities are about blaming all white people for socioeconomic disparities; it is about addressing uncomfortable yet very real social ills.
        I doubt you’re a bad guy. I doubt you think the women in your life deserve less than you do. I doubt you find them less capable or insignificant or think their primary function is to provide you with comfort or pleasure.
        Yet…a lot of social tendencies of men would make one THINK they felt superior to women inherently.
        Even my own husband used to believe biology was a contributing factor/legitimate excuse for oppressive attitudes behavior and didn’t see said attitudes or behaviors as oppressive. One specific example of this would be Victim Blame for rape. I remember telling him about a girl I went to high school with who got gang-raped after blacking out at her brothers’ friends house during a party, and he said, “Well, she shouldn’t have been drinking around a lot of horny teenage boys.” <–almost broke up with him over that comment. It sparked a very long debate and period of detatchment where he had to take a crash course in womens studies to realize just HOW fucked up such an attitude is.
        Maybe you have yet to witness covert sexism and recognize it for what it is…but when you do, it will open your eyes to a whole world of oppression and probably make you want to apologize to every woman in your life who has been living in this predominantly male oriented world.

        • And you think sexism only works one way? You think it’s only women that are discriminated against? Quite frankly, your response above proves one thing to me – feminism is ALL about women and ONLY about women. Feminism has NOTHING to do with equality. Feminism is a supremacy movement – plain and simple.

        • I’ve published work in peer reviewed science jounals, bella you liar. Almost all articles simply have my name as J.A. Jackson. You are a liar bella. I had plently of female colleagues..they never had a problem getting attention for their work. As for the sexual harrasement..ALL university professors are dogs(men and women) the university is the most sexually permissive “work” place in the world. I was sexually harrased by both sexes numerous times. This permissiveness in the University should change. But men and women are the “victim” of this power play at the University.

    • No, you’re not (the only woman that doesn’t feel like she’s getting buried alive everyday)!
      I’m a woman and I just don’t relate. I don’t relate to much feminist propaganda that I witness on the net. I continue to observe, and wonder just what the heck has happened in my native land (USA), and if the schism isn’t due to my being in a foreign country for the last 23 years. But even when I was young, I did not experience the misogyny so often described!

      • 75% of women are not feminists, so I think most women don’t feel “buried alive” constantly. Feminists do a good job of squawking so loudly and constantly that many assume they’re a majority, but they’re nowhere close to that.

        • Feminism is about trying to create equal opportunity between men and women.
          Can you honestly tell your mother, your sister, your daughters, or your wife that you do not believe they are deserving of the exact same rights, treatment and opportunities as you simply because they have a vagina?
          Sure, some femmenazi’s have a skewed idea of what feminism is and hate all men simply for existing (rather than hate the social constructs that create male-dominated and female-oppressed societies) and are militant in their hate campaigns.
          I dont see that here. In fact, this author specifically states she isn’t a feminist; she has no interest in convincing men it is THEIR job to change the way they treat women or even convincing them that there IS a problem with modern society and female subjugation; she simply wants a space where they dont exist and she doesn’t have to go about her life living in an oppressed environment. I don’t blame her….I dont agree with her; I enjoy bringing about social change. But I dont blame her for deciding thats not what she wants to do with her life so she’d rather live in a place where she isn’t subject to discrimination. Its like african americans who don’t want to spend their entire lives trying to change racists or being discriminated against by racists so they just avoid communities where they majority of the population is racist. Doesnt mean they hate all non-black people, they just recognize that in some geographical locations, there are FAR more racists than not.
          And the reality is..most racists don’t consider themselves racist. This has been backed by NUMEROUS studies. Just as most chauvinists dont consider themselves chauvinistic.
          Take your insistence that feminism is “bad”. Really? Women wanting equal opportunity and treatment is “bad”? Why?
          I suspect you wont like the answer if you take a serious look inside and see why such an idea is abhorrent to you.

