Women's Violence

Stop women’s violence

When will the domestic violence industry recognize women who batter men?  According to the U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services and Bureau of Justice statistics, more kids are killed by neglect and abuse in a year (1,460 in 2005), than all the female intimate partner homicides in a year (1,181 in 2005).

Mothers are the single largest group of kid killers. They have a rate twice that of fathers, yet the taxpayer funded (gender feminist run) domestic violence industry would have us believe that women don’t egregiously batter men too. They’re lying!

As shown by HHS statistics, the age range for child homicides is about ten times narrower than that for female intimate partner homicides, making that rate of child homicide far more concentrated.  Yet funding to prevent those child homicides is minimal compared to the billions that go to the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).

Vice President Biden has called the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) “his baby,” but Biden should be ashamed, not proud, of his misandric piece of gender feminist, legislation, which excuses and rewards women’s domestic violence against men, thereby fueling more domestic violence against men by women.

Credible research overwhelmingly shows that the ratio of domestic violence is at least 50/50 between women & men. According to one study by researchers who work at the CDC, in 70 percent of domestic violence incidents, where the domestic violence is not mutual, it’s women who initiate the domestic violence.

V.P. Biden recently called violence against women, “the very worst abuse.” The very worst abuse is valuing one life less than another for having been born the wrong sex, or the wrong age. Under Biden’s Violence Against Women Act the wrong sex is men and the wrong age group is children. Shelter and services are virtually non-existent for male victims of domestic violence (as well as men and their children) so options out of a bad relationship, that are routinely available to women, are very often not available to men.  Men wind up gender profiled and often falsely accused by the taxpayer funded, domestic violence industry, because of gender feminist ideology controlling the domestic violence industry.  Men are often battered by domestic violence, then battered again by the taxpayer funded, domestic violence industry.

The taxpayer funded domestic violence industry has largely mischaracterized the true nature of domestic violence from the beginning of VAWA and continues to mislead the public. Domestic violence law, following the gender feminist agenda (ideology) over facts in evidence, does great harm to many innocent men and children, (also many battering women who need help).

  • Keyster

    The bottom line that keeps the status quo is that a violent woman cannot inflict “equal” damage as compared to a violent man.
    When a woman hits, its cute.
    When a man hits, one blow could kill.

    It’s damage POTENTIAL of man, that they’re trying to mitigate and neutralize through government fiat. This is why men are targeted and women get away with it. That’s
    the unspoken rational, that must be overcome.

    It’s all about government meddling in our lives.
    It’s all about giving women more power and control over men.

    • Tom M

      And many studies are showing not only that women commit more child abuse/murders, more dating and partner violence, but that women injure men more, yet the DV coalitions “educate those who gather stats and tell them to ignore and change these facts in their reporting. And most bite that bait. I’ve seen two ER studies and also the Doctoral study by Dr. Sommer (http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm) showing that it is women who injure men more and worse and use 3X times more weapons to attack men, NOT the other way around.

      The main majority indicator of women’s potential to be injured or murdered because of DV is the women OWN violence, women initiating the attacks, yet still no concern by the media, even for this main cause of DV injury and death to women.

      The media could single handedly use just that one fact to start a campaign to help only women since that is all they “care” about. But the media does NOT really care about women or they would save them with truth.

      It’s all about supremacy, abuse and using those extra injuries and deaths which Femifacists themselves orchestrate and direct to gain more parasitic hysteria power, monetary power and political power over men and society as a whole.

    • Adam

      http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1392113/Aspiring-rapper-John-Powell-killed-Tiffany-Startzs-single-punch-5-party-bet.html

      I’ll just put it out there that women do one hit kill punches, wait for the haemorrhage to kick in!

  • Tom M

    Contribute at the Alter of Female Worship:
    [img]http://avoiceformen.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/30450-250×228-Christfree2.jpg[/img]
    THE CULT CAN’T THRIVE WITHOUT YOUR HELP!

  • Tom M

    Contribute at the Alter of Female Worship:
    [img]http://avoiceformen.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/collection%20plate.jpg[/img]
    THE Feminist KKKULT CAN’T THRIVE WITHOUT YOU!

    • Tom M

      The picture that wouldn’t upload is a collection plate being handed to YOU (to fund your own demise via DV industry fraud).

  • Kevin New York

    “Men are often battered by the taxpayer funded, domestic violence industry.”

    So true! I have been saddled by an ex-girlfriend with a TEMPORARY restraining order that has been continued for over a year. (That is actually the equivalent of a one year PERMANENT restraining order, but since there still hasn’t been a trial, they just keep on renewing it and calling it “temporary.”) There must be some kind of violation of due process here.

    In the last year, I have been to Family Court 10 times, have spent an inordinate amount of my time compiling documentation and notes to repel the false allegations, and have had a dozen meetings with my own lawyers.

    She, of course, is represented for free by the multi-million dollar mens hate group called Sanctuary For Families, previously known as the Battered Women’s Center.

    The only one being battered is me, as I have lost so much of my life this year to this outrage. One lawyer told me early on, “Just agree to the DV charge the first time you’re here, stay away for a year, and you won’t have to come back to Family Court.” I said, “Absolutely not! I haven’t done anything wrong. I want a trial.” He said, “It doesn’t matter that you haven’t done anything wrong. She just has to “feel” you did, and you will be found guilty of a family offense.”

