Double standards lie at the heart of the injustices men and boys face for being born male. It’s the double standards that are most galling to us. Gender double standards have always been with us, but the women’s movement has served to underscore and even exacerbate them. I am no fan of generalizations, but I thought the following list would help illustrate the point.
- We happily remove male role models from our sons’ lives, then when our sons behave badly, we blame patriarchy;
- Stereotyping girls as inferior to boys in any facet of life is “misogyny.” Stereotyping boys as potential batterers and rapists is a public service announcement;
- Boys are taught that they must never hit a girl, but they are given license to beat the crap out of other boys. Girls are taught boys must never hit a girl, and they are given license to beat the crap out of boys;
- When girls were behind boys in educational achievement, people said the girls were just fine, the problem was with the schools. Now that boys are behind girls in every facet of educational achievement, people say the schools are just fine, the problem is with the boys;
- Women criticize young men hesitant to marry as immature and afraid of commitment. When those same women later end their marriages because they aren’t feeling “fulfilled,” they say it’s because they have matured, but their own “commitment” is not at all pertinent to the issue;
- A woman who tells her fiance that she wants to take time off from work when they have children is called a normal woman. A man who tells his fiance he wants to take time off from work when they have children is called an ex-fiance;
- If a man wants sex more often than his wife is willing to give, he’s selfish. If a woman wants sex more often than her husband is willing to give, he’s selfish;
- It is the mission of feminism to unshackle women so they can express their femininity in whatever manner they desire, and to shackle men so they can express their masculinity only in the manner feminists approve;
- When dad in an intact family goes through tough financial times, the entire family tightens their belts and sacrifices together. When mom kicks dad out of the house and dad goes through tough financial times, no one needs to worry about tightening their belts any more – dad either comes up with the support money or he goes to jail;
- People criticize men for not being actively involved in their children’s lives, but the minute they see a man they don’t know in the park with his own children, they call the cops;
- Women seeking to enter the business world are afforded all manner of assistance to encourage them to own their own businesses. Men seeking to enter the domestic world as stay-at-home dads are afforded nothing from anyone, least of all encouragement;
- Women have long insisted they are victims of discrimination that manifests itself in the “wage gap.” Now that young women earn more than their male counterparts in urban areas, women still insist they, not the males, are victims — because they can’t find mates who are their intellectual peers;
- Women are told they should be free to explore sexuality in whatever manner they choose, yet feminists pen lengthy, angst-ridden screeds on whether it is proper for women to give blowjobs;
- Women insisted on having equal access to every place men congregate, then after they gained admittance, they insisted on having “women-only” spaces because they say they are afraid of the men;
- When women commit domestic violence, it’s called “self defense.” When men act in self-defense, it’s called domestic violence;
- Man who hits his wife = felon; woman who cuts off her husband’s penis = feminist hero;
- When a woman accuses a man of rape and he denies it, there are conflicting claims of criminality, yet only one is arrested; only one’s name is reported in the news for the world to titillate to his humiliation; only one is likely to be imprisoned if he’s convicted; and only one will have the accusation trail him like a ghost for the rest of his life even if it is false. Can you guess his gender?
- We insist that women are at least as capable as men in every conceivable sphere of life — except the bedroom, where women are as helpless as the most distressed of Disney damsels and only men are responsible for the mutually tipsy sex she later regrets;
- Women never lie about rape, except when they recant;
- Men accused of rape are pathological liars, except when they confess;
- Women who are raped must never be told they should have made better choices. Men falsely accused of rape routinely are told they should have made better choices, and sometimes they are told to apologize to their false accusers;
- Young men are taught that they must ask for sex. When those same young men go to college, they are expelled if they have consensual sex but asked for it too much;
- If a teen boy rapes a teen girl, he must be jailed and prosecuted as an adult. If a teen girl falsely accuses a teen boy of rape, it is “awful” to jail her, much less to prosecute her;
- In college, if a student is accused of stealing another student’s pen, any disciplinary claim likely will be adjudicated under the stringent “clear and convincing” evidence standard. If a student is accused of the far more serious crime of rape, he will have the claim adjudicated under the “preponderance of the evidence” standard, the lowest in our jurisprudence;
- When it comes to rape, everyone agrees one rape is one too many. When it comes to false rape claims, feminists turn into actuaries who declare that some false claims are acceptable because the risk to men is so low;
- For men accused of rape, we defend humiliating practices such as “perp walks” because, we say, there should be no secrets in criminal matters. For rape accusers, we defend keeping secret the very identity of the person on whose shoulders the entire case rests;
- Some countries pay women for claiming they’ve been sexually assaulted, even if they lie and no matter how slight their injuries. Those same countries do not pay men falsely accused of rape, even though they are telling the truth and no matter how great the harm to them;
- Rape of women is a national crisis; rape of men in prison is a punchline;
- We shame young men who would never harm a woman by insisting they must be “part of the solution” to end rape. If we tell young women they must be “part of the solution” to end rape just by being careful, that’s victim blaming;
- When underage teens have consensual sex, usually only one is convicted as a statutory rapist and, upon his release, required to register as a sex offender. Can you guess his gender?
