The Male Soldier

It’s hard to know what to say about this video besides, please watch this:

I added a comment I believe relevant to this:

One important thing you may have overlooked here, and I mention it because I’ve seen others mention it elsewhere and encountered it myself in some of the men I work with: it is NOT uncommon for guys to come home from deployment only to find that their wife or girlfriend has left, alienated them from their children, and sometimes even in child support arrears they didn’t even know they owed until they got home. So it’s yet another massive kick in the face to a lot of these guys. Just wanted to mention that because I’ve talked to MORE THAN ONE veteran who’s had this sort of thing happen to them. It appears that the legendary “Dear John” letter every G.I. used to dread getting no longer applies; he doesn’t even get that courtesy. Instead he may just get home and find her and the kids gone and a bill he can’t pay–a few have even returned just to be put in jail for not paying child support they never got notice that they owed. It’s nightmarish. –DE

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  • Draigo Luther

    Hey dean, my browser cannot load the video, can you post a link?

    NEVERMIND, Got it work!!

  • RSDavies

    IMO / IME the barriers to progressing this starts with “There are no words”, and thus it is hard to describe to anyone the horror, the banality and the day to day reality of conflict, even the struggle to deal with inactivity.
    Into the mix throw in the social division over whether the conflict is just or legal or whatever. The moment you step off the plane, there are people who believe they have a right to demand that you take personal responsibility for the narrow range of consequences of conflict they see reported on TV. You on the other hand have been there and witnessed the complexity.
    Then you struggle to cope with the day to day civilian activities that can trigger panic, sudden reaction and reversion to combat responses. The family outing to a firework display, which everyone else finds great fun, can leave you struggling with undesired floods of memory and a sudden bout of depression that it bewildering to everyone else.
    The armed forces themselves compound the problems because over 60% never go into battle. The officer cadre with its obsession with reputational risk will suppress bad news, and you can easily be the “bad news”.
    The long term health provision is a problem – who pays for it? A traumatic injury in the 1980’s can come back to haunt you as you get older and you need specialised support.
    But most of all I think it’s the absence of a secure, predictable place to be that is the problem. Civilian life lacks structure, and organisations are less willing to provide additional help for veterans in work.

    • johncullison

      “Military men are dumb, stupid animals to be used as pawns for foreign policy.” — Kissinger

      If you ever doubt that’s the way our leaders feel about our military, the way we treat these men after they’ve served should be ample proof that the above statement was the most honest thing Kissinger ever said — not because it’s true, but because that’s how everyone at the top thinks — and, far more importantly, acts.

  • Draigo Luther

    am a veteran, having served in couple of different warzones. I suffer from PTSD from these deployments I have to tell watching this video, really brought back some memories from my time on these deployments. You see things, do things and see other things being done to others, that does not even come close to what thought of as normal. Once you have been into a firefight, or an ambush you are never the same again. You never see the world the same again…There are times I don’t know how I survived quite a few of these situations when they happenend. I don’t think there is a day that goes by that I don’t have feelings of guilt, sorrow, regret, thankfulness, pride, honor and pain…It is a strange combination of feelings, but more than that it is a struggle to sort out all of these feelings and still remain a functional human being. My tendancy is try to hold it all in..So that nobody would know, and risk being labelled a social priah,or an outcast so to speak.
    In response to what you have written Dean:
    Your right, most often the Soldier will not get the Dear John letter, or a post on facebook, or other social media means…It will just happen, sometimes the Soldier, will find out on deployment from other family or friends, or they find out when they get home. I have personally seen Soldiers careers and even lives destroyed by these situations….enstranged wives use the Inspector General’s office to enforce judgements (alimony, child support, TRO’s ect..) in order to gain the upper hand in divorce proceedings and often the Soldier does not have the resources or the support to protect himself against it, Especially true when the Soldier is deployed.

  • cryrex

    This is truth about male privilege; the tip of the iceberg..