          • Seriously, what is wrong with you? Your response is way longer than my comment and STILL doesn’t address anything I actually said. It’s like you’re replying to the wrong conversation or something. I realize that, as a feminist, you’re reluctant to address the fact that 75% of women don’t support your movement. After all, feminism is the first “equality movement” to not enjoy majority support from ANYONE, including those it claims to advocate for. The thing is, you didn’t just fail to address it, you went right ahead and responded as if we live in a parallel reality where women actually tend to think feminism is a good thing.
            If most men were to tell their mothers, wives or daughters that they don’t support feminism, most of those women would either shrug or say “neither do I.” Does that mean 75% of women oppose their own equality because they have a vagina? Of course not. It means they don’t think feminism fights for equality. And feminists are to blame for that perception. Not everyone else. MRAs, egalitarians and anti-feminists of every stripe could shout negative things about feminism from the rooftops all the live long day and most people wouldn’t believe us if feminists weren’t constantly proving us right.
            Also, like most SJWs, you speak of racism as though only white people commit it and you speak of sexism as though only men commit it. That’s racist and sexist in and of itself.
            Feminism is bad because it’s not about women getting equal rights (which they’ve had for quite a long time in the west) it’s about perpetuating it’s own existence. It can’t admit that women have progressed because that would reduce the perceived need for feminism. It teaches women to see themselves as perpetual victims, and men as demonic beasts who want only to rape and kill them. In that way, feminism mentally, emotionally and spiritually abuses any woman who is taken in by it. I oppose feminism to fight for the equal rights of men, who are being stripped of due process, having their children stolen or being forced to pay for children that aren’t theirs, and who receive 63% longer prison sentences than women for the same crimes. However, I also oppose feminism because I hate the trauma it’s inflicting on women. More women agree with me than agree with you. Feminism does not HAVE to be the go-to women’s rights movement by default. Women deserve better and so does everyone else. You should be asking YOURSELF how you can support any movement with a history as abhorrent as feminism’s.

          • Jarvis, not trying to troll here but you said
            “Also, like most SJWs, you speak of racism as though only white people commit it and you speak of sexism as though only men commit it. That’s racist and sexist in and of itself.”
            according to the modern feminist doctrine it is impossible for women to be sexist…it is also impossible for anyone who is of color to be racist.
            See the feminist doctrine is not just a hate and supremacist movement…it is a movement directed specifically at white men.
            It is in a word nothing less than a movement to bring down what they perceive as the top “white men” and replace the top with themselves.
            If the feminist had any balls they would just arm themselves and start killing white men wholesale.
            In the end that’s what they ultimately want, dead white men.

          • “Feminism is about trying to create equal opportunity between men and women.”
            Bullshit. It’s about trying to create opportunity for women by restricting and using men.

    • Try marrying a Muslim sometime. Even if your partner isn’t a misogynistic POS, you’ll come across PLNTY who are in his family or social group. It comes with islamic culture, its is fundamentally a part of their religion (despite what they claim, Islam is NOT a liberal religion, I read the Quran myself; it is a work against women). Try being a literal genius and finding out your colleagues regularly discuss what you look like naked and chalk up your indignation at such harassment as being “emotionally unstable and premenstrual” (as one of my best friends is learning at the University where she is a lead neuroscientist). I strongly suspect the women who have not quite figured out that society is horribly oppressive of women (even in the U.S.) are either not very intelligent or highly sheltered.

      • I never said that women were not opressed. I simply disagree with the way many feminists go about trying to fight against it. There are bad men out there and bad women . But what some feminists are trying to do is make all men the enemy and disregard many privileges that we as women DO have. Obviously you are a very intelligent, eloquent woman and I do not doubt that you have experienced discrimination for your sex. So have I. But if feminists want to make a difference then they have to start by not attacking men and talk down about them. After all, that is what some men are doing to women, so it would only create a vicious cycle to do it back to them.

      • bella, you sound bent, get straight lady. Life moves on, with those who arent stuck in reverse thinking.

        Be a better person to all humans, not just the sex you chose is the victim.

  18. Ladies and gentlemen – I am pleased to announce that our larger-than-life feminist favorite Momo (who joined us just yesterday) has been banned from this site. Bye-bye MoMo and take your hate elsewhere!

  19. This is an example of the thing I detest most in most feminist propaganda- hypocrisy.

    The whole “men are hostile and violent and insensitive” accusation – while doing exactly that.

    These attitudes stem from deeper and earlier sources than the long years of repression they describe, I suspect. Daddy issues or something. Something that got in the way of them learning to embrace and develop their own masculine side, and learning to appreciate it in others.

    She assumes men don’t deal with all the same challenges she describes- but they do. Yes, challenge and opposition is part of the masculine character- men do all these things to each other- they just don’t go whining about it. They understand that opposition build character, in the same way pressing against weights builds muscle. It has a beneficial reason for being.