    There are two trial dates scheduled for July, and I can’t help but sense that it’s all been for nothing, that reason and sensibility will not prevail. At the same time, it would be a travesty if, after all I invested, I were to walk away from it now.

    Nothing quite like having the choice of “damned if you do, damned if you don’t.”

    • Tom M

      “There must be some kind of violation of due process here.”

      Why should they worry about violation of ANYHING, in a Marxist system?

      “Sanctuary for Families,” a nice front/cover name for just the opposite.

      Feminism is merely a tool, of Marxism. Women are dying to have more “protection” from “violent” men. IOW, women regularly give their lives for the cause (see my comments on Divorce Murder below)

      If it were me I would not agree to ANY false charges, esp not reduced false charges – admitting to twisted charges is when the real nightmare starts: But you’re REALY damned if you DO! Good money after bad…

      I’ve told many men in this situation what I would do If I were put in their situations (not legal advice) – the many INNOCENT men run through false allegations in criminal court, even without attorneys in one case. They just insisted on their actual innocence and 90% of the time they drop the charges the day of trial, even the day of jury trial, which their attorneys told them they had a poor chance of winning despite NO proof…

      One guy did not take the advice and DID sign to lesser charges to which they told him would not affect his teaching career and would be off his record in a year or two. He got hit worst, lost his teaching job, is banned from that and most other jobs now, and can’t get the charges off his record still, 5 years later… SHE was the sole abuser with lots of proof of her abuse which they ignored and continue to ignore, but actually help her commit – that’s the norm.

      A scam is a scam is a scam…

      • Kevin New York

        You are right about the “cover” name- Sanctuary For Families. In their own literature, they refer to providing services for families- “women and children.” So, families don’t include fathers?! Not as far as they are concerned!
        The only “good” thing about this is that it’s only a family offense; not a criminal offense. Which, these days, is a badge of honor. If you don’t have a family offense against you by now, you’re not trying hard enough…lol.

        • Tom M

          Well, you may already be on the abuser registry for only being accused anyway… Don’t admit to what you never did.

          Feminist indoctrination teaches that if you deny you abused her then THAT is proof you are an abuser. But that’s feminazi logic.

        • Mr. J

          Its like calling an abortion mill a “Women’s Health Center”, I’m sure.

  • Tom M

    Women are the MINORITY DV VICTIMS, so why all the hysteria and help for ONLY WOMEN?

    Why Not a “1 in 6 DV VICTIMS” Campaign?

    This is in response to all the chivalrists out there who only want to say that “men CAN be abused,” some having campaigns like “1 in 3 DV victims are male!” to shock the world.

    So, let’s really figure out the truth of these matters. Who in the family is really abusing and being abused, and at what rate, really? Let’s figure that the amount of child abuse is about the same as the amount of partner abuse (though I’m pretty sure that child abuse is higher – which would logically shift this to a “1 in 7 DV Victims campaign”).

    Looking at many prominent balanced and scientific studies we find that women abuse men at a ratio of about 2:1. And, women abuse their children in ratio of about 2:1 compared to the child abuse rate by fathers.

    Add up those two sets of 2:1 (3 units of abuse per ratio X2) and you get a sum of 6 units of abuse: Women make up 4 of those perpetrator units (GASP!) while men = 2 units.

    But wait, let’s also look even closer at how the same stacks up for who is the most common victim: Children make up 3 of the units being abused above while men make up 2 abused units, while ONLY ONE UNIT OF WOMEN is being abused (GASP!!!). That is: men are abusing women and children at 1 unit each while women are abusing men & children at 2 units toward each. Thus:

    1 in 6 DV family DV victims ARE women!

    Do we see the NFI, Sacks or SAVE taking this truth to the public or politicians they work with? Or do they dump too much blame onto men so they don’t look bad? I’d say so.

    Shocked!? More shock yet, for those who can handle truth: The above 1 in 6 only speaks of males and does not account for fathers being the sole child abuser only 18% of the time, once boyfriends, step dads and the far higher rate of abuse by moms are tallied up.

    Another interesting tidbit, IF you can actually stomach reality (truth, again): Fathers abuse their children even less compared to the boyfriend of the week (but single and divorced moms top them too!) plus stepdads likewise have a higher partner and child abuse rate than do the natural fathers (but not as high as mothers!). It is Fathers who have a stake in and greatest interest in protecting their own children and keeping peace in the home. Fathers are the most protective family member, unlike mothers.

    So, why not a 1 in 6 DV campaign for women? Yes, remember the more likely 1 in 7 figure from earlier, and why? But the additional kicker next which even most MRA’s are blind to, or at least forget to factor in here, is the fact that in all those DV studies showing women as both primary child abuse and primary partner abuse perpetrators, a whole flood of extra and invisible abuse is not included in ANY of all those best studies: False abuse allegations (abuse!) in divorce: 3 in 4 divorced fathers had false abuse allegations made against them, plus all the additional abuses accompanying that, including automatic parental alienation child and father abuse.

    This may drop that 1 in 7 figure to perhaps 1 in 10 family DV victims are women when compared to fathers… Fathers are still the very safest for kids!

    Deeper and deeper we fall down the rabbit hole of the DV/Rape industry…

  • Ray

    “The bottom line that keeps the status quo is that a violent woman cannot inflict ‘equal’ damage as compared to a violent man.”

