AVfM’s research editor Kyle Lovett will be appearing as a special guest on Dad’s on the Air Radio, the longest running radio program regarding men and fathers in Australia, and likely the world. Kyle will be talking about the upcoming legal Kamikaze attack on men in Australia, a subject he has extensively researched and written about here at AVfM for the past several weeks.
Also on that show will be Barbara Kay, a Canadian columnist for the National Post. Kay often produces some very sound critique of feminist perspective on issues like domestic violence.
The show airs on Tuesday, January 31, and a link to the broadcast archive will be made available here after the episode airs.
Many thanks to Kyle for his continued efforts to put this information in the spotlight.
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Go, Kyle, go!
Congratulations Kyle! It is very cool listening to that show here in the states.
I have been reading here (all the articles) but have been very quiet. A lot is going on here, and I feel the least I can do is read the fine writing that takes place here to keep up. My apologies for not commenting on articles.
That is about to change.
Thank you for the immaculate research you put into your articles.
So looking fwd to your Australian show Kyle. Please feel free to use my adaptation of “I love a sunburnt country” if you wish. Its a very iconic Aussie song and may have an impact. (I am a father without my daughter.) Either way you have woken this aussie up and he’s trying to make a splash and expose this as much as he can within his limited capacity. Having downloaded “the Plan” your diagnosis of it is brilliant, I don’t know how you got through the thing. I read enough to find some truths…
Go Kyle Go indeed!
[EDIT] They put a fatherhood show on at 1030am-noon on a tuesday? Wonder how many fathers that reaches? =S
That’s 10.30AM Australian EST. Look up broadcast time for your area on the world clock here.
I daresay the morning timeslot in Oz is to catch mothers, who probably need to hear the discussion more than fathers. Not sure about that though.
Thank you Booyah! It is my intent, with some amount of luck, to challenge folks to care about what’s going on, get people to want to read the Plan and to rattle lots and lots of cages.
It was nice to put your voice to things as I had already for Paul and JTO. Great show and thanks again.
Congrats Kyle you have hit the big time.
Barbara Kay on the show as well.
Denis doesn’t think much of her but overall she is a supporter and very well known here in Canada.
Looking forward to it.
I have some concerns about her as well, but to me the big picture says she is an asset.
Looking forward to Kyle kicking some tail.
How about inviting her for an interview?
I am both her biggest fan and her biggest critic. She doesn’t get any free pass just because she’s a woman and occaisionally writes about male victims of DV. Most of her recent work has been about trying to save those foreign women under the clutches of those foreign patriarchs. Of course, the solution is to send western men to war to fight against muslims. BK will never let go of her love for male utility and disposability.
I totally agree Denis. I don’t give her a pass because of the location of her genitalia and certainly she has disappointed me at times but if she can be a conduit to the mainstream we can use her without any guilt.
She’s got more balls than most of the other columnists at the NP and I’d rather her write about all her opinions than none.
I don’t know if it’s because of the change in NP ownership or the fleshing of her ideological position on equal parenting, but she hasn’t written much positive about men in the past few years. She does empathise with male victims of DV and family court injustices.
She took an ideological stand with Tasha Khierredan against equal parenting based on Australian research so I’m curious how she will address this topic on Australian radio.
I noticed the difference in her columns as well. The overall tone of the newspaper seems to have differed as well.
Exciting news!! This site and the people involved (including some of the best writers in the world!) are really starting to make an impact. Each time I come back here, I see new people commenting and that little world map which shows the traffic is loaded! Lots of growth and interest and it’s not only interesting…it’s fascinating! I’m so encouraged right now. Thank you AVfM staff and Congratulations KYLE!!!
LOL Thanks Cumbria! I hope I can make some people take notice.
I just know you’ll rock the house, Kyle.
‘Nuff said.
I’ve listened in to Dads On the Air for a while now and can vouch for both its quality and pull-no-punches attitude to misandry. Other media outlets have been approached with Kyle’s articles too so, hopefully, a few others will pick up the story once it gets out there. I daresay very few will want to be the first to broach this topic for fear of a public lambasting but there does seem to be genuine interest out there (not a lot, but any interest is good).
The mainstream media will always be our blood enemy.
FYI:-
Dads on the air i-tunes link below.
http://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/dads-on-the-air/id251680408
Congratulations Kyle! looking forward to it but may only be able to catch it on the replay. the 10.30 am time slot is not all that friendly to us workers. I know you will be as clear,logical and convincing in interview as your are in your written works.
