I did an interview with Dean Esmay recently and while we were working together and I spent time looking at the web site A Voice for Men. As I read, I became more and more convinced that I had found my place. After talking at length with Paul Elam, I agreed that I will be able to write and to join in with the many contributors and readers as an advisor and editor on this site. AVfM is an inclusive site and after all the hate filled rhetoric I have endured for so many years I feel as if I am coming home.
It is now two thousand and thirteen. Forty-two years ago I opened the first shelter/refuge in the world in a tiny, derelict house in the streets of Chiswick, West London. In those years I had a vision about a woman’s movement that would work for all women in harmony with men.
There were serious issues that needed changing in my experience. I could not get a mortgage as a woman without my husband or other male figures co-signing. When I wished to get married I needed to get proof for my doctor of my intentions before he could give me contraception.
Abortions were illegal and women were driven into the hands of illegal abortionists or other, even more desperate measures. Most of the women I knew in my area and some men called themselves “equity feminists” but I was disillusioned very early on when I attended the “collectives,” as their conferences were called.
What I saw devastated my dream.
Those of us on the floor were told that we were to be formed into groups and to choose our names and then to meet in our houses every week. We were to call ourselves “sisters” or “comrades.” I was instantly suspicious because I was born in China and my parents were supporters and friends with Chiang Kai-shek. This was at a time when Mao began his long march across China.
Later on in 1949 my father, who was in the Consular Services, was posted back to Tien Sien (now called Tianjin) and both my parents were captured by the communists and put under house arrest. I was in boarding school with my twin sister for the three years they were captured. We heard very little news and for a time we thought they were dead.
When my mother was allowed out with my brother she told us all about the atrocities, the starvation killing millions of people across China that were taking place. In those big collectives we heard the Maoist women giving mind blowing accounts of liberation for women under this happy regime and then the counter arguments about the joys of Russian communism.
Pretty early on I realized that this movement had nothing to do with men and women working together for equality, but all to do with a schism between the left wing men and women. The women decided to move the goal posts from capitalism as the enemy and institute “patriarchy” – men – as the enemy to all women and children. The schism spread and became a gulf between all men and women.
That is when the women who were on the platform and were leading this movement (though they claimed this new movement was leaderless), identified their chief enemy was the structure of the patriarchal family. The new family would now be the mothers and their children. Fathers were now to be disenfranchised. Women, as in Russia and China, would become units of production and their children would be sent to twenty four hour nurseries. The communist doctrine has always been to subvert the women first and then everything else would follow.
This is the history of the so called women’s movement. I left and with a small group of women opened a community house that was open to all women and their children and men were welcome by invitation. Very quickly the first women who was bleeding and battered came in to ask for help. Others followed her, but before long we were no longer a community house and our supporters melted away because instead of grateful battered women coming through our doors several of the women were as violent as the men they left and violent to their children.
Very quickly I realized there were two different problems. Women who were innocent victims of their partner’s violence certainly needed refuge but with support could very quickly get on with their lives. But the women who were victims of violence from their dysfunctional childhood experiences, and who had become perpetrators of violence, needed long term therapy.
I knew as soon as we began to receive press attention and donations, the feminist movement would move in. Highly organized, but bereft of attention or funding because they were far too radical, they needed a cause that generated funding. The plight of battered women and the feminist stance that all men were oppressors merged to become their mantra: All women were victims of all men’s violence.
None of this made any allowance for men or children who were the victims of violence by women, or for female perpetrators that also demanded our attention.
Very quickly they began to set up shelters in America under the banner of that twisted mantra. I was very alarmed and desperate to get anyone to listen to me, which became a source of ridicule. Men laughed at the feminist movement in the early days and when I tried to warn them they said I was paranoid.
Now I believe we are on the cusp of change. Sufficient men and women have realized that this billion dollar industry is a threat, not just to the family that has all but disintegrated, but also to the fabric of our society.
What most people do not recognize is that the actual refuges do not benefit from the money poured into this movement. Most of the money that is completely unaccountable goes into the huge edifice that is publicly touted to concern itself with the role of women.
Agencies across the world, the UN as an example, have been infiltrated with the false new religion and gladly embraced by the women who have managed to create a lucrative women only zone. No men can work in the refuges, no men can sit on any board and no small boys over nine to twelve years old can enter the refuges.
And no men and children who are victimized by domestic violence can get any help.
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The movement to this day remains sealed off to the rest of the world. So many of you who access this web site have probably faced the same hostility to any questioning and have been branded as I have, as “women haters.”
I have been picketed and threatened, others have been threatened with bomb scares, not just because we disagree with the politics of this movement but because we threaten the future of agencies like VAWA that pour millions of dollars into the feminist pockets who can then continue with their promised destruction of our precious democracy.
Democracy is a fragile institution, depending as it does on the will of the people to uphold it. We have been fooled far too long and in writing this manifesto I wish to join you on this web site. I am begging you to become ambassadors for family life and the inclusion of men back into the lives of their families. I say this knowing that if we do not return men to their rightful status as human beings worthy of equal treatment under the law, we will get nowhere.