- Men having sex with teen girls are viewed as the lowest form of life, and they are usually sent to prison for many years; women having sex with teen boys are seen as “mixed up” and any prison sentence they receive is far lighter than when the genders are reversed;
- A teen girl who is statutorily raped can have an abortion if her rapist impregnates her. A teen boy who is statutorily raped will be forced to pay child support to his rapist if she decides to have the child. And if the boy doesn’t pay, he likely will receive a punishment his rapist did not receive — he will be jailed;
- Women insist that males are undeservedly “privileged,” arrogating to themselves the right to define what “privileged” means.
In the current public discourse, the gender injustice most discussed is women’s “right” to have free birth control, paid for their employers. That injustice overshadows the following:
- women outlive men in developed countries by five or more years; men have higher death rates for virtually all of the leading causes of death;
- men are approximately 50% of the workforce but account for 93% of job related deaths;
- males between 20 and 24 have a seven times greater rate of suicide than their female counterparts, and overall, men commit suicide at rates three to four times greater than women;
- males are between 1.5 to 2 times more likely than females to be assaulted;
- government funding for breast cancer research outpaces funding for prostate cancer research by nearly two to one even though prostate cancer and breast cancer have roughly the same caseload;
- death among young men due to testicular cancer in the 15-34 age group outpaces the number of deaths from breast cancer among women in the same age group;
- victims of war, both combatants and non-combatants, are more likely to be male;
- responsible young men are legally charged considerably more for auto insurance than irresponsible young women, simply because they were born male, but gender differences for health care premiums are being outlawed in the US since women claimed they were discriminatory;
- a woman who commits the same crime as a man will receive, on average, only a fraction of the sentence;
- during FY 2009, 169,586 names and addresses of suspected violators of the duty to register with the Selective Service System were provided to the Department of Justice for possible investigation and prosecution for their failure to register, carrying a penalty up to five years in prison. Every name on the list was male — because young women are exempt from even registering.
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Outstanding! My printer is working as I type this. I am making several copies to give to people tomorrow on campus. Telling people to about this site doesn’t work. You have to place the articles in their actual hands. Then, they still look at you and say, “What does it say? I don’t want to read all that.”
You’re a brave guy Ben. I will actively engage in pro male conversation and counter the blatant feminist lies I see on my campus at times, but to actively promote AVFM by handing out leaflets would only open you up to hysterical persecution and accusations on my campus.
I like the way this is set out. Very succinct. If I was a blue-piller out there who had no idea of the gravity of the article I may have even chuckled at a couple. Fortunately, I know better, and the truth with which this rings just rolls around like Notre Dame’s bells.
Outstanding Mr. Harlan! -I remember seeing this post on FRS, and you’ve added a few new ones as well, great job & keep up the great work at over at FRS!
Great article! We need to bring awareness to as many double standards as possible until every last one is exposed. That will be very difficult, though.
Pierce, you finally re-posted an updated battle of the sexes, you sexy son of a bitch! I still have the damn thing saved on my hard drive from July 10, 2009 on your blog before you deleted it.
Talk about cutting through the bullshit! A f*cking samurai couldn’t have delivered a more incisive blow.