Your destined to become an Aussie hero Kyle, at least with the non-feminist, non-mangina portion of the population…..mmmmmm……I don’t think a bronze statue of you will be going up anytime soon.
I know your not Aussie by the way, but that is no barrier to being an Aussie hero.
Congrats Kyle !
I will be tuning in for sure.
In regards to Ms Kay well like any reporter sometimes you agree with their stuff sometimes you don’t. I agree with Paul she is for the most part an asset to the men’s rights movement.
I will thank her for her articles in regards to most of men’s rights issues.
This article by Ms Kay specifically:
http://www.barbarakay.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=485&Itemid=9
for it has lead to a welcomed friendship with Brenda.
An excerpt from the article:
“On Aug. 31 Paul Donovan, age 50, a reliable long-haul trucker, lay down beside train tracks near his home in London, Ont., and rolled himself into the path of an oncoming train. Most people would call it a suicide. Not his common-law partner, Brenda Higgins. Ms. Higgins holds Ontario’s Family Responsibility Office (FRO) liable for his death, and will launch a lawsuit to that effect.”
I talk with Brenda quite a bit and just got off the phone with her around 1:30 am EST tonight.
Brenda has over time come to mean a lot to me. She understands exactly what is going on to men these days.
I have listened to her horror story and she to mine.
I feel weak saying it but I have shared a lot of tears with her about how misandry is killing men up here in Canada (North America and other developed countries as well as I’ve come to discover) all the time.
Brenda has shared a lot of the issues surrounding Paul’s death and I have shared my own close call with suicide over misandry (60 otc sleeping pills and 8 gravol to keep them down)
I can’t really talk about what Brenda has shared with me about Paul’s death due to the pending lawsuit, so I will share with you some of the things I have told her
That event lead to me spending 2 weeks at the local basket weaving club where 29 years earlier my older brother did himself in on Mother’s day weekend in 1982.
Mothers yah they can be some of the most evil people in the world. And there I was, same psych hospital, same weekend 29 years down the road after Anthony my brother did himself in there.
The reason why I took all those pills, I just couldn’t look in the mirror without a mountain of disgust after pleading guilty to a lie. How could I be so fucking weak to take a plea bargain? I still ask my self that question.
Add to that the betrayal from my immediate family, the fact that, I and my future didn’t matter. Lead me to the very darkest places I have experienced in my life.
Mother’s Love; yah right I think I would experience more love from a fire ants nest after doing my version of riverdance on it.
And here’s an example why I say that.
I made contact with my deceased brother’s last girl friend via face book at Christmas time 2010.They were still dating at the time of his death. We played catch up as we had not talked with each other for many years. I let her know how I was fighting for men’s rights and how it had now become a legal issue. She wanted to come by and visit for a coffee and do a face to face catch-up. At the time I was under court ordered isolation for a first offence not even convicted. ( S 264 uttering a threat ) My surety stipulations were so strict that I could not leave the property without being in the company of my surety. My surety was my mother, who after watching me do a 14 day hunger strike at the barton street hotel where I lost 29 pounds realized just how pissed and serious I was about men’s rights and justice finally agreed to post surety. (this hunger strike can be confirmed by the Ont Ombudsman)
When I told my mother Anthony’s last girlfriend wanted to stop by for coffee and catch up her reply was ” if she shows up I will call the cops and tell them she is bringing you drugs” A bold faced lie from the woman who brought Anthony, me and 1 other son into this world.
I informed Anthony’s last girlfriend about this threat from my so called loving mother and how coffee and catch-up needed to be canceled. I sent her an email via fb. Her reply was “you forget Dan I dated your brother and I seen what she did to him.”
I really became aware of why Anthony did himself in on mother’s day weekend all those years ago. The scars of betrayal from family are perhaps the deepest one can ever experience.
For those of you who read my comment on Paul’s Holiday wish to us in Dec 2011 I have given you just one reason why I told them to go pound salt when invited for X-Mas dinner and why Paul’s message that men matter meant so much to me at that point in time, not that it means any less now.
Shall I go on, sure fuck it I really am tired of hiding their cowardice.
My Little brother is a world class fighter. Would jump in the ring with anybody. Runs a martial arts school and has traveled the world fighting for team Canada. When crimes were committed against me by an ex involving the theft of court documents sent via snail mail to her place by accident his reply was ” this sounds like a train wreck and I don’t want to be involved.”