    But from time immemorial, women have used weapons, poison and third parties to “level the playing field” as shown in this 19th century engraving of an ancient women’s violence – Salome’ with the head of John the Baptist.
    http://tinyurl.com/4468bot

    • Tom M

      True, true! Women do use weapons, poison and others to do their dirty work PLUS they get the pussy pass to lower their real figures.

      The other truth here is that DV deaths of men have actually lowered. some say this is because women have ZERO excuse now to kill their husbands for abusing the – women have refuge against those worst of all male abusers. But it may not be just that simple.

      The 3rd truth here: the majority of DV deaths to women today are integrally tied to abusive women (who abuse till they are murdered) who in most cases have made false abuse allegations and got the RO or PO against the father of their children (yes, this is mostly dads – pay attention in the media – the RO, the PO, they tell just enough of the puzzle for you to complete it). Remember that 3 out of four divorced dads have an RO or PO slapped on him with false allegations.

      The false allegations are when all the other abuse naturally and additionally kicks in: legal abuse, slavery, robbery, ransoming the kids, torturing the kids, torturing the dad, parental alienation child and dad abuse… You can’t separate or stop ANY of that flood of abuse once its foundation is solidly laid: false abuse allegations.

      IOW, the abuse naturally attached to and following false abuse allegations (3 in 4 divorced fathers) becomes runaway abuse, so severe and nonstop. Yet the fathers find they can’t get ANY HELP to stop her abuse, but find that the abuse “HELP” system is actually helping her commit all of that extra naturally attached abuse as well. Some few of these male victims (maybe one in 500 to 1000 being abused like this) can not see or find any other way to stop her abuse than to “stop her” themselves, literally.

      Yes, these are premeditated murders, all of them, ON THE PART OF THE SYSTEM, where the true serial murderers are never stopped from killing again and again, or at least orchestrating the ongoing flow of those murders nonstop.

      Can you believe the audacity of many of our own “top MRA’s” who attack only the victimized fathers for this while completely excusing and ignoring the real cause and driving forces behind the majority of divorce murders of women?

  • Ray

    “The main majority indicator of women’s potential to be injured or murdered because of DV is the women OWN violence, women initiating the attacks, yet still no concern by the media, even for this main cause of DV injury and death to women.

    The media could single handedly use just that one fact to start a campaign to help only women since that is all they “care” about.”

    But that would infantilize all women, tacitly admitting they can’t be a man’s equal in a discussion, and that they (women) must resort to violent hostility to prevail. What’s the next step in the equation, arrest men for merely disagreeing with a woman? Besides if violence against women suddenly stopped the taxpayer funded d.v. industry would have thousands of unemployed gender feminist with nothing to do. Perpetuating domestic violence against women is something the taxpayer funded d.v. industry has a vested interest in.

    • Tom M

      The femifascists and their media WANT to keep encouraging /orchestrating as many DV injuries and deaths of women as they can manage to orchestrate. THAT is their fuel for more hysteria and agitprop, thus more funding and more power.

      That’s the real abuse wheel! It’s all about cult sacrifice, again… (Draw us one of those, Eff’d!)

      • Tom M

        The bread and butter of the DV/Rape industry IS false allegations, which fills up their plate (dominates their schedule).

  • Tom M

    Sorry to interject here, but a small couple of corrections to that CDC study referred to in the article. That CDC study showed:

    The sole DV perpetrators were women 71% of the time
    The sole DV perpetrators were men 29% of the time.

    That is SOLE-PERPS, NOT where “…it’s women who INITIATE the domestic violence.” (Caps added by me.)

    (NOTE: That revealing study was ironically conducted by an anti-male govt dept – CDC which promptly revised their surveying questions later so they would not reconfirm the ugly naked truth of DV by women so clearly again.)

    IMPORTANT: That same CDC study also showed that most injuries to women come from the mutual abuse arena (half of all partner violecne) which IS IN FACT EXACTLY where WOMEN mostly INITIATE the attacks, often over and over, which eventually then become that additional vast pool of mutual partner violence once the male finally responds to all her ongoing abuse in kind or in self defense. Even Dr. Murray Strauss has commented on that phenomenon and confirmed it from all the studies he’s done and studies which he has reviewed – WOMAN = clear majority of DV INITIATORS and SOLE perps.)

    Still, many other studies likewise confirm that women initiate most IPV (see for yourself at the link below) thus not only being the majority of sole perpetrators but also being the instigators of creating the majority of mutual partner violence. It only becomes mutual once he responds/defends/protects himself: Scan the list of studies and you will find this confirmed most often: http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

    Another fact you yourselves can confirm from that link is that studies which interview both males and females show omen admitting themselves that women commit AND ADDITIONALLY initiate more IPV. Studies only interviewing women are more likely to show the opposite *they don’t ask the women of their own behaviors either) and or be conducted among non-scientific populations, such as only interviewing females shelter victims or gender studies class participants, etc… Better studies don’t use target populations to manipulate outcomes and better studies interview BOTH genders (two views), and the best studies interview both genders about their own behaviors AND the behaviors of the partners equally (four views! four-way studies), and do not engineer the populations used or the questions cleverly so as to get the engineered pro-female response they demand (like the newer CDC study guidelines).

    Also, what’s all this femifascist BS that DV effects women more because they fear more (are emotionally impacted more by DV)???

    If women are really so much more affraid of DV, then why are WOMEN primarily initiating (over and over), encouraging and literally fighting for that very retaliation or male self defense which those women are supposedly so very fearful of???