I ask that we stand together, not divided by gender but united in recognizing that domestic violence is not and never has been a gender issue. Violence in the family is generational and if we ignore the damage done to children marinated in violence we throw away our children’s lives and condemn them to repeat the patterns of their violent parents.
This is the beginning of a New Year. I hope for all of us a recognition that the gloves must come up and action taken. I see our first demand has to be a transparent look at the international funding of this evil empire and thereafter a total dismantling of the big lie.
I am aware that for many the damage has already been done, but all of us have to look to the future and I believe this movement instead of being scattered in small enclaves on the web has to come together so that men and women can speak in one voice. We are a movement of love and inclusion and the future of the family is far too fragile to continue to stand aside and watch it dismantled.
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Wow! I am very excited and it is an honor to see you as part of the AVFM team, Ms Pizzey. I wager that your presence infuriates and at the same time instills more paranoia to our feminist opposition. Thank you for joining AVFM, ma’am.
Erin Pizzey joins A Voice for Men?
The Beatles just got Elvis!
Welcome Erin, I’ve long been an admirer of both your work and the courage you have to speak the truth.
Excellent! A good New Year indeed. I look forward to reading your future Posts!
It’s a real honor to have you here.
Looking forward very much to your future insights into male-female conflict and the asymmetric nature of gender feminisim.
It’s great to have her on the AVfM team! 2012 was a progressive year for the MRM, but I think 2013 will be the year it makes it to the mainstream.
Wow!!!!!!
Just WOW!!!!!!!
I know right? Honestly, the walking embodiment of feminist kryptonite just entered the MRA fold on AVFM!!!!!!
Headline news material worldwide; don’t expect me to hold my breath to see it on any papers or feminist websites.
I would love to see old manboobs write something on this.
And PE, JTO, Dean; I would love to drop my site and do something here while I go to school this month.
This is far too important compared to my blog; hit me up with an email and let me know how I can help! My hometown is a huge college town; without my blog I have a lot of night raids of posters in my future!
Welcome Erin. Welcome home. Yeah baby!
“infiltrated with the false new religion” – I’d argue feminism is a religion, a religion disguised as rational thought, and its bible being the theory of Patriarchy.
Damn, one of us needs a new login, but Jay is about the only name I know how to spell. How long have you been a Jay at AVfM?
I’ve been on avfm since 2011. I wonder how it is possible for a login to be registered if it already exists, it means anyone can impersonate anyone else.
A login and a screen name are two different things. Screen names can collide, only logins cannot.
Why don’t you rename yourself Jay the Other? I don’t think John would mind.
Also, I have said some pretty stupid things, just so you know, you may get some flack over the things I’ve said. Sorry.
My God – the great scores just keep on coming. Thank you, AVfM, and thank you, Erin.
I am all too seldom left speechless and in awe.
Great news and great work, folks.
We love you, Erin.
Just one slight criticism. The Apollo 11 photo of earth rise may have been a better choice (in my eyes). Why because for many seeing our blue planet and how small and beautiful it was for the first time made us realize that we are on this planet together man, woman and child regardless of who or what we are. We should not allow any group preaching division to stand. That is the base message of the MRM.
Amen.
Well said, Bev.
Could not get that one, but I hope the semi compromise works for everyone.
Works well for me Paul. Better than my original suggestion. +1
OT: newsflash!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The feminists have got to my skype account, we need a fighting fund so we can sue Skype or at least make them prove their accusations.
For now contact me on skype @ KARMA_MRA_MGTOW.
If this can happen to me it can happen to anyone!!!!!!
Hello customer
Thank you for your reply.
We understand your concern regarding your Skype account status. Unfortunately for the time being it must remain suspended until further notice because as previously explained, in accordance with paragraph 11.2 of the Skype Terms of Use, we have terminated your right to use the Skype software, and have prevented any further access to your Skype account.
This is because you are in breach of paragraph 6.3 (c) of the Terms of Use which prohibits the use of the Skype software to send unsolicited communications.
You can read the full terms of use here:
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Should any further issues arise, please feel free to contact us again.
Best regards,
Trixia F.
Skype Customer Service
— Original Message —
From: KARMA MRA MGTOW
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Subject: RE: xxxxxxxx
Yes I will be taking legal action, if the claim is not proved.
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Hello customer
Thank you for contacting Skype Customer Service.
We understand that you have been unable to reset your password.
We would like to inform you that in accordance with paragraph 11.2 of the Skype Terms of Use we have terminated your right to use the Skype software, and have prevented any further access to your Skype account.
This is because you are in breach of paragraph 6.3 (c) of the Terms of Use which prohibits the use of the Skype software to send unsolicited communications. Any Skype Credit that was in your account is non-refundable.
You can read the full text of the Terms of Use here:
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Should you have any further questions, please feel free to contact us again.
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Skype Customer Service
Would an avalanche of emalis to Skype help as a start?
