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Choice for Men; Compassion for Men

As some of you already know, something called “The Ultimate Men’s Summit,” is set to launch and will run from June 10th through June 19th of this month.  It is being billed as “the largest men’s telesummit in history.”

And it is using other verbiage to imply representation of the men’s movement.

Despite the presence of some visionaries like Robert Bly and Warren Farrell, the “summit” is largely populated with the names of men more commonly known for their misandry and derogation of men and boys.

If you look on their schedule you will see names like Michael Kimmel, Gay Hendricks and Arjuna Ardaugh.

And you will also see their unmistakable fingerprints in the core of the conference description, as follows:

The 5,500-year history of domination and control is coming to an end, and it’s clear we need a new model to replace it. Men seem to be caught between these two worlds: the old culture for which we’ve been trained, and the emerging culture we have yet to be prepared for.

This statement is an abomination. It is a hateful anchor chain wrapped around the necks of all men and boys and the forces behind this conference seek to add shackles to that chain for a future of abject servitude along the lines proposed by Hanna Rosin in “The End of Men.”

We must respond to this with force and vigor, and thankfully the organizers of the summit have provided us with the opportunity to do just that.

They are taking live calls throughout the event.

I respectfully submit that every man and woman who supports this website should be registered for the event (it is free) and plan to call in.

The only question is what to say when we call. The answer, in my opinion, is simple.

My suggestion is not to allow them the luxury of our justified anger; they will only use it to make a case that we are regressive traditionalists creating a backlash against change for men and against women’s rights.

We all know the truth is totally different. Feminism is socially and legally enforced chivalry, the ultimate in male and female gender roles.

We are the ones breaking out of the mold and moving into the new age. We are the ones putting an end to oppressive gender roles. So I suggest that is what we let them know, and that we point out to them exactly why they are nothing more than a continuation of the old paradigm, enforced with shame and bullets.

Let us challenge them by asking where, in all their “enlightened” concepts of masculinity, is there any mention of…

Choice for Men; Compassion for Men.

Where, in their supposed advocacy for ending gender roles, is there any work toward choice for men; in reproduction, in parenting, in taking dangerous jobs to subsidize the lives of women, in being able to defend themselves from female violence?

Where, in their supposed advocacy for ending gender roles, is there any work toward compassion for men; in the courts, in the workplace; in domestic violence; in paternity fraud; in false allegations of abuse and rape; in the social misandry that pervades our culture?

In the misandry they are furthering with their summit.

Where is the choice? Where is the compassion?

And ask them how they can pretend to talk about a new kind of masculinity, adapting to modern realities, if there is no discussion of these things; if, indeed, there is not even any acknowledgement that these problems exist.

I encourage everyone to participate; to be earnestly polite but clearly firm; to not accept brushoff answers and to call again and again to speak to as many presenters as possible.

It is our campaign, that of Choice and Compassion for Men, in the only real men’s movement for an end to gender roles that ever existed, and it is critical that we let them know that.

We need to repeat those words, in the midst of their conference, like a sacred mantra.

Choice for Men; Compassion for Men.

Please follow the link and read what is on their agenda. Please call them and ask, over and over again about Choice and Compassion for men.

And ladies, this is your chance to let them know what the MRM is made of. If you believe in Choice and Compassion for Men, please call and tell them.

I will be calling them myself, from home, and live from the radio show.

Do not let our movement be usurped, co-opted, diluted and misrepresented. Let everyone listening to this conference know what is happening here and why we are out here, fighting the fight.

It’s a golden opportunity insert the truth where it appears not to be wanted.

When it comes to registering and committing to this activism, can I please get a “done” in the comments?

Thank you.

REGISTER FOR THE SUMMIT HERE.

About Paul Elam

Paul Elam is the founder and publisher of A Voice for Men, the founder of A Voice for Men Radio, the AVfM YouTube Channel, and appears weekly on AVFM Intelligence Report, Going Mental with Dr. Tara Palmatier and monthly on MANstream Media with Warren Farrell and Tom Golden.

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  • Anti Idiocy

    While I appreciate the sentiment behind Paul’s article, and have a lot of respect for him and others on this board, I’m convinced that the presenters for this event are WAAAAAAY too far gone to be approachable with facts and reason (and, yes, that includes the great and wondrous Warren Farrell). This charade is self-rightous self-entertainment for the presenters — pseudo-intellectual, public masturbation. In response to strong counter arguments, they’ll just respond in their deeply considerate tones and learn nothing. The more I hear from twits like these, the more I’m convinced that game and/or MGTOW are the only reasonable way for a man to go.