Absolutely outstanding!
Agreed. This summary is “Hanzo Steel” for men’s rights; it is so sharp it would cut feminist doctrine.
You realise what will happen now don’t you?
The feminists are going to look at this, and then look at each other, and with wide eyes start to say things like, “Oh this is just great! Now we have to come up a whole new pack of bullshit to combat every single one of these points.”
I guess the tofu party around the Morris dancing pole is just going to have to wait.
There’s also the “Sexual Privilege Checklist” as well.
We must all be careful. Feminists have inferior brains, and if they are overwhelmed with too many facts, the result can be devastating.
My fear how right you are; that if they get overwhelmed with facts like these they will get irrational. And some poor guy will pay for it somwhere with a false rape accusation.
http://news.yahoo.com/video/cincinnatiwlwt-18191085/court-orders-man-to-apologize-to-estranged-wife-on-facebook-28397541.html;_ylc=X3oDMTBtbHBwNWcwBF9TAwRlbWFpbElkAzEzMzAwNDU0NjM-?bcmt=1330036210097-9a342e85-148c-47b1-b68b-92e2ec3f1ec0_00002b000000000000000000000000-ef6ba05e-f995-4b11-85ac-9a08709cac9f&bcmt_s=e#crsl=%252Fvideo%252Fcincinnatiwlwt-18191085%252Fcourt-orders-man-to-apologize-to-estranged-wife-on-facebook-28397541.html
What amazes me most is when feminists make a “male privilege checklist” the items on it are so nuanced and meaningless as to be irrelevant.
Things like, When you marry will you be expected to take someone else’s last name and criticized if you don’t?
Which is ridiculous because if you happen to marry a Kennedy, or a Gates, or a Carnegie is this really going to go through your head? And if you don’t want a man’s name doesn’t he have a right to feel insulted that you don’t think it’s good enough?
I for one will never give a woman my name. If I’m dumb enough to marry I’m at least going to save her the trouble of changing her name. In a few years she’ll have to change it back. Besides, it’s a lot harder for her to get credit cards in my name if her name is different than mine.
“Which is ridiculous because if you happen to marry a Kennedy, or a Gates, or a Carnegie is this really going to go through your head? And if you don’t want a man’s name doesn’t he have a right to feel insulted that you don’t think it’s good enough?”
LMFAO This is one that always has me laughing.
Next time you are with a woman tell her she can’t have your name if you get married. Holy crap she’ll be pissed. Getting your name is her right not your privilege.
But as the feminists say, the privileged have the privilege of not recognizing their privileges.
“But as the feminists say, the privileged have the privilege of not recognizing their privileges.”
LMFGDAO…Oh GOD do they really say that?????????
Haha….you’ve really never heard that one?
I guess you’re privileged to not have as many interactions with feminists, heh.
When I got married my wife took my name.
When I got divorced the X kept my name.
When the X remarried she kept my name.
A good reason to not let them take your name ,she may keep it.
I’m a Kennedy, and I honestly don’t see what’s so good about it? Is it because of the american president by that name?
To me it’s just a name.
What amazes me most is when feminists make a “male privilege checklist” the items on it are so nuanced and meaningless as to be irrelevant.
That’s because women can’t distinguish between objective truth and a fucking wish.
See also: women’s grasp of etiology (it does not exist).
” When you marry will you be expected to take someone else’s last name and criticized if you don’t?”
Oh, that’s so much worse than what men have to go through, being 3 times as likely to be murdered or 9 times as likely to die at work or having a life expectancy 5 years shorter. So sad.
I posted this question on Yahoo! Answers about what obligations women have towards men.
Check it out and answer if you want.
http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120223154307AAJ35zN
Most of the people responding agree women have no obligations to men. Some try to make shit up.
This is still my favorite checklist:
http://www.zoklet.net/totse/en/politics/political_spew/162123.html
Good link Estwald.
Great link. Maybe some of the most convincing material I’ve seen yet. I’ve got to spread this one around.
Nice list!
Definitely a nice read, and this just goes to show you we have no equality.