Thank you Erin and welcome! “I am begging you to become ambassadors for family life and the inclusion of men back into the lives of their families.” Exactly!
Thank you Erin, as you know the DV industry is just one aspect of the cultural marxist plan for the destruction of the family, but it is a cruel, relentless, well funded aspect that needs to be stopped and the issue of DV separated from gender and an inclusive and evidence based approach taken for the good of our children and our society.
Readers may be interested in this very good documentary which explains cultural marxism and how feminism is a critical component of it. ( long but worth it!) http://vimeo.com/52009124
Ho-Lee-Fuck.
Excuse my language but, I cannot help myself.
Thank-you Erin Pizzey, your experiences have been crucial in completely altering my perception of feminism.
I started originally believing in creating a better world possibly through feminist perspectives. Only, later to discount those perspectives as more out of touch with reality than any other.
To be honest I am still half out of it celibrating New Years but, completely floored by your addition to the roster.
I am humbled and elated that Erin Pizzey’s has saw fit to posit her great wisdom here on this sight. AVFM has reached new hights with this addition. Welcome Erin Pizzey I so look forward all you are able to offer us.
Many long years ago having read what you then wrote it was the final bit to the jigsaw puzzle. I was confused, I had seen what was happening to men and boys not just within my family but elsewhere. The feminist retoric just did not fit with what I saw of men and boys. I had been to family court to save my grandsons from a bad situation. Touted as an inclusive way to remove spite and angish from divorce when introduced it quickly morphed into a legal scheme to remove money and children from fathers. I have watched the leapfroging of DV law state by state in OZ as states changed the law every three years or so to seemingly out compete each other in the level of draconian law. Each round garnered more “incidents” as the DV definition broadened to be all inclusive. So more harsh legislation to fight the “epidemic” in a never ending cycle which only benefited those on the grave train.
Welcome Erin. May the wind be at our backs as we head into the increasing shrill feminist stormy seas knowing that all storms blow themselves out in the end.
I’ve been sitting at the keyboard for a few mins after reading Erin’s article knowing I feel like typing something, but I don’t know what. My hands just sit there, and I stare blankly like a vegetable at the screen.
Just pretend I said something good.
You just did.
Wow. That is truly a stroke of brilliance.
Great news! Looking forward to hearing what you have to say about the issues of the day.
I’m speechless. It is such an honor to have you with us, Erin. We welcome you with open arms!
I think she is going to do more for this site possibly then Glenn Sacks did for FnF?!
Erin I absolutely love you to bits.
Welcome to AVFM. Thanks for coming….
I have been reading up and found this article:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2001/nov/26/gender.uk1
This article ended with:
“She [Erin Pizzey] has no publisher for A Terrorist in the Family; she plans to release it on the internet. She is no longer a name to conjure with. For a woman who affected so many, she seems – while surrounded by family – publicly forgotten in her older age. As I leave, I wonder if a man who’d done so much would be quite so alone, and I wonder why we women don’t look after our own quite as well as we should.”
The author, Dina Rabinovitch, died October 30 2007 of breast cancer, RIP.
It seems that the author missed the point. It takes people (men and women) of good conscience. Not women looking after women. The author truly missed what Erin Pizzey is all about.
People of good conscience, people with compassion, people of strong moral character. These are NOT traits desired by todays Feminazi movement! As you can see by Ms. Pizzey, anyone caught in possesion of these attributes will be expelled! Their named and deeds discredited, and they may be subject to rethorical and physical attack!
Alright, that came across a little strong. Sorry about that. It’s just when I read Ms. Pizzeys’ story a while ago(believe it or not, I think it was on the GMP) I was outraged! (The fact that the resident Feminist there just clucked their tounges and said ‘ isn’t that a shame,NEXT’ didn’t have much of a calming affect) I guess that sense of outrage hasn’t subsided. Anyway, Welcome!. It’s really great that you’ll be writing here!
Erin,
Thank you ever so much for adding your voice to the choir.
I have read about you for just about 4 years now.
I discovered you in a video where Sen. Anne Cools mentions you. (Sen Cools’ riding is about an hour away from me. Another great woman braving feminist hate)
I then looked you up on the net and was instantly filled with immense respect for the person you are after reading your history.
You are correct about many of us already having been burned by the feminist dictated legal system in place throughout first world nations, I being one of them.
Your insight that we must look to the future in this movement is even more correct.
It is not about me, it is about every person who follows after me.
2013 is shaping up to be an incredible year already with your addition to AVfM.
Again many thanks for adding your voice to the MRM choir.
Senator Ann Cools speaks about domestic violence issues
CBC Metro Morning: Fatherlessness. Senator Anne Cooles
How many male politicians are willing to say this stuff? God how disgusting our Govts are. As Erin said, “Where is the humanity in men for each other?” indeed.
This is amazing! So proud to have Ms. Pizzey on our team. This will be a very very good new year indeed now that we have such a powerful and authoritative voice joining us.
I cannot wait to make your acquaintance Ms. Pizzey!
Welcome to the team Mrs.(or Ms.) Pizzey!