I had waited 3 years for my turn before a court of proper jurisdiction, all of it robbed from me by an unscrupulous bitter woman. I had used up every asset I had patiently waiting my turn in line for court. He knew it and yet after I had complained to the local keystone constabulary about the crime and was told on Feb 3 2009 by the desk Sgt at 7:20 pm to ” suck it up, we don’t intend to enforce the law” I still received no support from him.
I had legal redress, I could circumvent the keystones by doing what is called a pre enquete hearing. I am familiar with the law I had taken post secondary classes about it. I ran out of money to finish them. So while I had a fairly good understanding I was nervous and lacking experience to do that type of hearing. I asked my brother for a loan of a $ 1000.00 to hire a lawyer to do this for me. I also informed him that the money would be returned by way of the lawyer asking for expenses for doing the pre-enquete from the accused. Not a major issue he is not a poor man by any means. In fact he is upper middle class and then some.
To my shock he refused, this after a year before he offered to take me to Ireland, and his wealth had not changed since then.
Again his words from early in Feb rang out in my ears, “train wreck , I don’t want to be involved,” the truth my future didn’t matter to him either.
He is also the father of a son, my nephew whom I would give my all to protect. My little brother was well aware of the injustice being inflicted upon his own brother because he is a man and yet for some strange reason he can’t understand that by not doing the right thing now it will ultimately affect his son in the future.
All this coming from the brother whom I protected in grade school when a bully who was older than me was beating on him. Older bigger and yet I stood and protected him. The little brother whom after learning our father was on his death bed and not talking with him for 10 years due to an issue with the ugly step-monster pleaded with me to help him make peace before our father died, and I did it in a heart beat.
Yes the betrayal of family has cut me far deeper than any betrayal by the misandric justice system ever could hope to, and trust me they hoped to.
I had 3 justices of the peace under investigation, I told cops to go pound salt and give me your badge numbers when protesting in front of the Sopinka Court house here in Hamilton. Threaten me with an arrest for invoking and using my right to freedom of speech, freedom of expression. Fuck you keystone bigot fucktards who swear an oath to the rights enshrined in Canada’s Constitution.
I was in their face after discovering the lie our justice system spreads about all are equal in the eyes of the justice system.
All this and more my brother knew about and trust me there is a lot more illegality engaged in and condoned by the Ontario justice system and I have kept every damned document, their words, their documents their law breaking, my ammo.
Again I remember Paul’s holiday wish, the phrase ” men matter” the timing of those words were perfect for me. I damn well made my little brother aware of those words typed by Paul and it felt bloody fantastic saying them.
Two words, three syllables and an irrefutable truth.
Thank you for those words Paul I just want you to know how much they mean to me.
Back to Brenda,
Since I have become more active on AVfM by commenting instead of just reading articles posted here. The conversations with Brenda have included those topics. She understands and agrees with the issues.
Brenda knows men matter.
Kyle, Don’t mean to take away from what you are about to do sir. I am sure you will do us all proud and make sure the people of Oz know that the ugly sisters behind the curtain are not Glinda, the Good Witch of the North but are in fact the wicked witches of the east and west combined.
Paul if you catch this comment I would be willing to ask Brenda if she or her legal counsel would be willing to do an interview with AVfM.
Absolutely. I would be most interested in having her on. Please pursue.
Also, thank you for your recent donation!
First, Talked to Brenda today and she is interested will know more by Monday. You just may see her signing up for an account on AVfM here very soon.
Second, AVfM / you are more than welcome for the donation. And it is I who owe you and the AVfM team a debt of gratitude. Two years of screaming in a vacuum put me in the hospital.
Brother, your story is deeply moving. Be assured that you will not be in a vacuum again on these issues.
The world is slowly awakening to the terrible injustices perpetrated on men by the misandric system and one day soon those resposible will be held to account. It may not be on our watch but it will happen. Mark my words.
Alphabeta,
Thanks for the kind words.
My story is one of millions and I am well aware that it is not as bad as some have endured. And yes there will be a day of reckoning, until then this brother from Hamilton Ont. is doing what he can to drag this shit called misandry out into the light of day.
Now if I could just find a writer, as my grammar is deplorable, I would give full access to a stack of documentation recordings and anecdotal evidence to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt misandry is actively engaged in and condoned by the Ontario justice system.
Now if you’ve read some of my comments you will find for some unknown reason irony follows my tragedies. The shrink who seen me after the pills, his name is Dr. Deadman. I shit you not how’s that for some funny weird ass shit.
