Living the single life does not come without a downside, but as Doug Mortimer suggests the worst-case scenario for bachelorhood may be no match for the dramas of its wedlock counterpart.
Dan Perrins recently sounded a warning on the pages of AVfM that if lawyers, social workers, vindictive exes, or any other people lie about men in court, he would expose their lies. Which brings him to the behaviour of Brantford lawyer David Maltby.
AVfM welcomes 17 year old Josh O’Brien, who has already figured out that the “Patriarchy” myth of privileging men over women is, well, a myth. When youngsters are already figuring it out for themselves, we have hope that this hateful notion will die within our lifetimes.
Some men walk through life resigned to what society and the womenfolk expect of them, while thinking little about the meaning of their own life. Clint Carpentier pauses to reflect on his and other men’s often-unrecognized contributions to the world
Public discussion about boys often focuses on their shared flaws and the need to shame them into conformity. Author Rosalind Wiseman recently took a more compassionate approach by sitting down with 200 boys and actually listening to what they had to say – she recommends we do the same.
From the pages of the a British publication, we are telegraphed another reminder that in most ways that count, we simply don’t exist. Not as men, as fathers, or even as taxpayers it seems. Andy Thomas offers a brief note on the latest insult delivered to men everywhere.
Paul Elam resurrects an old article as a contribution to Domestic Violence Awareness Month. It is offered here in the hopes that readers will help raise awareness by passing it on to other venues where it may shed some light on the problem.
When human beings are brutalized in a society which lacks a legal framework for redress, a population will develop alternative forms of redress. Retributive violence is, in my opinion, a very bad option – to be avoided – but it is a probable outcome of the dysfunction and abrogation of legal and political redress of grievance.
But I am also tired. I am an older man and have witnessed this silent, ignored tragedy for far too long. I am sick and tired of the heartbreak of daily emails from broke, abused, powerless people pleading for any kind of help they can get against a system that has lost all sense of justice and every last bit of justification for its own existence.
I feel it is important to start sharing my story in order to shed light on the women who are not held accountable for the mental and/or physical destruction they inflict upon their children. My mother’s anti-male brainwashing, albeit uncontrived in the sense that she wasn’t smart enough to be intentionally devious, was unprecedented. And for what? To have a lifetime of emotional control over her sons?
Social commentators continue to regurgitate the popular message that men are failures for opting out of marriage version 2.0 – where women (but not men) can exit at any time, retaining their partner’s income while disposing of his person. This message coupled with various imperatives to man up and be the cash, labour and sperm dispenser that would make a Victorian era patriarch proud. The nearly universal message that any male self actualization not of utility to a woman is shameful.
We are the ones putting an end to oppressive gender roles. So I suggest that is what we let them know, and that we point out to them exactly why they are nothing more than a continuation of the old paradigm, enforced with shame and bullets.