I read many parenting blogs, especially ones written by men about their experiences as fathers, and have noticed a frightening trend – men have no clue how to be fathers these days.
Bullshit feminist driven parenting methods like attachment parenting have created an environment which has removed any and all authority from fathers and left them cringing in a corner like spineless jellyfish, incapable of exerting any authority over their children.
A good example of this spineless method of parenting can be seen over at The Good Men Project in an article written by Nathan Graziano. It is just one sad example of how emasculated and powerless fathers have become, and how fathers, such as Graziano are oblivious to the fact that they have handed over their ability to be fathers and are now nothing more than castrated males with an illusion of authority where there is none.
Fathers have lost their place in the family and are now left confused and powerless while their children walk all over them and become the leaders of the family. It’s a recipe for disaster.
Feminism has stripped men of their ability to be authority figures because it teaches men that having authority is bad. Men who express any type of authority are labeled as mean, uncaring, and even abusive. Their role as father has been reduced to nothing more than that of a helpless bystander who can no longer parent with any authority. Instead, fathers are reduced to negotiating with their children for any semblance of authority which leads to an unhealthy competition between father and child to see who will have the dominant role in the family. Most fathers these days seem to be losing their spot as the alpha male within the family as their children now begin assuming that role and dictating how the family is ultimately structured and run.
Fathers are told to be their child’s ‘friend’ instead of being their child’s parent which is leading to a whole generation of children growing up with no sense of direction or self-control. These children are learning to have an unhealthy sense of entitlement and have an inability to deal with any authority. They have no idea about quaint notions like ‘boundaries’ or ‘the consequences of their actions’. We are witnessing the creation of a generation of narcissistic little assholes who feel the world owes them something for having done absolutely nothing.
A fathers job is supposed to be multifaceted with their primary roles being that of teacher and role-model to their children. But what kind of lessons are fathers teaching to their children today other than how to be out of control, self-absorbed little monsters with no regard for any rules or authority? What kind of role-models are they to their kids other than showing their children, especially their boys, how to be spineless amoebas who cower in corners when they are adults?
How are fathers supposed to teach their children how to grow up to be self-sufficient, strong, independent, adaptable, confident and well-adjusted when they themselves can’t model these things for their children as parents?
Now let me be absolutely clear here for any anyone who may be reading this and thinking I am some sort of advocate for screaming at, or beating one’s child. When I speak of authority and consequences, I do not mean anything abusive. I am not advocating physical or mental abuse in any way and condemn all such behavior. But I do advocate for fathers to set rules, boundaries, schedules, and codes of conduct which their children are taught to follow and that are enforced with appropriate punishments, or the removal of privileges and the like. I am advocating for the teaching of fathers on how to be effective fathers who are not afraid to make any decisions or exert any authority in regards to their children.
We are headed for absolute disaster if we do not start changing the message now and start teaching fathers that it is OK to be authoritative and teaching them to lay down the law with their children. We need to let men know that being a father is OK, and that having their child cry, or be punished for acting badly does not make them some sort of monster. That teaching their children consequences to their actions is not abusive-completely to the contrary. Being their child’s friend instead of their father is the worst thing they could ever do for their child, and that this type of behavior is actually closer to abuse than that of a properly placed punishment or stern talking to.
Children need rules, direction, and authority in order to thrive. Children need to fail, to fall down, to get hurt, to cry, and to see consequences to their actions in order to be healthy and well-adjusted. Fathers need to realize that hearing their child mutter under their breath, “I hate you” does not mean the end of the world or that they have failed as a parent. If anything, it means you are probably on the right track – as a parent, when your child tosses those three words at you, it means they cannot get away with everything, and that you’re probably drawing healthy boundaries for them.
It’s time to give fathers back their power as parents. Society needs to wake up and see the irreparable damage being done to our children because of the stigma and constraints that have been put on a father’s ability to parent effectively.
The message needs to change for the sake of our children. Fathers need to reclaim their roles as parents and reject feminism’s ideological bullshit which has pushed them aside and made them into the invisible and incompetent parent. They need to reclaim their seat of parental authority for the sake of their children, and for that of society as well.
Feminism has destroyed a father’s ability to be a father. Fathers are no longer allowed to hold any position of authority lest they be labeled a bad man or an abusive parent.
“One father is enough to govern one hundred sons, but not a hundred sons one father”
- George Herbert
One of the best gifts you can give a child is that of a good father who teaches and guides them with confidence and strength. Let’s give those tools back to our fathers.