    The real reason many women actually are or may be extra fearful (paranoid) of both DV and rape is because of all the femifascist lies, hysteria and agitprop generated by femi-terrorists in academia and the media. Now, that IS real terrorism against women. But in this mess, everyone is used as a tool (and expended) who can be.

    • Tom M

      As to my comment above, “…what’s all this femifascist BS that DV (a)ffects women more because they fear more?”

      That relates right into Tyophonblue’s latest article on female survivors of rape culture paranoia.

      The newer DV studies are being engineered by femifascists to add a question to the effect of “are you affraid of abuse?” The problem is that most of the unabused women will answer “YES” because they are programmed to fear abuse and fear men from all the paranoia propaganda about men, thus pumping up the female victim numbers in manipulated “studies.”

      This invalidates those studies which use their own carefully engineered mass paranoia to pump up the fake numbers of abuse against females.

      If women are really so much more affraid of DV, then why are WOMEN primarily initiating most IPV (starting most fights, over and over), encouraging and literally fighting for that very male retaliation, or male self defense, which those women are supposedly so very fearful of???

      Ah, yes, they must be brave women confronting their deepest fears. And it must all be the man’s fault?

  • Bev

    RATKO Mladic’s has been arrested for war crimes commited in 1995. This year is important to me as it brings back memories and an important (for me) change in my thinking. Before that date I had missgivings about feminism mostly because of my dealings with the family court to protect my grandchildren and a DV incident involving my youngest son. without going into detail It was very clear to everyone (including the police) who started things and who was to blame but they seemed to be reluctant to step in and charge her with assault. In the end nothing was done. Though I believe if it had happened now the whole thing would have been turned around and the authorities would contrived to make him
    the guilty party.
    The nineties was period when the DV industry was gearing up and getting into its stride. With an avalanche of studies, reports and changes to and new legislation being enacted. Leading me to start studying feminism and coming to the realization that feminsm was not what it claimed to be. 1995 crystalized my thinking because of a feminist demonstration. 8000 men and boys had been slaughtered and women and children were rounded up and sent to detention camps where many woman were raped. Bad yes but they had survived. This demonstration involved women parading around wearing bras outside their blouses while bearing placards and chorousing that women and children were the real victims of war as espoused by Hillary Clinton. What struck me was the total indifference to the males who had been slaughtered. They just didn’t
    exist in their eyes and were totaly ignored. I realized then just how bad
    feminism was and what it was capable of doing to society though I under estimated what it was to achieve.

    I took the red pill.

    • Tom M

      Expendable Male Syndrome…

  • Lovekraft

    Biden will be quickly forgotten after he has left politics with his swindled fortune.

    Unfortunately, the legislation he leaves behind will have far reaching and lasting implications.

    Biden and all other big government politicians do not deserve our attention unless there is a way to counteract them. Then we need them for our amusement.

    • Keyster

      My brother was in the same graduating class as Jill Biden (Upper Moreland High School 1969). She was a very prim and proper establishment cheerleader type who was well known to be dim of wit, (aka BIMBO).

      He claims there is absolutely no way she could have ever gotten a doctorate in anything. She has a doctorate in education from…wait for it…
      …the University of Delaware.

  • Luek

    I think one of the main reasons men are targeted as the primary aggressor in a DV call is that men really don’t put up much of any protest or resistance when they are arrested even though it may be obvious that they are the real victim. Cops do not want any hassle when on these calls. They are the worst calls to get. On the other hand, women if they are arrested for anything not just DV will more often than not physically resist arrest and become verbally abusive to the arresting officer. Of course the chief enabler is the DA who will often not pursue resisting arrest or assault charges against females for political reasons and because this fucked up culture views female violence as cute, justified or not serious.

  • http://truthjusticeca.wordpress.com/ Denis

    It’s interesting when you look at child homicide statistics by age group, it is infants who are at greatest risk from their mothers. Women are given the label post-partem depression to give them a pussy pass in the justice system, but not properly recognized as crazy and dangerous by society.

  • http://rebukingfeminism.blogspot.com Red0660

    TO “KEVIN IN NEW YORK:

    What you describe below is standard VAWA procedure. Here is a little more info:
    http://www.mediaradar.org/docs/RADARreport-VAWA-Threat-to-Families.pdf

    VAWA is used to separate men from their children……permanently! There need not be a trial. Restraining orders are extended indefinitely…they are permanent. They will tell you that if you ever want a chance to see your child again to admit you are guilty.

    “Men are often battered by the taxpayer funded, domestic violence industry.”
    So true! I have been saddled by an ex-girlfriend with a TEMPORARY restraining order that has been continued for over a year. (That is actually the equivalent of a one year PERMANENT restraining order, but since there still hasn’t been a trial, they just keep on renewing it and calling it “temporary.”) There must be some kind of violation of due process here.

    In the last year, I have been to Family Court 10 times, have spent an inordinate amount of my time compiling documentation and notes to repel the false allegations, and have had a dozen meetings with my own lawyers.
    She, of course, is represented for free by the multi-million dollar mens hate group called Sanctuary For Families, previously known as the Battered Women’s Center.

    The only one being battered is me, as I have lost so much of my life this year to this outrage. One lawyer told me early on, “Just agree to the DV charge the first time you’re here, stay away for a year, and you won’t have to come back to Family Court.” I said, “Absolutely not! I haven’t done anything wrong. I want a trial.” He said, “It doesn’t matter that you haven’t done anything wrong. She just has to “feel” you did, and you will be found guilty of a family offense.”