    What I observe is that oppositoon has built her a character (she has strong opinions and firm stance) it’s just not a GOOD character – it has holes, inconsistancies, weak spots in it’s construction because she didn’t develop her intellect in response to challenges, but instead emotion, which always brings one back to hypocrisy and “being that which one hates”.

    • So in other words, she didn’t sweetly surmise why she hates being a woman in our world in such a way that makes men comfortable. I wonder if a slave should have to sweetly explain why they hate being a slave and why they hate living in societies where slavery is a norm and why they hate slave masters (even the nice ones!!)….just a thought. I think she mentioned not giving a shit about how she is received in her response; she isnt out to kindly convince men that they’re generally groomed to be chauvinistic assholes. which any woman with half a brain in modern society recognizes; our globe is catored to those with penises. Numerous studies back this up. Also, she clearly states she is not a part of the feminist movement. So….why do people keep assuming she is a “feminist”? I think femme-phobia is just yet another manifestation of sexism. Most feminists I have ever come across are simply trying to make the world a more equal place, and unfortunately, women are not held in equal esteem across the globe so this is the group people (mostly) focus on. She needed have an objective to feel the way she does.

      • Men have (proportionately) more tendency towards being aggressive.
        Aggressivity and hostility are not the same thing.
        Women can be equally hostile- passively.
        Some people (of both sexes) get the two confused, interpreting aggressivity as hostility, expressing hostility passively…trying to be aggressive, and being violent instead, out of a lack of knowledge and experience in how to master their aggression.
        Yes, there are men out there who are not good at canalizing their aggressive nature constructively, positively… just as there are women with the same problem.
        In my experience, we end up coming into contact most often with those who are about as inept in this area as we ourselves are.

        • Don’t mind him. The Crazy Train rolled through town and he just leaned out the window to wave at us!

  20. I think one of the fundamental things people like Samantha don’t understand is as follows: I don’t dislike Samantha because she is a woman. I dislike Samantha because she is an obnoxious human being!

  23. What is the real reason some men are unable to understand where this woman is coming from? Really, think about the world she, and every woman lives in. Any man who has ever lusted after a teenager (well after he himself is out of his teenage years) and told himself it is “normal biology” or what not, this article is about you. For reasons you are too ignorant to understand. For any man who has EVER objectified a woman, this article is about you, for reasons you are too ignorant to understand. Any man who has ever dismissed a womans feelings to her being “an over sensitive female”, this article is about you, for reasons you are too ignorant to understand. For any man who automatically assumed a woman was less able or less qualified because she has a vagina instead of a penis, this article is about you, for reasons you are too ignorant to understand. For any man who has ever catcalled (or didnt see why this is a problem when other men do it) this article is about you, for reasons you are too ignorant to understand. For any man who never noticed that it took an act of congress to get most insurances to cover BIRTH CONTROL while viagra has been covered by most policies for DECADES, this article is about you for reasons you are too ignorant to understand. Any man who never really thought about traveling restraints due to misogyny, this article is about you. Believe in gender roles? This article is about you. Consider stay-at-home mothering a luxury and not a real job? Count yourself among the men hated in this article. Have you ever judged a woman by her sex appeal? Or not taken a coworker/boss/employee seriously because she is attractive? Yep, this is allllll about you. Ever felt you had a say in a womans choice over aboutrion? YOU You YOU you YOU. She hits a nerve, doesnt she? She hates men. Because men make this world unsafe and frightening for MOST women. ALL countries across the globe are disproportionate in their human rights policies, laws and social norms between the genders. Even in Norway, the most gender-neutral country on the planet, women are still underpaid and underserviced by their male counterparts. The margin is significantly smaller than other countries, but still visible when you look at earned income between genders, pay rates for equal qualifications (etc).
    Sure, there are some really, really f*cked up women out there. NO question about that. But the majority of the time…who is to blame? Usually a man. Take my abusive neighbor who had her kids taken away. She snapped. Why? Single motherhood aint no picnic. The man who made those babies and bailed is 100% equally as responsible for her mental decline as she is, if not more so. But who is in jail? The guy who has been uninvolved and unsupportive in any way, or the one stuck raising three kids by herself because her husband decided her “vagina was too stretched out and she got too fat” (what he actually told my sister) so he hit the road in search of something “younger”. This is ALL too common a problem. Not saying some women aren’t simply f*cked up in their own right without anybody to blame but themselves, but the difference is society doesn’t make examples of them and say their dysfunction is “Normal” and “the way things are supposed to be”. Thats the difference. The minority of men out there who ARENT complete failures as humans (where gender relations are concerned) already know what I am talking about. Maybe they have a daughter who is just starting to hit puberty and they caught their best friend sneaking glances at her ass. Maybe they’re married to a woman who is a literal genius with a PHD in theoretical physics, yet still is spoken down to by her male colleagues and judged on how good she looks naked. Maybe these men spent time in the middle east where they know they could never bring their wives for vacation due to extreme social oppression of females.
    I believe the main reason men are shaming this author is because she refuses to be sweet and charming and brings up some very valid reasons as to why she hates the word she lives in, which makes men uncomfortable. Its kind of like when racist white people are told they make the world a shitty place for people of “color”. Ever witnessed it? The first response is to invalidate, intimidate and shame the minority who dared make them “feel bad”.
    Bring on the hate comments. I am done with you.

