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Aimee Nicholls versus the star chamber

A message to British Politicians, and the public regarding family law.

Hi there, my name is Aimee Nicholls, I’m 16 years old, and 11 years ago, my parents divorced. It doesn’t matter why right now, that’s history. But it is important that you know that it wasn’t down to my dad. It wasn’t something that he wanted, and he couldn’t do anything about it. It’s certainly not something that I wanted, but I also had no say. My dad is definitely the more natural parent out of my mum and dad, and I’ve always been closer to him. I do love my mom and dad both the same. But, if I could only live with one of them, it would be my dad, and it’s been that way for 11 years. There was no reason for that not to happen. He hadn’t harmed me in any way, and he didn’t pose any risk, or threaten me. My dad shared my care before my parents split.

He and I were just never given that option. It wasn’t even considered, ever. Despite what people want you to think, I’ve learned that family law is just set up that way. It works exactly how it was designed to work, to keep dads and their kids apart. It makes more money for everyone working in family law, and my situation is only partly resolved after 11 years of fighting. I now live with my dad, but it’s not easy. The system doesn’t like giving up, unless you’re one of the few families it allows to be different to “prove” that it’s fair. It clearly isn’t fair.

When I voted with my feet at age 15 to go live with my dad again, a family court judge, like all of the other ones before tried to force me to go back to my mum. And he told me I was too young to express my views to him. I was, like, 2 weeks away from being an adult at 16. [In the Uk you are a legal adult at age 16] He said he needed social services to tell him what my views were. Think about that. I was sat in a court room at the age of almost 16, in front of him, and he effectively stuck his fingers in his ears and sang la la la. He ignored that I said that I felt at risk, probably because risk never really comes into it, unless it can be pointed at a dad to split him and his child up. More delay, more work for the system, more income, more funding. That’s what it’s all about. If you need a good reason to open up the secret family courts to the public, this is one. I bet the judge would not have dared say any of that to me if there were people watching. I was almost an adult, and I understood exactly what he was doing. His game of pretending to not be able to hear my voice was really disheartening.

It was horrible. Why would I want to go back to social services who had always mislead the court about my views? They make it their job to lie, and to twist things, and this judge was just giving them another chance to do that. After 11 years of being involved, I would say it’s worse than it’s ever been at this point, right now, for kids. They have found more ways than ever to stop kids seeing their dads. Ever since I started speaking out, I’ve heard from hundreds of families, and it’s always the same thing. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. For the politicians watching, the ones that want to believe all the lies; wake up. It’s worse than it’s ever been, and it’s happening on your watch. For example, the courts are still trying to ruin things for me and my dad. They stripped him of all his income, so that he can’t care for me. If they cant force me to live with my mum, they’re just going to ruin it for me and my dad. That’s fine now, it’s fine for me, I go out and work, I’m 16. But why should we not just be left to live peacefully after all of this. It’s over. It’s gone. Give up on it. And not every other family has that opportunity. Not every other kid my age is like me. They don’t speak out. More should, but they don’t. And that’s why the system can carry on.

And also they banned him for no reason from ever seeing my sister Kitty, who is now aged 7. Which means I can’t see her either, and she can’t see me. There’s absolutely no reason for either of those. There’s just no reason. The problem is, you can’t keep my generation quiet, and we will remember you. I will find my sister one day, and she will know what was done to us, and by who. And those people will have to answer to us. And on that topic, I’d like to mention a few special people, who deserve to be remembered for making my life hell.

First of all, judges. I say judges [plural], not just one, because my family has been through a lot of different courts and different judges, and they all say the same thing. That’s not a coincidence. The only way that could happen is if the system is set up that way, and it’s set up wrong. I saw it myself when I made my own application at 15. The application doesn’t even cater for someone like a child. It only caters for the [mother], and it’s really hard. But I did it, and it can be done. But the judge just slapped me down and ignored everything I said. The final order that was given was only partially what we had gone there to achieve. The judge just couldn’t care less, because it’s not what he’s used to doing, and he’s not meant to do that [i.e he is meant to put me, the child, first].