    There are two trial dates scheduled for July, and I can’t help but sense that it’s all been for nothing, that reason and sensibility will not prevail. At the same time, it would be a travesty if, after all I invested, I were to walk away from it now.
    Nothing quite like having the choice of “damned if you do, damned if you don’t.”

    • Kevin New York

      RED: Thanks for the link. VAWA is definitely the enemy. One man is no match for that multi-billion dollar war machine. I know for my part, I will fight in any crusade to put an end to these Family Court atrocities.

  • http://rebukingfeminism.blogspot.com Red0660

    Remember, disciplining your male is normal:
    [img]http://avoiceformen.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/ScreenShot004.jpg[/img]

    http://rebukingfeminism.blogspot.com/2011/05/disciplining-your-male-is-normal.html

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAmOxvudpF8 Ray

    “Sorry to interject here, but a small couple of corrections to that CDC study referred to in the article. That CDC study showed:
    The sole DV perpetrators were women 71% of the time
    The sole DV perpetrators were men 29% of the time.
    That is SOLE-PERPS, NOT where “…it’s women who INITIATE the domestic violence.” (Caps added by me.)”

    The above stated correction does not appear to be a correction, but rather a redundancy. If we say sole, solitary, single, and/or only perpetrator, it adds nothing to the term perpetrator. Here is this from the CDC article, which is exactly what is also said in the article above (rounding the 70._% up or down):

    “Regarding perpetration of violence, more women than men (25 percent versus 11 percent) [of the 24% of 18,761] were responsible. In fact, 71 percent of the instigators in nonreciprocal partner violence were women.”

    The article above (citing the CDC researcher’s article) says, “…in 70 percent of domestic violence incidents, where the domestic violence is not mutual, it’s women who initiate the domestic violence.”

    Except for one rounding up and the other rounding down, they are saying precisely the same thing. So what is stated in the article above is not incorrect.

    Furthermore, as exemplified by the red and blue pie chart in the CDC researcher’s article, the terms instigator, and perpetrator appear to be used somewhat synonymously, but by dictionary definition, an instigator begins an action, and a perpetrator carries out an action.

    In my studies, I’ve found that meticulous, highly educated mathematicians, statisticians, and researchers, while very precise in their use of numbers, are sometimes less literate, or even ambiguous in their use of language. Words are not their discipline anywhere near the extent that numbers are, IMO.

    I hope we’re all somewhat more in agreement after all that.

  • Eagle has landed

    A well organized federally funded perversion has rooted itself into many American law enforcement jurisdictions, But some are more “perverted” than others. Mary Kellet and her group of “gender-raunch” are from the North-Eastern states, but don’t worry folks, the feds want to expand this perversion to the rest of the states real soon (kinda like a forced perversion).
    Every law enforcement “protocol perversion, and semantics game” that arrests an innocent man or boy creates a “perverted statistic” that gets funneled to “gender-raunch Empowerment” professors at universities around the country.

  • Eagle has landed

    Break the silence, Break the misinformation Alliance.

  • The Man On The Street

    NCFM,

    I modified our image a tad. Hope you don’t mind.

    TMOTS

  • The Man On The Street

    OOPS!

    [img]http://avoiceformen.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/WhenPoliticiansFightForRightsMensRightsAreIgnored1.jpg[/img]

    TMOTS

    • Eagle has landed

      This would seem silly, if it were not so real life.

  • chris

    The stretching of even the term “abuse” as we have well chronicled, to include angry looks etc., is an offshoot to what one commenter points out is the “damage gap” whereby a man can hurt a woman more with a hit. This extends even irrationally into the realm of so called verbal abuse.
    Verbal abuse, abuse for short (and for manipulation of sympathy, when women talk of leaving their jerks, they say ubiquitously they were ABUUZZEEDDD) is an argument where HE yells loader and she cries.
    This nonsense applies across the board, the newest one I read was “remote control abuse” where the guy controls the channels

  • Matt

    After I became totally disabled in line of duty, my wife had always demanded to break the lease transfer the HUD voucher move to New York to be near her 2 brothers who live in Montreal Canada (actually I found out her motive to marry me in just a few days after we met to obtain US green card and live in America ,but near her 2 brothers). Her next demand was to take my 2 kids to Iran for summer vacation. I am 62 years old with heart disease, lung disease, sleep apnea, Tardive Dyskinesia, 2 ruptured disc in lower back and my left leg has numbness, tingling and pain radiating from my lower back all the way to my L-toes, bi-carpal tunnel syndrome, left cubital tunnel syndrome, asthma, depression, anxiety attack, bleeding ulcers, hemorrhoids, chronic chest pain and almost near dead.
    She has been abusing me physically, verbally, mentally, psychologically and financially for 15 years while I was making good money as General Manager we had no problems at all. Just one year after, I became disabled in line of duty she slashed my face &neck neighbors called police she was arrested and taken to Metro jail, I had to pay to bail her out and attorney fees after she pleaded guilty and sweared in front of Judge and signed statement that she would never mistreat, injure, insult and abuse me again and would take care of disabled husband like a nurse. I also begged the Judge not to send her back to jail because I was disabled and had no one in Mobile, Alabama then Judge reduced her sentence to only one year probation. Few years later she attacked me with a toolbox and hit my L-shoulder that permanently disabled my L-shoulder even after total rotator cuff muscle surgery from more than 80% tear, I still can not lay on my L-shoulder for one minute and have been suffering from pain and discomfort since then have not been able to use my left shoulder, L-arm and L-hand to do daily activities.