  24. I can’t believe they let a hateful sexist pig and proud of it like her wrote numerous men-hating articles on wordpress and tumblr for so long, and she’s still free, writing sickening articles,spreading her hateful lifestyle like cancer and teen pop songs.

    I love freedom of speech, but the way people like her use that freedom makes me question if it truly is a good thing to be used by certain people.

    • “and she’s still free, ”

      What do you expect to happen, for someone to put her in jail?

      Why all the whining?

      As I already said, expose her and hate her back. Don’t bitch and piss and moan about how awful she is.

      • You’re gonna tell the others to… “Hate her back” too Right? I don’t really get your point there, You want me to…stop whining and… hate her back… If I don’t hate her back then I wouldn’t be whining in the first place.

  25. “welcome her to write a followup piece explaining herself and apologizing to men, to boys, and to the women who love them, and hope she comes to realize that feminism is, indeed, a hate movement.—”

    She’s already explained herself. Why don’t you just hate her back?

  26. Great for Samantha! She’s my new hero. You’re all just a bunch of entitled whiners who don’t know how good you have it and want to do everything you can to make sure we women DON’T take it away from you. I was going to give this site a chance until I read the line “feminism is hateful”. After that, I knew I’d be on Samantha’s side. You go, girl!

    • You have been banned because of a serious and direct violation of Comment Policy (trolling). [Ref: 3546]

      Additional remarks:

      Seagull. Don’t look up; you’ll get an eye full of shit.

    • If I said the same things about women as a group, or muslims, or blacks…I would be a supremacist. But because it is said about men, it’s OK? bellaboone i bet you don’t have a boyfriend or husband and if you do…the “man” who has the unfortunate task of being you significant other is a mike-toast with mommy issues.

  29. No wonder men treat her like crap, she’s a fucking cunt.

    She’s got a chip on her shoulder the size of Mt. Everest, and is determined to make the whole world as miserable and fucking irritating as her.

    • Calling a woman i C*nt is pure mysogyny at it’s best….thanks for proving the article to be accurate…douchebag!

      • if it is pure misogyny(learn to spell please) at best…what is it at worst..world poverty…world starvation…wow the C word really gets you women worked up. it is just the same word as calling a male a d!ck. But you women have taken that word to a new high religious standard. the female reaction to the C word is very analogous to the muslim reaction to a picture of mohamed. both are at the very center of your respective religions and both are held up as religious artifacts.
        All bow down before the vagina, and worship. and if you call it a C3nt we’ll declare a jihad on you.

        • Watch out! The moderator will ban you if you say anything mildly offensive even though this whole article is offensive.

      • But “douchebag” and the plethora of other insults you’ve tossed at men in other threads is legit? Get a grip on your double standards and sense of entitlement if you expect normal thinking people to take you seriously.

  30. Your ignorance is staggering. Since your email implies you like books, may I suggest you read s few books written by Erin Pizzey and Warren Farrell. You might actually discover the difference between what feminism is, and what feminism says it is. Until then, take your Gender Studies 101 intellect elsewhere.

    • Ban me too please. No reason to participate in a conversation that is actively moderated to prevent discussion on a topic.

      Ban me entirely from this site. I want nothing to do with it.

  33. This is beautiful. “I hate men because men hate me and the burden to take the high road should not fall on my shoulders.” Yes, a thousand times, yes.

    If you consider this the epitome of misandry, then that speaks volumes. There is no appeal to gender essentialism here, none of the appeals to the opposite sex’s innate inferiority that we see in misogynist rhetoric. Just an honest declaration of hurt, and a loss of faith in the goodness of those who do or condone the hurting.

    Bye.