Next, there’s teachers and school counsellors that I talked to numerous times when I was in school. Obviously telling them I wanted to live with my dad. Later they told social workers that I had never indicated a problem, or expressed my views. They are probably all still in their jobs abusing kids just like me.

Next, there’s the [family courts] expert witness that made my dad sound like he was some kind of psychopath. Clearly he isn’t, but that doesn’t matter. This guy took a huge fee and wrote some rubbish to ensure that my sister and I would be kept from seeing my dad. And he’s still out there as well, destroying families, taking his large fee’s. I hope he’s enjoying the money that he got from destroying my life, and my sister’s life. She’s seven.

When they took her away from me, she screamed and cried. I took some precious things from her, her precious things, to promise her that I would see her again, that I would give them back. Ive still got them, you know, it’s been two years now, since I’ve seen her, and a lot longer since my dad has seen her.

And, lastly, a very special mention for the CAFCASS officer from Oxford who did everything in her power to keep me from my dad. From lying in the reports, to “losing” my wishes and feelings report [that said that I wanted to live with my dad and why]. Also, repeated interviews which were not meant to happen. With increasing pressure until I told her that I wanted to live with my mum. I guess she’s still out there as well, destroying other children’s lives.

The system is completely broken. Almost everyone working in the system has some vested interest in what’s going on, and they’re making it worse. If it’s not money and work, its politics. I found that out when I uploaded videos to YouTube of me speaking about my case, and feminists attacked me at the age of 14, saying I was a whore and an actor, and a liar. These people are just pure evil, and I cant see a reason, or accept why this is all going on. These are the people that the government are listening to, not us [the real] victims. The whole secrecy thing, it just makes it a 100 times worse. I personally think that would be one of the main things that would resolve this. Family law, and the courts, and social services and CAFCASS all just have too much money, and they use it to put pressure on the government to continue doing what they do. Nobody else’s voice gets heard. Politicians just need to stop this, and not in a few months, or two years, or a few weeks even. They need to do it now.

I want to see my sister. I want her and my dad to be together. I want us all to be together, why can’t that happen? There’s no reason for that not to happen. You should explain it to me and Kitty in a way that makes sense to us, because all we know is that we love each other, and we love our dad, and some pensioner in buckle shoes and a wig keeps telling us that it’s not in our best interest. I think family law is not in my best interest. And I think it’s time for it to go.

I’m Aimee Nicholls. Thank you for listening. Now go out and do something about it.

  • http://gravatar.com/jjrockmale El Bastardo

    The sad thing is, the politicians are in on it too. Here in the states, we possess almost 70% of the world’s attorneys to the tune of 700,000 I think. Yet we are a fraction of the world’s population.

    We have too many laws, run by too many lawyers. You will notice from our president on down, they are almost all attorneys.

    They all lie, because they make enormous amounts of money, and women enjoy this drama as they benefit from it the most.

    Can you guess my thoughts on all of them?

  • crydiego

    “I bet the judge would not have dared say any of that to me if there were people watching.”
    —-This is why everyone should make an effort to go to family court and view the proceedings. Judges need to make decisions in front of the public and be judged themselves. I have been to family court six times in the last year and was stunned at what took place in most of them. Family court it is not hard on men only, but in contrast to women, it was openly callus and cruel to them.

  • re-construct

    “More delay, more work for the system, more income, more funding. ”

    Its sad that both the US and UK have let lawyers do this to our legal system. many lawyers feed off the broken system and charge by the hour to pretend to fix it.
    Lawyers / pork bloated law enforcement’s / gender-feminist bloated bureaucrats are all part of the manufactured statistics Alliances that create and feed off the chaos they foment, and charge by the hour to pretend to fix it.
    Current family law ….Is like bringing you’re car to a mechanic for an oil change, and he loosens a plug wire and tells you you’re going to need a new distributor.

  • http://reyekomra.wordpress.com reyeko

    Share this video, tweet it, Facebook it, blog it, post anywhere and everywhere you can. there have been cases where a video of someone kicking a cat has gone viral online and led to the person being found and charged, getting this video viral enough will be highly beneficial. I’m not from the UK so I don’t have any government person to write to regarding this so sharing is the best I can do in this case.