@Dannyboy:
I agree. You just can’t make shit like that up.
I would never go see a doctor with that name.
Thanks all, I’m looking forward to the show. Just listening to last nights show.
“Paul if you catch this comment I would be willing to ask Brenda if she or her legal counsel would be willing to do an interview with AVfM.”
Push as hard as you can!Played the right way, this could at last be the spark that ignites the powderkeg.
It would be worth dedicating a whole show to this!
Remember guys it is essential we grow the movement!
Karma,
I can only ask and as mentioned above she is interested whether it will be a radio show or a written interview will have to be up to AVfM and her.
She is passionate about stopping this from happening to other men.
Like I said she gets it that men matter and knows men are getting boot eff’d large by society today. She has already been active in speaking before the courts on behalf of another trucker who was in the process of loosing his license.
She was successful in stopping that particular case of injustice.
Perhaps you could send us both an introductory email?
Paul,
expect an email shortly. Her face book alright with you?
hello Paul l am Brenda and l am will to tell you of my story from the beginning and try and help other men out there to stop this from ever happening again it is a nightmare that will never leave me. I am one voice but together we can become one big voice and stop the misandry and make them understand that behind that number is a human life, And that men matter. I am the Brenda that is in the Barbra Kay article.
Hi Brenda,
I have just spotted the introduction on Facebook. I am going to reply to it now. Thanks for stepping forward.
Paul
Fingers crossed.
I am here and l am ready to become a voice
Hi Brenda, and welcome!
..and we are listening. Welcome Brenda.
Welcome, Brenda. Very interested in what you want to say.
Welcome
Hello every one let me tell you of the nightmare l have been living sense August 31 2010. My common law partner was an over the road truck driver for 30 years. On December 17 2009 his AZ licence was stripped from him he was on the road at this time on the states side trying to get back home for Christmas to his family. He didn’t get this piece of mail from FRO until December 30 when he went to his mother’s to pick it up. Paul went to court on January 5th 2010 with the mother of his children and asked the judge how he could go about getting his licence back and was told l can’t help you with that. So when he got home we called FRO and they said they wanted 1506 dollars before they would give them back money we didn’t have, he called the mpp and the ombudsman and still they couldn’t help. We went to the court house on many occasions and still no answers. So on May 9th of 2010 he left the house around 1 30 in the afternoon, I just thought he went over to a friends were we lived but as time passed by l got concerned and called his mother as it was mother’s day and thought he might of went there but he didn’t, so l called his son and asked if he heard from his dad at all and he said no so l asked if he would come into town and help me look for him he said he had no gas so l asked to speak with his mom and told her what was going on and her reply to me was what do you want Matthew to do and l said to help me find him. I pleaded with her to take out the payments from FRO and talk with Paul and come up with a payment so he could get his licence back and she said her hands were tided and she couldn’t do nothing about it. Which l no is b.s. because it is only a phone call and it is done as long as both parties agree to it. After l got off the phone l asked my oldest son if he had seen the car keys he looked in the top desk draw and found them l went to put them back after l called a friend to come down, l seen a letter and thought is that an old letter or a new one so l pulled it out of the draw and it was new by this time his mom was back on the phone with me and l read it to her it was a suicide letter out lining our life together and what l was suppose to give all the children and his last line said ” l will be watching over you’s from above” l was in shock so his mother called the police and they came to our home and took it serious enough to put his picture on the 6 o’clock news and started to canvas around or home some one spotted him at Tim Horton’s and called 911. Eight police cars went flying to go get him when they got to him he thought oh they must be looking for someone not realizing it was him, they took him to the hospital were he was released and sent home saying he was mildly depressed. So we still went to go get his licence back but no success. So on August 31 he had court with FRO in Goderich Ontario he took off out the door before the alarm went off so he had about a 45 minute head start on me, so l went to court for him and l got his licence back for him and he doesn’t no this. When l got home l called his son and told him that his dad took off again what do you want me to do and he said leave it alone he will be back so l called his mother and we went and put flyers out at the truck stops to see if anyone had seen him. I came home and sat and waited but as the day went on it was hard to wait so every time someone went out l would go look for him but l just couldn’t see him any where then around 9 30 at night l got this feeling some one was watching me so l got up and went to the end of the sidewalk to look around l new he was close but yet so far away so l went out once again to go look for him. I came across the scene of the accident at 11 40 pm, I new right then and there it was him, I gave a full detailed description of him right down to his shoes they said to go home they would be over when they were done. So l went home and l could hardly breathe my friends went and got my oldest son and my best friend and when they came in they tried to tell me every thing was ok but l just new it wasn’t. When the police arrived they told me it was him and that he was gone he layed beside the tracks and rolled himself on to them and turned his head. This nightmare is still with me my world was turned upside down that night and my rock was taking away from me. I went 22 days with no sleep and not eating and l ended up in the hospital for 6 weeks. Leaving my oldest son to take care of the home along with his brother and sister when it should of been me there taking care of them. There are days when l sit back and think to myself this is one death that didn’t have to happen if some one just had taking the time to listen and when some one did listen it was to late. Now let me ask you this have you ever looked into your love one’s eyes and they were not there just a shell and you couldn’t help because every where you turned you kept hitting a brick wall. What is it gonna take for FRO to look into theses cases a little bit better and see that when someone is down on there luck cut them a break and help instead of killing them slowly from the inside out. My name is Brenda Marie Donovan and I AM ALIVE and trust me when l say my partners name will not go down in vain.