    • So even a woman’s hate is superior to that of a man….perfect hypocrisy and typical feminist bullsh!t. All you feminists can go F yourselves.

  34. Wow someone is obviously jealous of men.. Go les out then you dumb bimbo if you hate men so much, no on cares about you’re ignorant opinion!

    • A perfect example of a rude man being himself calling a woman a bimbo simply because she doesn’t like men….wow you’re so mature….loser…why you on here trolling? Go away dickbag!!!

      • LOL.. Look at the article.. It’s called “why I hate men”, and it’s written based off of hate and ignorance and doesn’t contribute to anything as far as im concerned. Writing this dumb ass article isn’t going to help advance women in society. Yes, I may be trolling slightly, but the article is written based off of jealousy, immaturity, and discriminates against my sex, and I feel that I have a right to voice my opinion like all the other comments that say similar stuff to what I said . You’re entitled to your opinion too, so go ahead and call me whatever you want, it just makes you look as mature as the woman who wrote this hateful article. People that have opinions like this woman, should keep them to themselves because the only purpose of this article is to spread hate and that’s flat out wrong. It’s almost as bad a white person writing an article about how they hate black people.

          • Wow really?.. Was it really necessary to ban me? youre not a very good moderator because that last post wasn’t even meant to troll, I was voicing my opinion. Also, most of the people you ban are hardly even trolling. Maybe you should ban yourself for abusing your moderator powers and this article for being ignorant and hateful.

          • I guess on this website I’m not entitled to my own opinion, and have no freedom of speech. The only person I called a bad name to, was the person who wrote the article. I didn’t say anything bad to other people commenting on it.

        • She’s an instigator. Take nothing she says seriously. None of it. Troll is as troll does, and she fits the bill.

      • A perfect example of a rude man being himself calling a woman a bimbo
        simply because she doesn’t like men….wow you’re so mature….loser..

        Let’s get one thing absolutely clear. This trangendered woman, is a bigot. Don’t be shocked that people react with revulsion and disgust with bigots, just because the bigotry is directed at males. She carries this bigotry on at her job. Imagine being her boss, or worse, her employee, and being male.

        She may as well be screaming about how much she hates black people and why Jews are the problem with everything in the world today. It’s just that she can get away with this kind of childish behavior, at the moment. I, for one, would never allow her to work in any company I own simply because when you build a team, you need to get them to work together and there’s simply no place for gender identity politics BS there.

        • You have got to be kidding me. So what if she hates men. There are tons of people that hate a lot of people. There are reasons for her hatred. It’s not like she woke up and said “hey, I think I’ll hate men today.” There are reasons behind this so do us all a favor and stop crying about it with your male privilege. Women can hate men as much as they hate us and they do. So shut up about it and stop trying to control her mind by calling her a bigot and trying to shame her.

          • You have got to be kidding me. So what if she hates men. There are tons of people that hate a lot of people.

            I am an employer. As both a liability issue, and a productivity issue, I simply wouldn’t hire somebody like her. I wouldn’t hire a KKK member that couldn’t keep their mouth shut about it, I wouldn’t hire an atheist that expressed their hatred of religious people. I wouldn’t hire an outspoken misandrist, or misogynist.

            I’m only pointing out that this woman is a liability for any company, because she’s a bigot. This woman, when a white male was hired for a position within the company she worked for, thinks the ONLY reason it was a white male who was hired was because he was a white heterosexual male. The concept that he was hired because he was the most qualified isn’t something she even considered possible.

            This means, she would preferentially hire a person with attributes entirely unrelated to their job performance over a more qualified candidate. That’s reason for dismissal because that’s incompetence. I would never place this woman in a position to dictate hiring policy and not because of reprisals from the government, but because it would hurt the team and place them at a competitive disadvantage.

            There are reasons for her hatred. It’s not like she woke up and said “hey, I think I’ll hate men today.”

            There are no good reasons to write off an entire group of people based on individual people. Just like there is no good reason to be a racist.

            There are reasons behind this so do us all a favor and stop crying about it with your male privilege.

            What male privilege is this exactly?

            I always ask feminists what rights and privileges do men enjoy under the law that women do not? Name them.

            I never get a response. Feminism, or really women’s rights, achieved it’s goals 40 years ago. What the movement has become today is basically a hate group who blame all their personal set backs on an imaginary social problem that they cannot demonstrate actually exists.

            Women can hate men as much as they hate us and they do.