Wonderful to have you!
2013 is going to be a VERY interesting year.
Welcome, Ms. Pizzey.
It is truly an honour.
Long time ago, as a teenager, I got into Mrs. Pizzey’s writings. A few years later I saw some extensive interviews with her and chocked the red pill entirely.
Now, in 2013, I get to be a contributor in the same place with Erin Pizzey. This is more than great.
Welcome aboard! We will all need your expertise!
Welcome Erin! It’s great to have you, and I can’t think of a better addition.
I am utterly delighted that you have come on board with AVFM and joined the editorial/contributor team. Your deep sense of humanity combined with your sharp intelligence is a fantastic asset.
Erin, good morning. Really good to see this association with AVfM. As you know, we’re going to form a new political party in the coming months, and DV will be high on our agenda, possibly at the very top.
Some non-Brits might not be aware that the organisation which Erin founded, which was taken over by militant feminists, has for some years been called ‘Refuge’. Here’s their website:
http://refuge.org.uk/
Under their name (top left hand corner) you’ll see the strapline, ‘For women and children. Against domestic violence’. Another two words are unstated but clearly implied: ‘Against Men’. It’s my understanding that, while academic studies show that female-on-male DV is as common as male-on-female DV (some studies report it’s higher) there are 400+ women’s refuges in the UK, and only one or two men’s refuges. I believe there’s a similar imbalance in most, if not all, developed countries.
As a registered charity, Refuge isn’t permitted to engage in political activities. But their activities demonstrate their political motivations, so we plan to challenge their charitable status, as well as that of the leading British militant feminist campaigning organisation, the Fawcett Society:
http://www.fawcettsociety.org.uk/
I’d write to both organisations about our plans to challenge their charitable status, but I’ve no doubt that the militant feminists who follow this site will do so for me. I herewith thank them for saving me a little time, thereby helping to support our cause.
Erin, thanks for getting 2013 off to a great start with this association with AVfM. I, and I’m sure all others who follow AVfM, look forward to your future contributions.
Mike Buchanan
ANTI-FEMINISM LEAGUE
http://fightingfeminism.wordpress.com
” http://refuge.org.uk/ ”
I had to avert my eyes from so much pink…… ewwwww
That’s impossible. Gender colors are fabricated and socialized by the Paytreearchy. A militant feminist group would never use ‘feminine colors’ or lingerie to create and reinforce sex stereotypes and roles. Never. Ever ever. Victoria’s Secret is a great example, run by females, for females, with absolutely no bias toward sexualizing the female and exploiting the male sex impulse. None. At all. Not a little. Ever
Gender neutral, baby. To the death.
Hi Mike – was extremely delighted to hear of your ground-breaking role in forming a political party to fight militant feminism in this country.
I am also sure that you are at least as delighted as I am that one of Britain’s very finest women has joined AVFM.
PS I’m about half way through your excellent book (got a few others on the go as well) so not in a position to do my review just yet but have not forgotten about it!
Thanks TigerMan. That link goes to the paperback edition of my book but I’ve yet to release one (and may never do so). For the foreseeable future it’s only available as an ebook, here’s the Kindle edition:
http://www.amazon.com/Feminism-The-Ugly-Truth-ebook/dp/B00795BPEO/ref=tmm_kin_title_0
The Daily Mail’s Editor liked the article and today I was interviewed by one of their top journos, photographed etc. Hopefully it will appear on Saturday, a 1- or 2-page spread. The journalist started by saying she had 45 minutes to spare, but in the end the interview lasted over two hours. Fingers crossed.
Mike Buchanan
ANTI-FEMINISM LEAGUE
http://fightingfeminism.wordpress.com
Ooops my bad about the crappy link.
Fantastic news about the interview – at this rate you will be getting so famous that you will have to have a print run if only to get signed copies!
Happy New Year……..phtttttttt!
What an understatement!
Try Elated New Year more like!
Welcome Erin.
I swear with you on board I’ll be walking half an inch taller this year, proud to be in such lovely company.
A friend of mine in MRALondon has been a fan of Erin Pizzey’s for years, and has read her books. I’m relatively new to the MRM and have only recently learned about Erin. However, we were planning on getting to see her at an up coming book signing event.
However, I’m staggered by this news from AVfM. It is wonderful. Good stuff! What else can I say?
This is astounding! I hope you can use your “First” status to spread news to the world about what “women’s shelters” have actually become.
Meanwhile, over at GoodMenProject, their latest contribution under the heading of “Men and Feminism” is an article discussing feminist body hair removal.
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-good-life-my-gain-your-loss-hair-removal-feminism-and-interdependence/
Way to pluck the treasure trail, ladies.
Outstanding. Simply outstanding. Welcome Erin! As I don my prognosticators hat, I predict that 2013 will be the year when mainstream media will have no other choice but to look at the MRM and acknowledge that we exist because of a real need to change societies view of boys and men.
It’s time to expose the misandry and Marxist plans of those who claim to speak for all men and women, but demonize boys and men as a matter of business as usual.