Where does this statistic come from? about a week ago, I was looking for it in an argument against a feminist, but could only find one that said that it was roughly half (which is so blatantly obviously wrong)
You can find all sorts of different numbers, but why not cite out a source feminists could not dispute? J. Friedman, J. Valenti, Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape (2008) at 23: “Men are 150 percent more likely to be the victims of violent crimes than women are. . . . . Men are more likely to be victimized by a stranger (63 percent of violent victimizations) . . . .”
According to the United States census and the FBI, a white man is 3 times as likely to be murdered as a white woman. A black man is 5 times as likely to be murdered as a black woman.
http://www.census.gov/compendia/statab/2012/tables/12s0313.pdf
Another great list for the collection. My printer seems to be working in overdrive these days. Thanks Mr. Harlan.
You could probably read off that whole list of male oppressions to a Sociology, or woMEN’s StuDIEs, professor and all they’d say is, “What about women?” :-/
Wait, wait . . . here’s a new double standard. This one is among the loonier I’ve written about: http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/2012/02/female-animal-oppression-taken-up-by.html
To my mind, the most glaring double-standard is this:
The 1,270,000 non-consent assaults by men against women will be a crime
The 1,268,000 non-consent assaults by women against men will NOT be a crime
In other words, if a woman ties a man, drugs him, puts a gun to his head, and demands “intimacy”, this is not a crime — it is an “incident” listed along with trivial complaints such as cat-calls.
I know many MRAs who scratch their heads and think “this can’t be true …” Think again. It is a very different world today. Here are the data reported in the 2011 CDC National Intimate Partner And Sexual Violence Survey, page 18 and 19:
1,270,000 completed rapes OF women BY men in 2011 (table 2.1)
1,267,000 completed rapes OF men BY women in 2011 (table 2.2)
Brilliantly written and consistent in its presentation of information (wait; that’s misogynistic isn’t it?).
I plan on printing this out and carrying it in my messenger bag so the next time “Ladies”, and I use the term lightly, decide to start whining about how easy us men have it while their support cult nods in silence, I can hand them a copy.
If you don’t mind, I would like to make one minor change.
“A teen girl who is statutorily raped can have an abortion if her rapist impregnates her. A teen boy who is statutorily raped will be forced to pay child support to his rapist if she decides to have the child. And if the boy doesn’t pay, he likely will receive a punishment his rapist did not receive —he will be jailed [where he will be raped again];”
I would also like to add one because my mind is still blown away by it.
When girls are circumsized, society sees it as genital mutilation and is outraged. Male circumsion is institutionalized in religion and as a medical practice even when it will lead to thousands of deaths;
Women will come back with their own list of double standards that affect them and play dueling double standards. The difference, however, is that any double standards that do or did apply to women have been endlessly discussed in the public discourse for decades, while anything that affects men specifically is rarely or never discussed unless it’s the punchline of a joke. Or, if it is brought up a man will be told to “man up and stop whining like a pussy”, especially by other men.
But compare the kinds of things feminsits complain about to what men go through. “If a women gets a six-figure salary, people think she got it through affirmative action.” Wow, that’s so sad; the 90% of homeless people who are men must really be crying over that problem.
Yeah, it’s both. Many of the male/female discrepancies that affect men are matters of life and death and they’re never discussed in public.
We’re always blaming “feminists”. Feminists? In my experience that vast majority of women (virtually all) have never shown any interest in anything that affects men, including let’s say the male suicide rate or that men die earlier. Or anything. Women, not just feminists.
Yet 9 out of 10 (generous over gen. btw) wymyn and a nearly equal number of men, will give you the ole’ “deer in the headlights” and glaze over completely at all of this FACT!
You will then be labled a misogynist with a bad attitude.
They just ain’t trying to hear it…
And so, life in the femocracy goes on, bidnazz as
Suzie-ual.
Women insisted on having equal access to every place men congregate, then after they gained admittance, they insisted on having “women-only” spaces because they say they are afraid of the men.
This really burns me up. Women have women-only organizations and no one says a thing, but men must be forbidden from joining men-only groups. WTF? Can women not conceive that we men need to get the hell AWAY from them now and then? Apparently not.