            Go see a psychiatrist. You have a persecution complex that doesn’t conform with reality. That’s a liability for your mental well being.

            So shut up about it and stop trying to control her mind by calling her a bigot and trying to shame her.

            I don’t expect to have any control over her.

            I’m pointing out she’s a bigot, because she is. That has real world ramifications. I”m genuinely surprised anybody would hire her.

            I live and work in one of the most diverse areas in the country. I work in Silicon Valley. Colleagues of mine include homosexuals, transsexuals, Indians, Jews, Christians, atheists, Hindus, Muslims, heterosexuals, men, women, Jains, blacks, whites, drug users, republicans, hetereosexuals, libertarians, marxists (I know that’s a strange one in a capitalist area like this), liberals, a straight cross dresser, and supposedly rumored even a furry.

            The president of my company is Indian, the current person I report to, is female, my business partner is gay. I am not tolerant of them, I’m indifferent to anything other than their ability to work.

            Nobody cares provided you can get your job done and not interfere with other people getting their job done. Nobody cares in my area what you are.

            That’s why we kick butt.

            We’re scientists and engineers though. Reason and logic are part of our job. We leave our prejudices, and our diversity, at the door when we go into work. You have to.

            I’ve worked for companies that actively discriminated against people. You know where they are after a few years? They’re bankrupt because when you pull talent from a smaller talent pool, you’re a competitive disadvantage.

            It turns out, the great equalizer, is greed. If you’re more concerned about generating conflict, nobody wants to work with you. That’s a reasonable position to take.

  35. Seth I was abused as well, feminism is simply a religion of pure hate and supremacy.
    The feminists would like to make all men slaves.
    A person I knew had a wife who was a feminist…she screwed around with him every chance she got with literally hundreds of other men…she had him working two jobs and ran up almost $100000 of credit cards flying in her lovers from other cities, and when he divorced her…she took custody of his kid and indoctrinated the kid completely against him…the kid won’t even talk to him on the phone now.
    This is the typical fascist feminist.

  36. this Samuel Allen is one messed up individual. Grew up with so much self loathing and condemnation from his overbearing mother, that he grew to hate his penis. So he had the damn thing whacked off(and not in a fun way). Then realizes that men will never take an abomination of human form like himherself, so decides to go on a crusade to force all other men to feel as if they made the same unhuman decision heshe did. Spreads the hate everywhere shehe can. He’s lucky he don’t live in my town…or i’d go over there and give the little fancy boy a good sh!tkicking.

  37. Samuel allen is not a woman…its a cornered little wounded abomination of nature. No wonder it spews out hate.

  38. one final thing you feminists…it is called “personal responsibility” google it, as I am sure none of you feminists have a faintest idea what it means. crybabies. Can you imagine where technology, science and medicine would be today…if it were a bunch of feminists left to do the job, instead of hard working accountable women and men.

    • All they would do is whine about how unfair everything is. They should try living in 3rd world countries and then they can bitch about it being unfair.

      • there is a need for more male-female equality in third world countries. you don’t see feminists in the countries they could do the most good(if any good could come out of their movement) however the men in these countries dont take this crap, and would burn them alive if they tried to mouth their hated in the third world. modern feminism is not about social change…it’s about soothing the butt hurt of the biggest bitches in the entire world. they wonder why they cant get a husband(a real one…not some strawman husband…who is her slave)…
        And they wonder why I don’t call them for a second date?

        • Not only that, but spreading ignorance and hate like this isn’t taking human beings on a path to world peace. It only adds to all the hatred that already exists in this world. Yes, woman do not recieve the same benefits that men do but that doesn’t make all men bad. The moron that wrote this article sounds like a jealous crybaby who loathes men because she was treated unfairly at some point in her life. this bitch needs to learn to brush it off and get on with her stupid life like everyone else does because everyone is treated unfairly at some point in their lives.

  39. Your speech, and the speech of your movement sounds great and all…yet when I examine the actions of said movement and the consequences it inflicts on the undeserving, I see grossly incongruent outcomes. Be careful what you align yourself with. Think for yourself, and decide for yourself. You’re single mindedness is painful to witness.

  40. I hope she doesn’t apologize for writing this. I can’t get behind it, because it isn’t a very good feminist stance (as she basically admits), i.e. if the point is to be free from male oppression, giving in to intense amounts of hate for it seems to be incompatible with that goal. But I respect this viewpoint, because it shows a lack of respect for male privilege and it gets to the heart of the problem unlike equality feminism.