  • Murray Pearson

    Aimee, I am horrified, yet not surprised, by your story. THANK YOU THANK YOU for speaking out. We must expose the lie of “the best interests of the child”!

  • Bubbajoebob

    Aimee, the exact same bastards tried to do the same to me and my children. Fortunately, I was in a position to scare them a little (I was a Yank and had Yank investigations finding child abuse on their mother’s part), and so my children escaped your fate, despite incompetence by CAFCASS, an utterly cowardly first judge (our second judge was, I think, as fair as the system allows), and outright lying by Social Services. Keep fighting for your sister, she needs to know that you are fighting for her, and I hope she gets to see this video.

  • The Real Peterman

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. I have a sister and it would have been awful to have her taken away when we were kids. Keep your head up!

  • http://NationalParentsOrganization Robert Franklin

    Aimee – Very good work. Your voice rings true as does your indignation. Don’t let up. Go to your MP’s office and demand to know why your sister can’t see her father and why the judge refused to listen to you. Call a press conference for the event. Your age works for you. Keep doing what you’re doing.

  • aimeemcgee

    Aimee, I’m going to share this with my beloved, and discuss sharing it with his daughters.
    You have my prayers and hopes you and your wee sister get to see each other and spend time together with your Dad real soon

  • rocelot

    The way the courts disregard youths thoughts and opinions is disgusting. It ignores mens humanity, it can’t even conceive youths.

  • http://menaregood.com Tom Golden

    Great job Aimee! Your voice is heard here.

  • http://zrobteds.wordpress.com comradeprescott

    Thank you for sharing and for standing up, Aimee.

  • http://www.facebook.com/limeywestlake Neil Westlake

    And they say feminism does not hurt women and children **rolls eyes.**

  • http://www.KidsDeserveDads.com Ralph Scott

    We would like to post your very system transparent and well-considered article at KidsDeserveDads.com. We intend to become the Net’s largest archive of stories just like yours. In fact, we’re going for 500 stories by Dec. 31st of this year. Then we hand them over to some very high-profile journalists, chosen for their history of fair coverage, to finally expose the bias and travesty of Anti-Family Courts.

    Thank you for writing this very honest account of your, your sister’s, and your dad’s nightmare.

    We WILL reform family law. And it will be stories like yours, Aimee, that help us do it.

    Regards,

    Ralph Scott
    Social Media Relations
    KIDSDESERVEDADS.COM
    E: kidsdeservedads(at)yahoo.com

  • greg

    Powerful.

    Run for office as a candidate from Mike Buchans party.

  • Tim Shepard

    Name the judge! We need to shame the corrupt ones!

  • http://www.schorel-hlavka.com G. H. Schorel-Hlavka O.W.B.

    Aimee, first of all I can but only applaud you for speaking out.

    When one of my daughters was 1 year old and was placed in my care by the Supreme Court, the Family Court pursued every trick to take my daughter away from me. In 1994 they even imprisoned me for 3 weeks! But in the end they failed. My daughter, now married and mother of 4 children, phoned me letting me know she brings her children up the way I did with her. It was the best compliment I could have been given.
    My daughter still has problems that I went to prison to protect her, but I made clear it wasn’t her fault, and I would do it all over again. When she was 9 years old, her half sister was reportedly sexual abused by the step father, and as my daughter also complained about the same I held my duty was to protect her from this latest husband of her mother. Well the Family Court made clear my daughter had to go on access, as I had not witnessed this man to sexual abuse my daughter, and so prison it was. This even so I had a hospital report that indicated my daughter had damages and the healing progress was consistent with the laps of time since the last access to her mother, which was precisely the same time when her half sibling (not the child of that man either) as I understood it was held to be sexual abused by him, by the Children Court. I conducted my own cases as I didn’t trust any lawyers, and again, despite the prison term I still kept my daughter (albeit she was ordered to be with her mother and that man while I was in prison. The mother originally had lost all 5 children (of which 4 were of a prfevious marriage) to welfare, because the Children Court found she had let the children being sexual abused by her boyfriend (another one), and as I understood it was even watching it.
    For the record, the Family Court never had jurisdiction because I had made my daughter a ward of the court (as to seek to avoid the Family Court to get involved), for this it were Supreme Court orders that she was placed in my custody, as the Supreme Court was concerned about the sexual abuse the mother had tolerated by her boyfriend, but the Family Court simply didn’t give a darn about not having jurisdiction as they simply took it.
    When I exposed that the Family Court unlawfully had imprisoned me they just tried to make a twist about it as if they by a backdoor way could invoke jurisdiction, as such they never had the guts to admit that they were wrong.
    Again, I never regretted having been in prison to protect my daughter from this evil, to the best of my ability.