Same thing with jobs that were traditionally male, such as firefighting. First women insist, “We can do anything a man can; let us in!” They’re let in. Then, suddenly, “These screening requirements unfairly discriminate against women; we must have relaxed standards!” And: “You can’t expect us to sleep in dorms that MEN sleep in! Build us fancy, separate facilities!”
> “Definitely a nice read, and this just goes to show you we have no equality.”
Wimpitude.
“Nice read”? Leading to what ACTION?
Yeppers. We’re shown men have no equality…and then men do nothing about it.
Think feminists didn’t learn long ago that they can do anything they want to men and the very worst–
booga, booga “scary”– thing men will do is…sigh?
I’m going to say this with all due respect because I am sure you are well-intentioned and that your comments were not meant to be hurtful or counter-productive.
While many persons interested in men’s rights are content to float onto their favorite men’s rights site a couple of times a week and share whatever happens to pop into their heads — no matter how hurtfull, ill-informed, or wacky — others of us are working very hard every single day to slowly, but surely, change the public discourse. At my site, False Rape Society, we spend several hours each and every day researching the news, legal decisions, statutes, pertinent studies, and the general literature on the subject. We have done thousands of posts the past four or five years.
I can assure you that everyone interested in the subject is reading our blog. Not everyone likes it, and for some, it is the worst blog on the Internet but everyone reads it. How do I know? Some write to me. Some make speeches responding to things we write without citing us. (A Congressman responded to one of our posts with a crusade seeking the opposite result — he resigned in disgrace last year. His name is Anthony Weiner). Many mainstream news outlets — national television shows and world famous news networks — have asked for our help even though they won’t publicly cite us.
The result? You can’t “google” the words FALSE RAPE without getting our site at the top of your search. Moreover, when we started, the two percent canard was rampant; now, progressive Internet sites have pushed it up to 8 to 10 percent. Does anyone think that would have happened if a bunch of us weren’t constantly beating the drum? When the NY Times called a rape accuser a “victim,” we called them on it, and the story was immediately changed. These things don’t happen without a lot of us holding the people who dominate the public discourse responsible. We need to change the dialogue, and change happens slowly. Until several years ago, no one was holding them accountable, so patience is an important virtue in this movement.
Now, I’m going to say something personal to you. You may think that a lot of what you see here or on my site is useless. I might have wondered that myself at one time — until I got the first of several notes from guys who’ve told me that False Rape Society was instrumental in keeping them from taking their own lives. Paul has received the same kinds of notes. Now, that might sound flattering to some, but I don’t take it that way. I take it to mean that I have an awful lot of responsibility, because there are so few people doing what we do, and so many people need us.
While you may be content to cluck your tongue and declare our efforts useless, to a young man whose world has just collapsed beneath him because he’s been falsely accused of rape, our site is a life boat. These young men are overjoyed to learn that someone is fighting for them.
So is our work worthwhile? The fact that we’ve helped save several lives is all anyone needs to know to answer that. The answer is a resoudning yes.
> “why not cite out a source feminists could not dispute?”
Because it’s impossible. Like objecting to a salesperson. They will just ignore you and come at you again…if you let them.
We will never convert feminists. Just like no one could “enlighten” a Nazi. It’s using “reason” against “bias.” Always fails.
You can only win if you get more on your side than they have on theirs. Even then, they will never admit they were wrong. But who cares, so long as they sign YOUR terms of surrender.
Unless and until men unite and fight feminists, we’ll be using farts against lions. Hungry, never-sated, lions.
And liars.
The “Old Guard” never changes. Change comes by over-throwing them (militarily, socially, politically, etc,) or they age and die.
Millions of post-war Nazis continued to believe in their cause. It no longer mattered, though, since they were disempowered… and eventually died off.
Trying to make feminazis “see the light” is futile. We have to defeat them. Muttering online ain’t enough.
Agreed. Which is why we don’t argue with feminists. It goes nowhere and is ultimately a waste of time and resources!
Or as I like to say:
Arguing with feminists is like trying to teach a pig to sing; it can’t be done, it annoys the pig, and even if you succeed, no one wants to hear a pig sing anyway.
Leave the pigs… err… leave the feminists alone!
> “Women have women-only organizations and no one says a thing, but men must be forbidden from joining men-only groups. WTF?”