    In 2008 she fractured my left pinky in several places while she was mad and threw a20lb weight to my hand and has been threatened me to poison me, turned my CPAP off at midnights to suffocate me many times. First I thought there was something wrong with my CPAP machine, I ordered a new CPAP machine, but it was her turning it off nothing was wrong with CPAP machine. After I was not able to meet her demands she threatened to make my life a living hell.

    She has been calling police several times for non sense to establish a fake domestic violence case for me. Finally I survived a fatal car accident in 4/4/11 when someone hit my car hard flipped it over badly and totaled it and I was unconscious for long time with severe pain referred to orthopaedic department and I am still under physicians care and still suffering from that injury with severe pain.

    A few days after my accident she punched me in my achy head for blocking her friend (these Iranian friends of her were interfering in our life always encouraged her to get divorce, get kids custody take them to Iran) number called police that I blocked her friend phone police told her that was personal then she falsely claimed I also pulled her hair police didn’t see any evidence for her claim (I was suffering from pain on my bed that time with neck brace, L-arm brace and back brace and 2 I was hardly could move from bed) she begged police to take her to shelter because she did not want to live with me any longer (ONLY HER DEMANDS WERE NOT MET), but police told her you have several hours to make up and become friendly with you husband and keep your family together and if it didn’t work after 4 pm when your 2 kids come home from school call police and police would take you to a shelter.
    Because I called 911 the same time she called, one police asked me if she hit me I told him physically mentally, financially and for sake of my kids I never wanted her to go back to Metro jail again last time cost me too much to get her out with her criminal record I thought they would keep her in jail for long time (I never intended to harm our relationship or for our kids sake break up the family so remained patient all the time while she was abusing me physically, mentally, psychologically, verbally and financially) put her in jail even if there were hundred opportunities for me to do that. With all my suffering and pain, I spoke to her, begged her for another chance to each other and kids future what she demanded this time a notarized letter from me to break the lease and move to New York and also facilitating her travel to Iran with my kids for the summer which was impossible for me in my present situation. After my kids returned from school she called police waited outside and took the only car we had in our household and followed the police to a shelter.

    I haven’t seen my dear kids for 45 days their school called many times regarding their tardiness and send me letters that my kids had unexcused absence for days, library books were over due I had to pat to clear them up and I received a letter from HUD section 8 that my voucher was terminated after 14 years. It was offered to me due to my total disability & transferred to my wife due to DV and her being in shelter. I had to borrow some money and hired an attorney to appeal their decision before the HUD hearing they never provided any documents to my attorney no witnesses to be cross exam basically a police report and few fake pictures part of an arm with a browse from several years ago and a picture of foot (supposedly of my wife) she wasn’t present to be crossed exam.

    Then I received a call from police department that my wife pressed charge against me for that day 4/13/2011 she left with my kids. Mobile Police never spoke to me that day regarding any changes of abusing her or any thing else.
    I am 62 years old have been living with honor & integrity all these years, my son from ex-wife is a TRUE AMERICAN HERO for serving almost 3 years in Iraq war (unfortunately he was disfranchised from our family simply because his mother (my ex-wife was partially African American) my wife always told my kids they did not need a nigger, S O B brother.
    Even if my son and I had a good father and son relationship prior to new marriage but she never let him visit us “dad, his sister& brother whom he loved so much” or even communicate with him). I paid taxes and voted in each election with 2 Masters and partial PhD education (couldn’t finish my doctoral degree program due to severity of my illnesses and disability) who never bothered any one in my life and have been always a good law obidian citizen of this great country, living with integrity, helping victims all my life and long supporter/member of Amnesty International, ACLU.

    With lots of major illnesses and 100% disability I am only receiving about $650.00 SSI& SSA which I spent my last dime for kids and her and paid all the bills & other expenses many times I had to borrow money to fulfill my obligations towards my family and never purchased a pair of sucks for myself in past 14 years. I married her unfortunately while visiting Iran in 1992 without back ground check from her and her family. I was not aware of her motive of living near her 2 brothers by marrying me and obtaining US green card.

    She has been a huge consumer of taxpayer money for 15 years, refused to attend school, never worked a minute or earned a penny since I married her and brought her to America from Iran.
    She has been in charge of my EBT card for buying only her favorite food only; she abused $215.00 TANF kid’s money for herself and her family in Iran & Canada as well, by purchasing long distance phone cards to call those 2 countries for many hours per day.
    The DHR officials had tried very hard for several years to send her to school and find her a job but she refused to follow up by giving fake excuses such as headache and depression abusing taxpayers’ money, Medicaid and myself as co-pays for her doctors and medications expenses to reach her ambitious& goals of getting SSI and other Government benefits. Lots of medical records and audio tapes are available.
    After some research I found out in Iran some women are faker of domestic violence by self inflecting wounds to gain upper hands in divorce, child custody and other government benefits like Food stamps, Housing Voucher, TANF as well as establishing cases based on false allegations, lies and fabrication against their husbands even if they are like myself near dead. Please advise me what to do next? Thanks for your time and God Bless America and God Bless You.

  • Doug1

    Keyster — The bottom line that keeps the status quo is that a violent woman cannot inflict “equal” damage as compared to a violent man.
    When a woman hits, its cute.
    When a man hits, one blow could kill.