2013 is going to rock! The MRM is gelling and making a difference.
I’m there with you. Have you noticed the changes? We used to be voices in the wilderness. Watched the change in comments from some regulars who were definately blue pillers starting to choke on them. Not red pillers yet but uncertain. Equally some regular feminist commenters whose bile went uncommented before but is questioned now. They no longer get away with their put downs, their retoric and arguments. Though there is a tendency for the most way out feminist article to now not be open to comment. Are they frightened what the commenters might say?
Oh yea!
Exactly, some of the best new year resolutions are so unexpected when they arrive. lol
Erin
Your formal introduction as AVfM Editor-at-Large, your sharing of hopes and tradedies – (went) straight to the heart.
My immediate thoughts were also momentarily overshadowed by the feelings induced by immediate imagery.
By sheer fate or co-incidence my eyes were drawn to the photo on the right side of your closing words.
That image is still there. Yet will soon be gone to make way for a different one.
It was a prelude to an important message that needs no further introduction. It is an image of a new life being handed to the hands of another. The receiving hand is ours.
It is fitting that we welcome each other. I or we into the experiences of what you have endured. And you again to the, at times, rough and tumble ready demeanours of men.Those who once worked in the mud and raw elements who also have delivered timely ribboned boxes of chocolates to our loved ones.
( [fidget] Err…uhh…Hey, who won that Packer’s game?)
Greetings from a slightly snowy Canada.
Thank you for being here.
Picture me just standing up and applauding you Erin after reading that speech.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for writing that manifesto and detailing, although briefly, the history of feminism and your history in the movement that tried to help innocent victims of violence.
We are all honoured to have you among our ranks. I am certain we will learn much from you and that you will learn much from us. Indeed, you will see the raw pain and anguish of many men on this site, as you see the agony written in their words.
There are a lot of angry men (and women) on this site, but as with the vast majority of normal men in this world, we channel that anger in the correct manner, which is in battling this vile cancer that has destroyed our families.
Welcome aboard and welcome home. We look forward to a long association with you!
2013 starts with a bang! Welcome!
Am I alone in not understanding this ‘contribution’, nor your last one?
Is this directed at my comment? Just welcoming Erin aboard.
Hi Dusty. No, my query was directed not at you but the person (the name has ‘blue’ in it) who posted two or three comments with a series of hash signs in some odd designs. I didn’t know what that was all about.
Oh, gotcha. I think it says “welcome” in caps.
Part of me wants to just thank Erin again for lending her voice to these pages, and another part of me wants to grab a bullhorn, point it at the world and shout, “How do you like us NOW?”
I don’t see anything wrong with doing both.
TPH and others here are quite correct. The writing is on the wall. Society will have a much harder time in the future keeping their heads in the sand and continuing to believe that feminism is about equality.
We have Mike Buchanan starting great things in Britain with other good people there. We have Peter Lloyd forging ahead into the mainstream. We even have another surprise or two from this site that the readers will learn about in the coming weeks.
Like this one, they are not small surprises.
For right now, though, I just want to take a little time to absorb this. What an incredible day to start the new year.
Paul.. As sweet and joyous as this stuff is.. I am a greedy bastard. its been a dream of mine to see you, AngryHarry and Zed in conversation. No holds barred, of course. Make that happen and I can die a happy man.
You have indeed found your place. Welcome.
Awesome now can we get on the radio from time to time ?
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I saw the facebook post, did a double-take. Checked the article, still in disbelief. Just pinched myself – it’s real.
I’m reminded of the way arms races go. The side under threat will start out with improvised weapons. They then get hold of small arms. Then if they’re lucky they might score some heavy artillery then eventually some armoured units and combat aircraft. If they’re really lucky, they get a WMD to use as a deterrent.
Ladies and gentlemen, I do believe that this site just got its hands on the ideological equivalent of a nuke.
To any feminists reading this – a quick question : how do you like THOSE apples?
This has got to be the most wonderful news EVER! I love Erin Pizzey, and have her to thank for getting me involved with the MRM after reading her book.
” I believe this movement instead of being scattered in small enclaves on the web has to come together so that men and women can speak in one voice. We are a movement of love and inclusion and the future of the family is far too fragile to continue to stand aside and watch it dismantled.”
^^THIS is perfect! Thank you Erin for sharing and for joining us. We are very lucky to have such a smart, talented, and wise person, such as yourself here at AVfM.
I believe Erin Pizzey said at a domestic violence conference (I believe it was in California, with Donald Dutton in attendance) that the problem is political, and we therefore need a political solution. That is definitely what we are about here.
Welcome, Ms. Pizzey! You have long been an inspiration to me. You’re one of my heroes.
This is a crowning moment in the history of the MRM, and the best New Year’s gift we could ask for.
It’s a pleasure to have you aboard, Miss Pizzey.
Erin? huh! Well Paul I just sent you a check for $50 because of all the good writers you got here. Now it looks like I will have to send you another one. I’ll get it in the mail tomorrow.
