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E-mail RAINN on Saturday, March 15, 2014

The current FBI definition of rape is “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.” As we’ve said before, this erases victims of rape who are forced to penetrate, generally men forced to have sex with women. The number of victims who are erased this way is not insignificant; according to the 2010 CDC NISVS, it’s almost equal to the number of women who are raped.

While the FBI definition doesn’t have a direct legal impact, it affects how crime statistics are collected and serves as a model to state legislatures. This continued erasure is a self-perpetuating cycle that must be stopped. Rape victims who are not ciswomen victimized by cismen need more support. With this in mind, I’m asking any readers of this post to help me in an effort to try and create a world in which fewer rape victims are erased.

While it’s probably unrealistic to expect the FBI to change their definition again in the next few years, it might be possible to encourage certain other organizations to stop erasing male victims. RAINN in particular is a very popular source of statistics regarding rape, some of which erase many victims.

I’d like to get as many people as possible to contact RAINN at info@rainn.org and/or
chelseab@rainn.org
on Saturday, March 15, 2014, asking them to consider using a more gender-inclusive definition for their statistics and rape awareness campaigns. It would be best for all of this contact to happen all on the same day; it’s easy to ignore a few scattered pleas, but a flood of concern is harder to brush off. Until that date, I’d like people to reblog this post and spread the message as much as possible. Talking to local feminist groups or other gender rights-oriented groups is particularly important. Additionally, I’d like anyone interested in taking a more active role to contact me; a clearer line of communication would help me organize this effort.

While we most likely will not succeed at actually getting RAINN to change their policies, this campaign will increase the visibility male victims, help us learn how to organize social justice campaigns, foster positive connections with feminist groups, and encourage greater activism within the MRM and egalitarian movements.

What do you guys think?

-DJ

info@rainn.org is the “umbrella” RAINN e-mail for contact. Here’s a possible general model for e-mails directed there:

I’m an individual concerned about gender issues. While RAINN’s overall message and purpose is amazing, your methods often are both problematic and uninclusive.

Your definition of rape, which can be found at http://www.rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/definition-of-rape, is pretty intersectional. However, it directly contradicts one statistic regarding male victims that can be found at http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims. The current FBI definition of rape is “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.” This erases victims of rape who are forced to penetrate, generally men who are forced to have sex with women. The number of victims erased this way is not insignificant; according to the CDC NISVS, it’s almost equal to the number of women who are raped. More information on the topic can be found at http://permutationofninjas.org/post/57003274589/gender-symmetry-in-sexual-assault-an-analysis-of-the.

You should change some of the information on your site and materials to more accurately represent the facts. Additionally, some particular campaigns, such as http://www.rainn.org/get-information/sexual-assault-prevention/men-can-help, should become more inclusive. Changing the message from “men can try and stop rape” to “everyone should try and stop rape” would be a good start towards addressing sexual assault without erasing male victims or female perpetrators.


chelseab@rainn.org
is an e-mail line for membership inquiries. Here’s a possible model for e-mails directed there:

Mrs. Chelsea Bowers,

I’m an individual concerned about gender issues. RAINN’s overall message and purpose is amazing, and I’d be interested in joining and supporting your organization. However, your methods often seem both problematic and uninclusive.

Your definition of rape, which can be found at http://www.rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/definition-of-rape, isn’t the best, but it’s okay. However, it directly contradicts one statistic regarding male victims that can be found at http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims. The current FBI definition of rape is “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.” This erases victims of rape who are forced to penetrate, generally men who are forced to have sex with women. The number of victims erased this way is not insignificant; according to the CDC NISVS, it’s almost equal to the number of women who are raped. More information on the topic can be found at http://permutationofninjas.org/post/57003274589/gender-symmetry-in-sexual-assault-an-analysis-of-the.

You should change some of the information on your site and materials to more accurately represent the facts. Additionally, some particular campaigns, such as http://www.rainn.org/get-information/sexual-assault-prevention/men-can-help, should really become more inclusive. Changing the message from “men can try and stop rape” to “everyone should try and stop rape” would be a good start towards addressing sexual assault without erasing male victims or female perpetrators.

Thank you, and I’d love to hear back from you!

(YOUR NAME)

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  • alivoh

    Asking them to “consider using a more gender-inclusive definition for their statistics and rape awareness campaigns” is too vague. Instead, why not suggest some specific language?

  • Nightwing1029

    I am up for it, Dean. Just might need a reminder tweet/FB post on the day of.

    • MGTOW-man

      All of us should get a reminder here on this site the last few days before and on March 15.

      I am glad I have been asked to help and I will proudly comply. Small activism begets bigger stuff. Small things DO count. I have written so many organizations feminists and otherwise; they always ignore or reply something hatefully against us being able to do our own thinking. But, being the activist I have always been, they will get a few emails from me.