    She can with a weapon, such as a knife sometimes, especially if she’s stealthy about it.

    But yeah, in general, fine. That is in those cases where that’s actually what happens.

    But VAWA kicks in for trivial things. Like a return slap. If she just drunkenly calls 911 because she’s so pissed “and wants to teach him a lesson about ‘hitting back’”, then he’s going to jail even though she slapped him twice first, he slapped her less hard and caused no injury, and even though she decides when they arrive she doesn’t want him arrested.

    The under the civil parts of laws implementing VAWA he gets a temporary order of protection slapped on him for typically the 90 days the DA will keep trying to get her to testify before finally dropping the case. That will mean he’ll have to move out of his house or else risk being caught violating a court order which is jailable, and can’t even talk to her by phone, texting or email, to patch things up and find out if she’s going to testify.

  • Auntie Pheminizm

    > “The bottom line that keeps the status quo is that a violent woman cannot inflict ‘equal’ damage as compared to a violent man.”

    That’s the perception. Like some thinking it’s okay to harm black because they aren’t quite human.

    Female violence is manifested in many ways, sometimes by proxies. Other times women use the element of surprise, attacking men when they are asleep, sick, drunk, or off-guard. Lasses are often more likely to use weapons (guns, poison, knives, etc.) to offset size differences.

    Women are also much bigger/stronger than children.

    And some women are bigger than men.

    So the idea that men harm women more is a myth.

    Plus if it were true, all the more reason to tell women not to start fights.

    Finally, many men are socialized not to counter-hit women who attack them. Special forces men have been victims of female DV, too.

  • Auntie Pheminizm

    > “In the last year, I have been to Family Court 10 times, have spent an inordinate amount of my time compiling documentation and notes to repel the false allegations, and have had a dozen meetings with my own lawyers.”

    Ah, the bitter irony.

    If you suggest men support the men’s movement, they become pikers. They feel the MRM needs no funding, certainly not from their wallets.

    Guys also tend to poo-poo men’s issues in general.

    BUT…let one call be made by an “irate vaginate,” and reality steamrolls in. Now the heretofore unconcerned male will spend hours and hours in courtrooms, away from his job. He will worry a lot, too. And might be kept from his kids. He will hemorrhage money like water from an open hydrant: bills for motels and clothes (if he can’t go back home), lawyers, etc.

    If he’d given a hundred, or even $1000 to an MRM group he could have been spared all that. Now he’s likely out $10-100K. Plus has a police record.

    Of course, the other issue is men’s groups being so ineffective that they’re invisible. They behave like nice, invisible little boys. So even if a guy WANTED to give money or volunteer time he’d not know about any men’s group.

    Much of that is due to inept, cowardly, clueless, frightened, mangina-fied so-called “leaders” who guarantee the MRM stays obscure and ineffective.

    Seen it happen for decades.

    When I hear men lament their fates I ask them who Warren Farrell is. And when they first heard about him. And what they knew about men’s issues before their own scroti were snared in feminist-set traps.

  • Auntie Pheminizm

    > “Yet the fathers find they can’t get ANY HELP to stop her abuse”

    Really? Some father’s rights groups have been around for decades. Surely they’ve done things to get publicity so they can, you know, help fathers….right? Surely they hold fundraisers and seek grants from places like the Playboy Foundation and contact falsely-accused male celebrities…right?

    Alas, most men’s groups are as useless as tits on bulls. They are like garages that offer repairs yet have no bays, lifts, tools, or mechanics. Even if they contacted a male celebrity, how would they answer his query: “What have you done during the time you’ve existed?”

    One group joked about a portion of their meetings dubbed “fleecing the sheep.” They’d take dues from gullible newbies, promising them the moon, then do nothing. Often the leader and his lawyer co-leader did quite well, money-wise. They basically pocketed dues for their own enrichment.

    Sometimes I suspect most men’s groups are actually fronts for feminism.

  • Auntie Pheminizm

    > “8000 men and boys had been slaughtered and women and children were rounded up and sent to detention camps where many woman were raped.”

    Imagine thousands of women being butchered while men are forced to have sex with women they don’t like. Now imagine those same “brave survivor” guys wearing jockstraps outside their trousers and claiming they’d suffered most.

    Think reporters would agree and laud them?

    Funny thing about rape: I watched a show where trafficked women were taken up in helicopters and offered a chance to keep their “honor” (being spared “soul murder” as sex slaves). Not one women jumped. So I think a lot of feminist verbiage about rape being worse than death is hooey.

    What IS true is they think the rape of men, especially in prison, humorous.

  • Ghoster

    Hello,

    I was charged with a Domestic Violence back in 1997 by my now ex-wife(Yes we have kids). I was young and dumb at the time but I never hit her… At the time that she claims I “assaulted her” I was in my early 20’s and had 4-5 witnesses that she was the one tossing punches on me after I told her I was done and wanted a Divorce. I told one of my friends to take my kids into the back room so they would not see/hear this and they did so as quickly as they could while my ex did try and keep them in the room.

    She began swinging over and over hitting me in the face , arms and back. I blocked her attacks and held her from behind. (Defending myself without hitting or leaving marks) After this she walked to the couch with a big smile saying “You just hit me”. At this time the other people in the house (Friends we both worked with) began telling her “good luck with that , he never hit you”.