This is awesome news!! After everything Erin has gone through to speak the truth, it is an honor to have her here. Welcome Erin!
This article made my day, just amazing, there are about three people that I have always thought “if they become active MRA’s it’s only a matter of time before good stuff happens” you are one of them.
Wow, it just keeps getting better! I wonder what games the feminists and their: legal system, academic, corporate, supposed charity and state confederates, are going to play, now that reaching critical mass, is becoming virtually inevitable.
Welcome Erin!
Watch them try to tear her apart and marginalize her. It’s coming.
They don’t know she’s even harder to shut up than JTO, and immune to their bullshit.
It’ll be fun! The gyno-utopians are going to have a lot of trouble with: “Erin Pizzey: rape apologist.”
Writhe, howl and shriek, harpies! Knock yourself out. You are doomed.
This is huge on so many levels. What a wonderful opening article. Thank you for your courage, compassion, and depth, Ms. Pizzey.
It is ironic that one of feminism’s sternest critics is actually the living embodiment of the very qualities of strength, independence and moral grit that feminism falsely claims for itself.
Erin Pizzey’s courage and integrity are sharp contrasts to the bigotry and opportunism of the violent ideologues she has confronted for decades. Those qualities resonate with her many admirers – present and future – and Ms Pizzey has brought them here, to AVfM.
Most telling of all, is that despite the raw hatred that feminists and their enablers have hurled at Ms Pizzey, her message remains positive and hopeful. It speaks of restoring men to their rightful places in their families – places that many at AVfM and beyond are fighting to hold onto, or have already had stolen from them.
The fact that a luminary such as Erin Pizzey has joined AVfM as an advisor and editor is a milestone for this website. It is a powerful endorsement of the credibility that Dr Elam and his team have worked so hard to achieve. Ms Pizzey writes that, like so many of us, she has found her place here. Erin Pizzey has always had a place here – in our hearts and minds, where she has long been an inspiration.
I hope that this remarkable woman fully appreciates just how welcome she is at AVfM. It is a proud moment indeed.
2013 just took a turn for the better.
What a great start to 2013! Welcome Erin.
Erin,
I am very happy to see that you’ve joined the team at AVfM. May everyone who needs a domestic violence awakening have their moment as your words break through their misinformed psyches.
teri
http://www.saveservices.org/innocence/quilt
Whoah! Amazing news! What a great start to the year!
Erin Pizzey’s article reminded me of a recent incident.
A few months ago at the end of a meeting at my workplace (retail industry) the speaker started handing out white-ribbons (for that well-known campaign).
I stated (loud enough to be heard by almost everyone there) that I had no interest in wearing a white ribbon as I was against violence against all people, not just half the population.
To my pleasant surprise, 2 women nearby agreed with me. One of them who used to be a social worker stated that the women she had dealt with were far more violent than their male partners.
It really restored my faith in the intelligence of the public and how the wool was not being pulled over everyone’s eyes.
Sometimes it feels like we are against the world but occasionally a ray of light appears.
Welcome Erin, your presence here is a huge ray of light in our struggle for human rights.
Erin Pizzey, your addition to AVfM is a stunner.
Welcome!
http://counterfem.blogspot.com/2013/01/erin-pizzey-joins-avfm.html
Wise words, Erin.
Welcome aboard.
Wow, this is exciting news indeed. Welcome Erin, I’m looking forward to reading your articles.
Things just keep getting better and better at AVFM.
Talk about starting the year with a BANG!!!! Wow — AMAZING news!!!! I have long been an admirer of this incredibly brave woman.
Thank you Erin Pizzey for exposing the truth from the very beginning and now, for joining forces with AVfM. We are SO PROUD to have you be a part of this extraordinary, passionate team!
You are more welcome than I can put into words. Your courageous fight for equality and dignity for all people is a reminder that feminism was born as a positive movement with noble goals. One day society will re-learn to see the pain of men and boys. You will be remembered and honoured for seeing past the feminist lies and for shining light in the dark places where our world conceals the pain of men and boys.
You quickly identified one key issue that confronts our movement: hope.
“I am begging you to become ambassadors for family life and the inclusion of men back into the lives of their families.”
Once a man learns the full extent of discrimination against fathers in Western courts and institutions, it takes courage to have hope in family life. The risks are many.
If a man marries the WRONG woman: She is likely to cash out after a few years. With the assistance of feminist family courts, she will butcher his life for a profit. Nothing about him will matter (including his love for his children) except those things from which money can be squeezed. She can leverage threats and violence (as well as false allegations of violence) for even greater power and financial gain.
If a man marries the RIGHT woman: Virtually all women know that fathers are irrelevant in family court. A man who finds the right woman will be diminished in her eyes the moment he says “I do.” How can a wife respect a man as an equal, when the law regards him as sub-human? Many good marriages are poisoned by the legal disenfranchisement of fathers. Legally a father is a powerless supplicant. Even a good woman will grow resentful when she falls in love with a man, but finds herself married to a doormat.