    The economy is now almost certainly entering the second deep recession in this Greater Depression. Things are going to get very ugly, and clowns like these will almost certainly get swept aside by vast mobs of angry men.

    Canned food, bottled water, gold, and guns.

    • http://truthjusticeca.wordpress.com/ Denis

      I agree, you won’t convince them of anything. But what about all the other listeners?

      • Izzey

        That’s our true audience, Denis.
        Very good point.

        We’re not going to get anywhere in Fantasyland.
        But we sure can give other listeners something to think about.

  • Izzey

    The Shift

    From a worldview built on separation to one based on oneness.

    Rewiring of beliefs, identity, morals, economies, and even politics – an evolution of consciousness AND culture. Changes such as:

    Materialism > Sacred, living universe
    Protected borders > Open exchange
    Cutthroat capitalism > Socially responsible business
    Tribal, racial or national identity > Global human family
    National defense > International alliances
    Consumer waste > Restorative cycles
    Competing religions > Global spiritual pluralism
    Patriarchy > Masculine-feminine balance & partnership

    This IS happening

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    Okay.
    I have decided to focus on–
    “Patriarchy > Masculine-feminine balance & partnership”
    And how they propose to achieve “balance and partnership”

    I’m going to apoligize to all of you ahead of time for sounding like A complete ‘dumbed down sweet airhead’ at first.

    Then I’m going to hit ‘em with some ‘Izzey’. (A very respectable Izzey, of course)

    Did anybody notice our good friend Gay Hendricks (“Dear Woman” …all of us men are sorry we are assholes and want to lick your feet now…Gay Hendricks?)

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_uRIMUBnvw&feature=player_embedded

    Oh please let me get him on the phone.

    I’m making up a mock ‘Voir Dire’ in preparation.

    Izzey is psyched.

    ;)

  • http://rebukingfeminism.blogspot.com Red0660

    Men are the most ardent supporters of serving women what their requirements are. We are just the worker drones and she is the chooser, the goddess. She’s to powerful. Men will push ourselves to the breaking point for her. Who ever serves the goddess the best and most wins.

    Men’s Rights are finished. Men in government are the same way. They all serve the goddess. Perhaps we should just accept our lowly place as mere males, as servants to the goddess. I’m checking out from the whole show.

    I will not marry into this.

    • http://rebukingfeminism.blogspot.com Red0660

      Damn this is frustrating!!!!

  • http://rebukingfeminism.blogspot.com Red0660

    JUST PLAIN NEBULOUS METAPHYSICAL GARBAGE. SO THEY ARE GOING TO TEACH MEN HOW TO “ADAPT” TO HANNA ROSIN’S BULLSHIT AND MALE EXPENDABILITY AND LACK OF RIGHTS…NO THEY WON’T.

    LISTEN TO THIS NEBULOUS MISGUIDED METAPHYSICAL GARBAGE:

    “We are living through one of history’s great transitions – a major shift in social and cultural consciousness where institutions and structures of the past have been turned on their heads.

    The 5,500-year history of domination and control is coming to an end, and it’s clear we need a new model to replace it. Men seem to be caught between these two worlds: the old culture for which we’ve been trained, and the emerging culture we have yet to be prepared for.

    The truth is that even while men often wielded more power in the last era, it was often a harsh, isolating and punishing world for us. The opportunity is now before us to create something far more life-affirming, free and alive.

    So how do men fit into and lead in this brave, new uncertain world? How do we live a life of purposeful fulfillment, and make the greatest impact possible? And how do we relate to women and to rising feminine leadership and wisdom?

    Our answer is to bring together as many men as possible into deep conversation with experts and each other to engage in this emerging model of 21st Century Masculinity, which builds upon the masculine virtues of the past to create a higher synthesis. These leaders will come together in the largest virtual global gathering for men – all for free – with the Ultimate Men’s Summit.”

  • http://rebukingfeminism.blogspot.com Red0660

    I’ve been thinking more about this conference. What seems disconcerting to me is the prospect that Arjuna and Gay’s “Dear Women” philosophy is going to be the solution that most men pick up on and try to implement. That in fact it could be male biology to move in this direction, the direction of the “goddess” i.e the pussy.