    After this I walked out and just stayed clear of her the rest of that night. She seemed fine the next few days and and we did not talk much at all. 3-4 days after this had happened she went to visit her Mother and never came home. Later that Night the Police came and arrested me for Domestic Violence and I was hand cuffed. The police took my statement and all of the witness statements.

    After reading all of them they stated that ours all matched perfectly and could not see me being charged but that was up to the courts to handle now. I was transferred to the Court House Jail where I spent the Night.

    I had never been in jail for anything and I was really freaking out. I did not talk to anyone the next morning and waited till I was brought into a room where the ADA came in and began to tell me that Illinois law says “If I lay hands on anyone in a house hold while in a heated verbal fight , I was guilty of assault”. I told her that I was being struck over and over and she said “If we had a red mark to prove this then we might be able to do something but otherwise it does not prove anything”. She then shows me a picture of my wife and she had a small bruise on her knee.(About the size of a dime or a Quarter)

    At this time I pointed out how stupid this looks. I said “So let me get this right… I got mad and said “That’s it bitch” , knelt down and punched her in the knee?”. The ADA laughed and said it did not matter how I looked at it and that I would be found guilty. She told me I could enter a guilty plea and get court supervision and this would all go away. I told her I was not guilty of any wrong doing and she then tells me “Look if we do a deal you go home but if we do not strike a deal you go back in lock up”.So if I am guilty I go free but if I am innocent I go back to jail… anyone else find this screwed up?(When I asked for an attorney I was told I did not need an attorney due to they were not seeking Prison time)

    Again I was young and dumb… I signed her agreement and 16 years later it is still on my record and not only that … she marked it up to a aggravated domestic assault. I could not believe I was setup by an ADA who knew I was just a scared kid!! But even now I am haunted by this. I did not hit her or any woman. Any woman I have ever dated can tell you the same thing, That I am an easy going kinda guy and I would never hit a female.

    I used to blindly trust that the “Laws” were there to protect us but what I have learned is these laws are broken and the people who represent the system are as crooked as the broken laws they enforce.

    My “Wife” did this so I could not stand a chance for custody in court. And the system helped her do it.
    My “wife” had taken off and left my kids home alone (Ages 6 months & 1 1/2 years old at the time) She knew the neighbor would testify to this in court. She had also been fired from 3 of her jobs for suspicion of theft. After the “aggravated domestic assault” they simply told me that she gets full custody.

    Actions of these courts claiming to “Do the right thing for kids” is a joke. My ex changed her phone number , hounded me at my work , sent the Jenny Jones show to my front door wanting me to go on TV for DNA testing on my kids. Accused me of Molesting my kids and I volunteered to take a lie detector test to prove my innocents. She moved 4 times without notice to me and I had to keep going to court over and over to try and stop this.

    You want to know the future my kids get to have?? Me ex took them out of public schools years ago without me even knowing and began to home school them.(Fyi: My ex dropped out of school in 11th grade) and my kids are now 16 and 17. Neither of them has even Graduated 8th grade and both of my girls have told me they have been sexually active since they were 12.(My 17 year old just called to tell me she is pregnant as well) And when I try and do anything about it … remember … I am the one with the “aggravated domestic assault”… I am shut down at every turn.

    How do I feel about all of this? I use to think I was the only one going through this kind of thing. Man was I wrong!! America is claimed to be “The land of the free” but I have not felt free since I was in my early 20’s. I feel as the system is not about protecting the innocent but more about creating numbers to justify their department continuing to get paid. I understand that there are REAL domestic abuse cases but mine was never one.

    It would be a lie if I said I was not angry. I had to move away from my Ex to even date. She would follow me and create any issue she could. People said “You can’t leave your kids behind”.
    I saw my kids 7 times in the first 4 years after the Divorce. The vanishing without notice continues to this day. Turning off phones , moving , or just simply not answering the phone for months at a time. I contacted my kids often through friends till my kids were old enough now that they contract me through use of their friends phones until they got a phone for themselves.

    My kids call me crying and wishing they could have been raised by me. These courts are not just broken…. they are breaking families… Destroying peoples lives and claiming it to be “Justice”.
    And for those wondering… I never had anything on my record before this or after. That is the only thing on my record. I can never own a fire arm…It is a misdemeanor charge that is looked down on worse then many felonies. So getting a job is a workout in itself. All due to a massive amount of lies.

    Honor , justice , order and due process are what I though our “Laws” were based on…. Wish I had known it was who lies better.
    My kids will be the ones paying for a corrupt “Justice” system that was more interested in me being a statistic then finding the truth.Without truth we can call ourselves “Advanced” or “Lawful” but in the end we are still a tyrannical run system based on false claims and corrupt principles.

    I would like to thank you for taking the time to read this and listen to my life. Remembering all of this was not easy … very painful memories and I still kick myself for thinking the ADA would tell me the truth.I can only hope this will help someone else and maybe some lawmakers see how flawed the system is.

    Christopher,

  • criolle johnny

    The Second link in the sixth paragraph:
    “it’s women who initiate the domestic violence” sent me to a nice article about the history of San Diego.
    Can someone HABU, please?

  • George Tasker

    You need to update your stats on parental child abuse. According to http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/fact-sheets/child-abuse-and-neglect-statistics.html

    Approximately 40 percent of child victims were maltreated by their
    mothers acting alone; another 18.3 percent were maltreated by their
    fathers acting alone;

    This means that mothers are now beating up their kids at more than twice the rate of fathers.