In the age of misandry, a married man faces life with only two moves: fold or bluff. It can be done, of course. The trick is to fold on issues that are important to the wife, and bluff on issues that she does not really care about. If he makes a mistake and is called on his bluff, both he and his wife will know that he has no real power. How is she to remain in love with a man thus diminished?
I married a good woman. Every day I play poker with a weak hand. I live in fear that I will make the wrong call, and she will walk, taking my life with her. How can I advise my two sons to do the same? Collectively, society will fall without family. Individually, my sons are better off if they never say “I do”.
My guess is 90% of married MRAs instinctively “take a stand” on issues that we actually do not care about. In the absence of any real power, we summon a mighty paper tiger to create the illusion of confidence, assertiveness, and strength (gifted paper tigers on a different path call themselves “pick up artists”). This illusion holds our marriages together.
I wish you every success, and I will help if I can. However, I will teach my sons to avoid commitment until “equal protection under the law” becomes more than hollow words.
Thank you AVfM, for asking Erin Pizzey and thank you Erin for accepting. United, we stand a chance; divided we will be erased.
Truth will always be truth, but lies rule…that is, until we get sick of it enough to do something about it.
May Erin inspire us all!
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Welcome, Ms. Pizzey!
God bless you Erin.
I’ve noticed there’s been a trend here in the US media to refer to “Domestic Violence Shelters” or “Battered Women’s Shelters” as “Women’s Homeless Shelters”, which essentially they are – as police interdiction into the home puts the man in jail poste haste anyway.
It seems shifting the labeling might mean lost VAWA funding that keeps an awful lot of “Social Sciences” majors employed…and “feel good” publicity dollars from corporate donators. Currently the latest round of VAWA (feminist pork) funding sits in our House of Reps as Republicans dared to ask where the money actually went (close to $2 Billion thus far). Accountability for our tax dollars is part of the “war on women” here.
All the MRA asks for is intellectual honesty out of the constricted purview of Political Correctness. You’ve always been a soldier in that war, and for that I thank you.
Amazing! Simply amazing. You, Erin, are my hero. Welcome
Best Christmas present ever!
mralondon.
As a university student, journalist and intellectual, you will find the historical precedent for A Voice for Men to be of interest.
Erin Pizzey = Vision, integrity, courage. She is part of a long tradition of honest women who have blown the whistle on the criminality of those who try to hide behind suprematist and authoritarian “theories.”
For those who have not seen this, here is a collection of quotes of brave women, 1904-1953, of the past who have shined a light on misandry:
“A Woman’s Voice”
http://unknownmisandry.blogspot.com/2012/06/womans-voice.html
Welcome Erin, and thank you.
This is so awesome.
I’m a bit late to the party, but thank you Erin for all you’ve done. This is great news for AVfM, and the MRM in general!
Welcome. It is truly a honor.
To Erin Pizzey: Please read the AVfM article on 1920s Soviet marriage “reform” titled “The People’s Guide to Marriage.” It will make your hair stand on end — and it might perhaps provide some information useful to your writing. (It contains original news documents from the period.)
http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/the-peoples-guide-to-marriage/
to be honest, i think the damage has been done.
feminism is nothing but a hiding place for hateful, spitefull bigots, and needs to be dismantled.
take the shelters, they begged men for help then (money and voices), and men helped….fast forward 30-40 years, when men started getting tired of being called evil, and started bringing up our own problems.
what has been the feminist response? have they helped? have they even tried to help?
no, their response has been ‘it’s not our problem’
or worse, ‘gmp’
this shit is gonna take a lot of cleaning up.
I’m not sure if you are aware of this but Erin did indeed ask men for help to set up shelters for battered men back then (early 70′s) – the same rich men who were happy to open their chequebooks to help women all refused. So I think we have a problem with alpha men in general as well as mainstream feminists. To my mind both of these groups are fkn dinosaurs as far as I am concerned and getting in the way of positive social evolution.
Definitely Tigerman. I think some MRAs are going to be in for a very rude shock when the MRM shifts from going after feminism (it’s death knell will be when moderate feminists realise that what the MRM stands for is ironically their best chance for true agency and equality) to also going after traditionalism. When that happens, we can expect numerous “enemies from within” IMHO.
Personally, I can’t fucking wait, but apparently I’m not alone.
Good thing to know.
Personally I think the more of us that we can recognise as being either genuinely zeta male or pro-zeta male in terms of female MRAs, the better it will be when this does hit the fan – which I strongly suspect will be sooner than later.
As long as we don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater wrt to “traditionalism”. For example marriage and the nuclear family is still the best environment we know of for raising children. That said there are a host of socio legislative issues that need to be sorted out in order for the toxicity injected by rad feminism and it’s enablers to be undone. Simply by a policy of removing institutionalised male chivalry will do a lot of this work for us e.g. Family courts practice of defaulting to mother custody on divorce. As long as someone is not harming others I think a policy of giving folks “more elbow room” (to quote a wise man) is what will distinguish us from the ever more behaviour restricting feminist influenced society we currently live under.