    Maybe this the the place of mere male. Maybe it is our fate. You know I have to consider that it may very well be a possibility. This is not to say that things will work out for this civilization in the end through matriarchy. All known knowledge says that matriarchies do not survive. I am actually hoping that men can come to their senses and realize much of our problems stem from government and its courtship of female political agency to systematically remove all male rights to our bodies and thus the fruits of our labor and our children.

    Life under matriarchy as mere male worker drones is a nightmare but perhaps this is what men will accept in order to be worthy of the selective choice of the Goddess. Anyway I know the structural changes that come with matriarchy and it’s relation to fatherhood, monogamy, marriage and in general male enfranchisement. So, in the end men may win…by losing and everything going to shit as we progress toward the tyrannical omnipotent power of Slaves to the State.

    • Eff’d Off

      Hey Red buddy.

      You reckon if we slap on those robot arms we might have something good to go into battle with ?

      I didn’t tell you this in an email but the “robot arms” gem has me doing a scribble I think you might have a guffaw at.

      You wait and see, ok. It’s going up after the first summit call-ins.

      P.S. Think Borg, a film set and a vain as a peacock extra fucking up his lines.

      Oh it’s a riot Alice.

    • Keyster

      No, because it’s not our nature to be controlled.
      The struggle between progressive idealist and proven tradionalist is the basis of it. They want a tyrannical state where people are controlled by a master government and we want individual freedom and self reliance.

      The trick for them is once you attain this utopian worldview, you BECOME one of the controllers, oversee’ers, lord and masters over the prolatariat masses. The liberal elitist speaks from a very high perch over those that aren’t as informed and righteous. He’s knows what we need to do, if we’d only listen and conform.

  • http://rebukingfeminism.blogspot.com Red0660

    Perhaps the below the the place of the mere male worker drone. He’s lucky he was worthy of the goddess. This is where embracing the “dear woman” philosophy these guys espouse will end up. It is only the nature of things when females have dominant political agency as they do. What rights to fatherhood and in marriage do we mere males have. Perhaps the below is our place aye:

    • thehermit

      “Perhaps the below is our place aye:
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KYp_Xi4AtAQ

      That’s the nature of the praying mantis, but we are humans.

      “It is only the nature of things when females have dominant political agency as they do. What rights to fatherhood and in marriage do we mere males have.”

      The evil can and will win battles, but can not win the war.

  • ray

    be sure to ask all those henpecked emasculati how many falsely accused guys they kept out of jail during the past month

    you know, while they were busy climibing that Summit :O)

    mebbe they should invite kellett, they can all wail and sob together at a (shudder) “breakout session”

    • Eff’d Off

      Ha ha… Oh my !… “henpecked emasculati” ?

      Where the hell did you come up with that shit ?
      Bah – fucking – yootiful. :)

      P.S. I right clicked on “emasculati” and added it to the dictionary. I’m definitely going to use that in a drawing.

    • Keyster

      I’m afraid the term “falsely accused” would be completely foreign to them. They wouldn’t deny it exists, but it happens on such a small scale that they refuse to recognize it. So first you’d have to define it and by then you’ve already lost them and you’ll be politely moved on from.

      Don’t be an MRA. Speak in the context of their worldview, keep them engaged. Don’t say the kind of MRA shit that’ll tune them out. Use the words and phrases THEY can relate to, to make your point.

      We’re the resistance, the interlopers, the spies, the insurgency…this is guerilla tactics in a war of words. Approaching them as a proud and vocal MRA who speaks his mind no matter what and all that, is like running up against a battalion of soldiers with a sling shot.

      Enter their secular ideological world in a trojan horse, THEN attack.

  • James Cook

    For prank phone calls, you can take inspiration from Sergeant Hartman: http://www.snarkrocket.com/audio/campchaos-hartman-7eleven.mp3

  • Y

    Done!

  • Johnny

    This whole charade reminds me again of Adam Kostakis’ essay on gynocentrism- thats all this summit is- a testament to gynocentric hegemony.