  • Sad Dad

    Aimee, your knowledge is far beyond your years, if the white knights only knew what you know, this would be a down hill battle for our fight. The courts “do not care” about children it’s all about money and destroying men and families. The courts had me living out of my car for 4 months and told me it was fair! I was so broke I had to leave my children behind or be homeless and live in the street. The day I left my children behind as I was driving off they were running after me crying running from front yard to front yard down the street, and I just have to ask myself “How is this in the best interest of the children”? LIES!!!! All of it!!!

  • http://www.marysadvocates.org Bai Macfarlane

    Thank you Aimee. In Cleveland Ohio, USA, it is not necessarily that Dads that are forcibly removed from their own children’s lives; anyone who does not want the forced-no-fault divorce and tries to challenge it, can have their children virtually abducted by the “family” courts. I argued that it is unconstitutional for the state to force on me and my children consequences of a contract that were the exact opposite of the contract I entered. I married according to the Catholic Church’s understanding of marraige. According to those terms, my husband had no right to break our family apart and he was obligated to resolve whatever selfish problems were leading him to want divorce. But the state took my children from me, their mom. I hope you are right that the younger generation who suffered under the tyranny of family court will fight back.

    • http://www.schorel-hlavka.com G. H. Schorel0-Hlavka O.W.B.

      Albeit I am not a lawyer, I assisted parties (free of charge) for decades in litigation as a Paralegal and Professional Advocate as well as an Attorney. I assisted both females and males. While the general perception is the overwhelming discrimination against men, there are however also females who are suffering badly. We should regard it as a violation to the child’s rights to be denied ordinary contact with both parents merely because they (the parents) have a difference of positions and may not get along. The courts while claiming to do what is in the best interest of the child actually generally act precisely contrary to it. As I came beware of that often it had nothing to do with the evidence but that a judicial officer already had made the decision even before the hearing commenced. As a matter of fact I received court orders in the mail before the case was heard! Then after the case was heard the judge repeated the same and claimed that the previous orders had been issued in error. The High Court of Australia likewise argued it was simply an error. In my view pre-determined orders invalidate any subsequent orders, but with the corporate courts they do not care. Child representatives should submit what is in the best interest to the child and not just their own personal views which may clash with this. It is regrettable that our system of JUSTICE is far too often the opposite of what it purports to be.

  • trailsnet

    Aimee is a very brave young lady. We need more Aimees in the world to expose the incredible unfairness and bias in the family court system of both the U.S. and UK. Aimee has learned, at an early age, what most people do not know or choose to ignore. I would imagine Aimee’s father is very proud of her. I’m glad they were able to continue their relationship despite the worst intentions of the court system. It is too bad that Aimee’s sister became a casualty of the same system. I hope things work out for the best, in the end.
    Keep your head up and carry on, Aimee.

  • https://www.facebook.com/ParentalAlienationInDivorceCases John Brookes

    Siblings should not be parted. and the very least they should be allowed contact and knowledge of each others whereabouts. Judges are completly out of touch with family society, and they cant tell me they are limited in their abilities to decide the future of a child. one judge can make a ruling, and that rule can be taken on board by other judges.. a child can decide for themselves and persist in their desires, as it is in the children rights act. you can find her yourself if you box clever. keep your ears and eyes open.