TFI: Fear the men who fear!

Tonight on Tales from the Infrared: Fear the men who fear!

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Show topics tonight: Good news on domestic violence research from professor Don Dutton, good news on boys in education, new A Voice for Boys site, Richmond Virginia newscaster Mark Holmberg takes a chance, feminist attacks against Warren Farrell rebuffed, latest Walking Dead game review, castration in comics featuring Habibi by Craig Thompson, movie reviewer Michael Calleri wants us to fear reactionary men who fear strong women, tropebusting: patriarchy and matriarchy in fiction, over 9000 pen*ses! and Oprah Winfrey, Gangnam Style, Know your Meme, reproductive freedom for men and refusing to understand John the Other. Also, ministry of fear alert: terrifying man molests cats!

Ministry of Fear alert: spaceman molests cat!

Vancouver Sun, Professor Don Dutton, and Domestic Violence:

The Globe & Mail: celebrate boys

A Voice for Boys:

Mark Holmberg, Richmond Virginia Newscaster notes men lack reproductive freedom:

WARREN FARRELL PUSHBACK (we do not endorse all views expressed in these links) (opinions expresssed are the author’s, not our own, the information in the beginning of the article is good.)

Walking Dead by Telltale Games

Castration in comics: Habibi

Fear the men who fear: Michael Calleri and the Chicago Sun Times

Tropebusting: Matriarchies in gaming and SciFi & Fantasy

Gangnam Style

JTO – Reproductive rights – Response to Friendough


How we feel the “Over 9000 penises” nonsense illustrates pernicious demonization of male sexuality:


Additional Credits:

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SHOW LOGO: Roger O. Thornhill

“Penis” by Mykeru Media



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About Dean Esmay

Dean Esmay has written for Huffington Post, Thought Catalog, The Moderate Voice, Honey Badger Brigade, and A Voice for Men. He is a writer and podcaster with Erin Pizzey on domestic violence, Mumia Ali on race issues, and various shows on geek culture. He encourages people to look at issues through the lens of compassion for men who deserve it, and respect for women who deserve it. He is the author of the critically-acclaimed novel Methuselah's Daughter.

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  • Iron John

    Sounds interesting. I want to hear more about the, “A Voice for Boys” website. As we have noted for years in the MRM, boys are often considered by feminists to be their greatest threat as they have already conditioned the current generation of adult males to their liking. In the twisted mind of the feminist, boys represent future oppressors and must be re-educated out of their naturally evil tendencies. Some feminists will go so far as to try and mentally damage those boys they cannot, “neuter”. This madness has spread all over the western world and it has to stop. Many of us in the MRM grew up at the hands of these feminist teachers, parents, community leaders, sport coaches, and other people masquerading as responsible adults. We still feel the damage they inflicted on us as boys and we know they haven’t stopped either. With that in mind lets make sure that boys in the future are not left alone to be hobbled by these monsters.

  • Sting Chameleon

    The whole Callieri/Parlato thing is nothing but a poo-slinging fest from both a mangina and a moronic shithead. No wonder he got roasted. What irks me is that some ignorant people conflate the likes of him with MRAs and their message.

  • Aimee McGee

    Contented sigh…weekly fix of men with cats…


    Must stop objectifying cats

    • Factory

      Cat porn? Is that a thing?

      • Aimee McGee


        Now that would be telling…

        I must say I enjoy a man who enjoys pussy (cats – you filthy minded MRAs)

        But then, it was a cat who was responsible for me getting together with my beloved

        • Shrek6

          Did you know that cats make great steering wheel covers for your car, or even very comfy Moccasins

          Just sayin, ya know!

          • Ex Machina

            If you’re a thrifty,and craft-minded man,as I am,with a little crazy glue you can surprise the hell out of passengers and pedestrians who thought that cat sticking to the inside of your window was one of those Garfield dolls with suction cups on its feet.

            I kid. I got a mean old tomcat myself who chases stray dogs away from the garbage. If anyone really “has” a cat.

          • Aimee McGee

            My cat (the fella here) is currently being a hot water bottle, very good one I might add.

      • 4thtroika

        Rule 34.

    • Dean Esmay

      I’m reporting you for kitty porn…

    • TheBiboSez

      Hey, I’m a sexy man with cats, so STOP OBJECTIFYING ME, too!

      • Aimee McGee


        See…wearing sunglasses so ya can’t tell if I’m ogling you or your cat!

  • Factory

    You MRAs are a bunch of layabout do-nothings….sitting in your mother’s basement smoking the devil-weed and fornicating to your pornography!

    Why don’t you do something useful, like bring attention to mens issues, and boys? Why not set up an infrastructure that others can use to expand on the work already done? I mean, it’s not like you’re actually doing anything with your budget of millions, and all your political support.

    And for God’s sake, stop kicking puppies….it makes you look bad, and no one will take you seriously.

    • The Real Peterman

      I don’t fornicate to pornography! Shows what you know!

  • Skeptic

    Great to see the “A Voice For Boys” Website has been initiated.
    I look forward to it’s growth as ANOTHER part of aVFM’s reach.

    • Bev

      Aussie viral video, ‘Dumb Ways to Die’, lives on

      Is there some thing we can do with a take off from this viral Video? Maybe there is someone in our ranks who can. It is certainly a hit with the young. It would have to be light hearted but hard hitting perhaps. I am no expert but it could be a way to get the message out to boys.

      Australia’s fastest-spreading viral video, “Dumb Ways to Die”, has taken on a life of its own, inspiring more than 65 cover versions, 85 parodies and 170 re-posts on YouTube.
      The original clip, made to promote safety on Melbourne Metro Trains, has amassed more than 28 million views on YouTube since it was posted on November 14.

  • andybob

    “A Voice for Boys” looks like a professional and accessible site perfectly tailored to help our embattled younger selves. Let’s make it the go-to resource to help them stand their ground and better understand their predicament.

    I made a donation on behalf of my nephew. He’ll be getting a link for Christmas. Hope those who can, do the same. What is the ultimate point of our fight if not to pave the way for our future – and boys are it?

    • scatmaster

      andybob: you just game me an idea.
      I was wondering how I was going to broach the subject of mens rights with my son especially at this time in his life when he just thinking with his dick. I would like to think there are other processes going on in his brain but perhaps he will give this link a look see. One can only hope.

    • Skeptic

      That’s a beautiful thing you’ve done there AndyBob – Goodonya!

  • Turbo

    Dean first mentioned “A Voice for Boys” in his Monday morning round-up on Nov 19th. It really does look to be a good website from what I have seen so far.

    • Dean Esmay

      I forgot to do one this Monday. Which would have been good after the 4 day weekend most Americans had. Oh well.

      • Turbo

        Ah yes, I remember thinking to myself on Monday morning

        “This free beer is not really cold enough”

        but could not quite figure out why. :-) :-)

  • ivy7om

    I couldn’t even finish that Calleri garbage. Weigh how much of that article is actually about the issues and how much of it is just him talking about himself.

  • Dr. F


    I missed this one and will download it for iPod hoots.

    No doubt it was a cracker and went smooth as a bub’s bum.

  • Sting Chameleon

    I don’t know what exactly to make of this:

    • Dean Esmay

      All I can think is “[sigh] It’s everywhere.”

  • napocapo69

    thank you, really a great show!

  • Booyah

    A voice for boys is badly needed and a great idea. Show was great this week. Keep up the good work.