The “fuck” is that men let it happen.
If a guy tries to stab you, do you let him?
Yet when feminists stab men, men do nothing.
No mystery why the feminist cancer spreads: male passivity.
Absolutely. Human-Stupidity.com tries to analyze the deeper reasons as to why things go wrong the way they do.
Men are sheep that let feminism change laws, re-define language, get away with falsifying and repressing academic research, biasing school education. And do nothing. Maybe they write some articles.
Women at the same time organize big press events, huge demonstrations and lobby the United Nations and European Union.
And they enlist the help of men.
And even here, MRA’s fight each other and selectively support feminist issues. Repressive sex laws that afflict almost exclusively men are supported by a large number of father’s rights MRA’s that fight sex positive MRA’s because they think that big government needs to protect their daughters.
Let me elaborate. feminists are united and barely put up some token resistance to gendercide SCUM articles and are seen side by side with the author of such monstrosities.
MRA’s on the other hand drove Jay Hammers to such despair that he not only closed but deleted his excellent blog.
Feminists may differ, but they don’t fight each other. This is what makes them strong and makes MRA weak and ineffective. Comments?
Men are competitive but not in the same way women are competitive in their way with relationships and outward appeal.
In a nebulous blog of feminist persuasion the average commenter is less inclined to nit pick on academia, and the minutia of detail and will less likely open rifts where the squabbling will fall into.
MRA’s In a focused blog of anti feminist persuasion where the average commenter is more inclined to nit pick on academia need to draw upon the outer areas of their brains to suppress such ways.
We need to be aware of the bits of our brains evolved for ancient times, and pay homage to the broader brush strokes by drawing on our sheer insight and deeper thinking with such complex matters of the global gender holocaust.
We can do it, we are doing it more and more by virtue of the existence of this site’s survival to extraordinary growth. They are scared. They are very scared and the blooming of misandry here and there shows it all the more. The smarter ones in their yoke know this also but as froth with no beer their bubbles are doomed to collapse.
I believe this is because we are learning that the vapid cause and effect of immediate gratification of venting without question does nothing, and also our diligence of factual inspection is causing increased hesitation of the publication of knee jerk misandry in the media here and in the MSM. MRA’s are following through – Pen pitted against the sword and it’s aftermath.
I’m seeing it, you’re seeing it and they’re seeing it.
The feminists may present as a coherent flock of Brazilian wimmin stabbing spears in unison to their stomping, but this is as about as tremendous as it can get for them.
We on the other hand are like the technological evolution of the business in Silicon Valley in that we evolve at a quite frightening pace for them.
Time watches us patiently and will see us like a wet blanket covering their lazy lies and duplicitous ways.
I believe this in all my heart and love every day all the more because of it.
Hi Pierce, Just wanted to thank you for your article and all the hard work you are doing. So many laws are being changed worldwide, and the average hetero male is headed for the Swedish vision of the world. Where males have to accept a misandrist view of morality – where males are considered the only ones with any choice in sexual matters, and hence only males can be punished. Females are always victims no matter what.
Amen.
This article is an amazing summary of all that is wrong with feminist controlled society. Every single line sums up an entire major issue.
One of the 100 gems in this post:
When women commit domestic violence, it’s called “self defense.” When men act in self-defense, it’s called domestic violence;
Short, concise, shocking. How come that the world does not read this? President Obama, VP Biden, Hillary Clinton should be required to read this.
Now the average feminist or even the average uninformed chump will discard this, shrug it off, say all this is false propaganda. They would argue and contest each statement, line by line. Pierce Harlan could rebut, but the average college student, or any average chump trying to debate feminism would be at a total loss.
Therefore I would suggest only one major improvement: Each of these 100 different topic statements should link to an article that explains and proves that one statement.
This linking would not be much more work to the knowledgeable writer, but it would make such an article air tight, like scientific writing. It would differentiate substantiated MRA articles from feminist articles with unproven claims.
Pierce, you nailed the double standards issue on the head. Once you wake up, you see this stuff everywhere and it is enormous-a gargantuan giant biased against men. Most people are brainwashed and victims of feminist propaganda.