Brenda,
I tried contacting you on facebook. Can you please email me at avoiceformen@yahoo.com I would very much like to speak with you if you don’t mind.
People from outside of this forum often do not entirely understand the importance of the work being done on this site, until they have lost a loved one themselves.
We may at times come across as a bunch of women hating knuckledragging neanderthals, but your story is a prime example of some of the things we are trying to prevent on these pages. It needs to be said very clearly and in a loud voice, that when men are being thrown under the wheels by an unjust society, the pain and suffering resulting from this does not extend to those men alone. It has repercussions that affects the lives of everyone surrounding that person, be it women, children or other men. A human being has value, no matter which gender, and should be treated with the same respect and decency that are offered to any other human being.
Now, we don’t know eachother Brenda, but let me assure you that you have my deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolences in your time of grief and loss.
-And welcome to A Voice for Men, where your voice will be heard too.
Kimski.
I’m very sorry for your loss, Brenda. I hope you’ll take small comfort in the knowledge that an ever-increasing number of people are dedicating their lives to eradicating the systemic indifference towards men that leads to so much pain and heartbreak.
thank you so very much l am so glad to see that there are people out there that stand with me on this l have been holding this pain inside for way to long and l am gonna get my story out there and help every man and women out there that is being rapped by this system so this never happens to another family
I recall a case here in Australia a year or so ago, where a small business owner, and a couple of their employees, were sued big time, by a former employee who had survived an attempted suicide…..yeah we all know about those “attempted” suicides. The reason……because people at work called her names and made fun of her. The court decided they had caused her so much trauma, they had driven her to suicide, and awarded her damages of some ridiculous amount.
So, the legal system recognizes that a woman, can be pushed to “attempted” suicide, by some name called and practical jokes, which she is capable of walking away from.
When the legal system takes a mans home, children, brands him criminal with no evidence……harasses him for years, chases him for money he hasn’t got…..takes away his licenses….and his ability to earn money……etc etc……they are in no way responsible for these men committing suicide in record numbers.
You know what I say…….they are murderers….every stinking one of them…..every piece of shit family court employee…….social worker……abuse industry parasite……they are directly responsible for the outcomes to the laws, rulings, and discrimination and bias they create.
I don’t except any of this rubbish, “I’m only doing my job” either. If your job, requires you to do injustice to others…..then you are guilty as sin……unless you show me where the gun pointing at your head is………you are free to leave your job…..you choose to be employed in this fashion……then you are totally responsible for your actions. That goes for every cop that drags a man out of his home……knowing that he has done no wrong…….but he’s got to do his job.
One day the people responsible for this mess will be rotting in prison cells.
It is often unrealized the impact that these things have on women not just men Brenda and I’m so sorry for you and your sons loss.
It’s lovely to have you here.
Right now this very minute, I am listening to two women talk about divorce and they both expressed the common held fact that the system will always stickup for women.
Interesting to see how they make their like decisions based on this.
Right now this very minute, I am listening to two women talk about divorce and they both expressed the common held fact that the system will always stickup for women.
Interesting to see how they make their life decisions based on this.
You must have been listening without them knowing Karma, because if they know they have a male audience, they say…….”it’s a man’s world, the world is so unfair to women boo hoo
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Below a list of what men owe women.
I find this list to be a very thorough and detailed account of everything a man owes a woman. Good work.
It’s damn fine work but an accountant would probably think in a + or – sense so I think there would be a number but there may not be a +