    Recently read another interesting remark in a 2008 book which mirrors Kostakis’ highlighting of feminism as a continuation of chivalric servitude to women. Here’s the quote:

    “Feminism has not introduced any new idea or principle. because it’s just old-fashioned chivalry. This provides the key to understanding feminism. Feminism is merely a label attached to what was always, throughout human history, a predisposition. In the half-century that western cultures have enjoyed peace and prosperity, there have been no wars where men had to be conscripted to make women feel safe and grateful for men’s contributions. It was inevitable that, in the absence of war and the increased availability of leisure time, the provided-for sex will become the spoiled sex. It was inevitable, with the ready availability and subsequent misuse of cheap and effective contraception and abortion, that the provided-for sex will become the demanding sex. Chivalry extended by men out of the goodness of their gullible hearts becomes chivalry demanded by women indulging in their narcissism. Narcissistic Woman tells Man to his face. “l’m so beautiful, you’re so chump, take care of me,” and she gets away with it. Feminism has provided the symbol around which womanly self-indulgence – that was always present – can crystallize.”
    [From ‘Sanity's Insanity: Applying semiotics to understand the hidden world of mind, culture and gender roles’ p.272]

    Also read this today from an interview with the famous mythologist Joseph Campbell:

    Interviewer: So the age of chivalry was growing up as the age of romantic love was reaching out?

    Campbell: The Middle Ages was a strange period because it was terribly brutal. There was no central law. Everyone was on his own, and, of course, there were great violations of everything. But within this brutality there was a civilizing force which the women really represented because they were the ones who established the rules for this game.

    Interviewer: How did it happen that the women had the dominant influence?

    Campbell: Because if you want to make love to a woman, she’s already got the drop on you. The technical term for a woman’s granting of herself was ‘merci.’ The woman grants her ‘merci.’ Now, that might consist in her permission for the man to kiss her on the back of the neck once every Whitsuntide, you know, something like that – or it may be a full giving in love. That would depend upon her estimation of the character of the candidate… The essential idea was to test this man to make sure that he would suffer things for love, and that this was not just lust.

    Interviewer: Joseph, that may have emerged in the troubadour period, but it is still alive and well in East Texas.

    Campbell: Thats the force of this position. It originated in twelth century Provence, and you’ve got it now in 20th century Texas. [From - The Power of Myth].

    Says it all.

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  • Lance

    I am going to register, listen, and call in,

    if someone says something I agree with I will refer to it, repeat, and reaffirm my agreement to the statement.

    if someone says anything stupid (guessing there will be lots of that) I will refer, repat the statement, question with concern, and reply with logic and information to back up my concern.

    Remember, we are supposed to be the voices of reason. Don’t make this just about false allegations, or abuse of men.

    (They are claiming to be the voice for men) question them, Question what they believe in, Make them doubt their own beliefs if necessary. Use reason and logic to shed light on their faulty thinking, or irrational beliefs, or to add fuel to our fire.

    So what are the real issues men are facing today? Dating , divorce, financial stress ( the burden of responsibility is still on men even though many women earn as much or more), lack of programs for men, funding for education.

    Although I realize as a group men are falling behind, as an individual I am reclaiming my place. Thanks to sites like Pauls Elam’s AVFM and many other MRA’s that have been around for awhile. We are equipped, don’t be afraid of these guys, give them a chance, but hold them accountable.

    There is a principle in marketing to do with the purpose of a repetitive tv comercial…They are not designed to sell you something right there on the spot. They are designed to leave you feeling at least a little better about the product( in our case the MRA movement) than you did before, so that you will investigate further, or at the very least think of it when the need arises.

  • Matt

    Hi Mr. Elam!
    My wife bit some of my computers in different occasions with hammer in front and back just like this one which I kept it and all of my grad school projects’ software (my 2 masters and 2 years of PhD programs were in Instructional technology means computers, software, projects, web mastering and so on). Severity of my illnesses and disability stopped me to earn my doctoral degree. These were all my life long assets also dumped in dumpster by her for no reason.

    [img]http://avoiceformen.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/ONE OF MY DAMAGED DESKTOP COMPUTER BY MY WIFE-6.jpg[/img]

  • Matt

    Hi Mr. Elam!
    My wife bit some of my computers in different occasions with hammer in front and back just like this one which I kept it and all of my grad school projects’ software (my 2 masters and 2 years of PhD programs were in Instructional technology means computers, software, projects, web mastering and so on). Severity of my illnesses and disability stopped me to earn my doctoral degree. These were all my life long assets also dumped in dumpster by her for no reason.

    [img]http://avoiceformen.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/ONE OF MY DAMAGED DESKTOP COMPUTER BY MY WIFE-8.jpg[/img]

  • http://about.me/KevinWmCox Kevin Cox

    Done. “Argumentum a Fortiori” (argument ‘from [the] stronger [reason]‘)

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    • http://avoiceformen.com Paul Elam

      Thanks!