      United, we stand a chance; Divided, we will be erased! Literally… this is not just a meme I have coined, like this article says, ” we…erased!”

  • Mateusz Wacek

    I really think the core issue of rape with regards to men’s rights is the way it’s defined. It’s pretty much what all other issues stem from. It makes rape “something men do to women”, meaning that to support due process means being “anti-women” in the eyes of the public, while making it easier to get a conviction (evidence be damned) means you are “protecting women”.

    Feminists, with their political clout, can make rape include any and everything they want it to, since there’s no fear that it’ll harm women. If the definition were to be neutral, then women could be convicted of having sex with a drunk man (there would still be the court bias, but at least it’d be technically possible), and if it was as easy to convict a woman of rape as it is to convict a man, you can bet the feminists will ratchet down their crusade against rape, as the wrong people (read: women) would be caught up in the convictions. .

  • http://stgeorgewest.blogspot.co.uk/ angelo

    PUBLIC SERVICE
    Genuinely happy people are so sexy…

    …so why’s my first thought, ‘god I hope she’s not a feminist.’ Feminism creep, what a fucking downer!

    On the other hand, it’s Saturday and I’m going my own way, so if I meet her happy hot doppelganger at tonight’s festivities let’s hope she comes correct, (honey badger mindset) then it’s all good. Have a great weekend everyone.

    P.S. Don’t forget to pack a recording device along with your french ticklers for your protection against feminasties false rape accusations. Modern mobile phones usually have video and sound recorders. Safety first. ;-)

  • earth one

    This page, which is linked on RAINN’s main page, is devoted to male victims of sexual assault. The page itself is called “Male Sexual Assault.” Those words are already loaded with implications: sexual assault defined as “Male.”

    What’s disturbing about this information is that it implies that ALL sexual assaults against men are by other men, ie, heterosexual men may ‘fear that the assault will make them gay':

    http://rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/male-sexual-assault

    It states that 10% of sexual abuse survivors are male, and then links to 1in6.org, which suggests that 1 in 6 men are survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

    From the page:

    Heterosexual Male Survivors

    May experience a fear that the assault will make them gay.
    May feel that they are “less of a man.”

    Homosexual Male Survivors

    May feel the crime is “punishment” for their sexual orientation.
    May worry that the assault affected their sexual orientation.
    May fear they were targeted because they are gay. This fear may lead to withdrawal from the community.
    May develop self-loathing related to their sexual orientation.

    By implication, this language defines the issues of survivors of sexual abuse/assault as if only men are perpetrators.

    I guess I was just imagining that endless stream of stories on the Internets about female school teachers sexually assaulting their young male students.

  • Duke

    I believe history will not view the current pork bloating / manufactured statistics Triangles between American law enforcement, and gender-feminist groups; with much sympathy.

  • Allan

    I’ve had quite a lot of experience with RAINN and it’s affiliates while advocating for male victims of ASA/CSA (and as a “victim” myself). I would say this is quite misguided.

    They know the facts. I heard them in sexual assault advocate training, it’s on the web in great detail and from many men in support groups. They just don’t care about male victims. As they call them, “an under=served community”. It’s by design. The RAINN affiliates around here flatly tell men “we don’t help men” and they don’t. While creating “gender inclusive” web sites and PR.

    Understand this. They don’t care. You can’t make people care about you. Your “facts”, your tears, your suicide attempts, your protests and emails…. won’t make them care. That comes from within. True, you can try to get some kind of caring expression (help, sympathy, treatment) by asking, expressing your pain but it’s very risky. They quickly label you a perpetrator (and who cares about sex offenders?) or turn you away in a way that creates great shame. False accusations, isolation, relationship issues…. It’s too risky. Men generally “know” this. That’s why they don’t talk about their sexual abuse/assaults.

    Without caring, you have nowhere near the numbers and presence to force anything. It’s you against a trained army.

    What needed is teaching people to care. How do you do that? I think that can best be done by example. Show people “caring for male victims of sexual abuse and assault”. But it’s very, very difficult because so few really care, and there is far, far more hostility to that caring, and hard to control situations so it doesn’t turn into shaming and not caring. Hate wins out. BTDT.

  • J.G. te Molder

    Don’t forget, it doesn’t just erase men, it also erases women who are raped by women. That demographic too should be added to the letter; they are as important as any other victim of rape, men included, and have use for our cause as much as the male victims.

    Any resource that shows that women are merely our equal, and can be just as violent and vile as any man can be, is another utility to undo the ignoring of female perpetrators.

  • J.G. te Molder

    Don’t forget, it doesn’t just erase men, it also erases women who are raped by women. That demographic too should be added to the letter; they are as important as any other victim of rape, men included, and have use for our cause as much as the male victims.

    Any resource that shows that women are merely our equal, and can be just as violent and vile as any man can be, is another utility to undo the ignoring of female perpetrators.