Erin I can remember those days in your opening paragraphs … even a stretch further back to the sixties … there was very little support for women back then! When I was 12 years old my mother and two sisters finally seperated from my father and his various addictions. At 14 I worked every afternoon after school and Saturday mornings and gave my mother most of my earnings to support the family, back then women earned on average 20% less than their male counterparts …
I can recall even now the outrage I felt for my mother’s plight ….
I am still caught in the middle of this psychotic discrimination, I now see it coming at me from another angle … Time to crush feminism and what it stands for ..
And thank you for adding to my comfort for being on this site.
Footnote:
At 19 my father had straightened himself out and from that point on he became my closest friend, R.I.P. dad I honour your memory for all that you were, I am proud to be your son ..
A year ago while visiting my mother and sisters we reminisced about “the old neighbourhood” and how many alcoholic fathers surrounded us, in one light bulb moment it became apparent that all these men were second WW vets, all probably suffered PTSD, history can never be recalled as accurately as the feminist propaganda would have you believe … there is always something left out at the convenience of the recorder!!
I am looking forward … here’s to you, Erin
I’m a big fan of Erin, and this is great news, but there’s one thing I’ve never been able to understand when women from this era bring it up:
“I could not get a mortgage as a woman without my husband or other male figures co-signing. When I wished to get married I needed to get proof for my doctor of my intentions before he could give me contraception. Abortions were illegal and women were driven into the hands of illegal abortionists or other, even more desperate measures.”
I’ve never understood this. What’s the big deal with a bank asking for a co-signer if a wife wanted a mortgage? If I was giving someone a loan, I’d want to be sure whoever was on the hook for repaying it was in a secure position and knew what repayments he was going to be. I mean whether anyone likes it or not, the fact is that women have babies and take time off work as a result, and it’s usually therefore the man who’s paying the bills.
As for contraception, well to be honest I think society took a turn for the worse when contraception and especially the pill started being freely given to single women. There can’t really be any doubt surely that this, along with no-fault divorce, alimony etc. contributed to the destruction of marriage and the family that we see today. Today women can just expel husbands and fathers from their families when they feel like it and still get them to pay over half their salaries. Seems to me we’ve gone backwards.
Abortion? I’d say it’s not really a women’s issue at all, it’s a human rights issue. Whether you believe life starts at conception or some later point you’d have to be pretty fucked up to think there’s not some ethical dimension to the issue of terminating a human life at all.
Feminism back in the 60s and 70s really did end up screwing us all over. All that women joining the workforce accomplished was to put up the cost of housing and childcare and transport (because now you’ll need two cars to get to work) and now it takes two salaries to pay for the same lifestyle a single working man could sustain 40 years ago and we’re all working longer and getting less.
It has been two days since I first read this post and I have to say that, in these exceedingly difficult times, the news of Erin Pizzey, brave warrior for truth, joining forces with AVfM is one of the few things that raises my spirits and causes me to look forward to the battles against authoritarianism we will engage in throughout the coming year.
It was Erin Pizzey that gave me a different perspective on feminism. I think it is great and absolutely awesome that she will write for AVfM. Elam and Pizzey is a pretty awesome combination.
This is amazing. I remember reading about Erin’s work 10 years ago and it’s wonderful to see her aboard now.
Any plans to extend an invitation to Esther Vilnar as well? She’s another woman who’s been isolated by the feminist establishment.
Typhonblue, you raise an intriguing point. I’ve recommended Esther Vilar’s ‘The Manipulated Man’ (1971) to many people over the years. Published at almost the same time Erin Pizzey founded the first refuge in Chiswick. Both received death threats.
I contacted her publisher a year or two ago (Pinder & Martin, London, from memory), but he said she’d no interest in getting involved again in the fight against feminism (after so much hassle, not without reason). It’s hardly surprising people get worn out by the fight. We live in more encouraging times.
Mike Buchanan
ANTI-FEMINISM LEAGUE
http://fightingfeminism.wordpress.com
You need to read what this bozo says about her, Paul, and all female MRA’s and I quote:
Even as I write, a new species is emerging – the Female MRA. This was brought squarely into my focus when I read of Erin Pizzey (a nasty and particularly virulent mutation of radical feminism) joining the ranks of A Voice For Men!
Seems to me that one female MRA does more activism in one day than this guy has done on his whole blog.
http://roymovrich.blogspot.ca/2013/01/must-read.html
I am a father and I fully agree with Erin Pizzey: feminism is child abuse
Wow!!! Just Wow I’m still trying to wrap my head around it! Welcome Erin!! As gateman said I see a huge ray of light that didn’t exist before.
Such a wonderful development!
I am a long time fan of your work Ms. Pizzey.
Welcome!!
I wonder if the SPLC will label Erin Pizzey as a violent hatemongerer now, given this latest development?
Either that or label her a stupid dupe or a liar or a traitor. Anything other than an intelligent, thoughtful, brave, strong, admirable woman who has done more to help victims of domestic violence than anyone alive.
Thank you Erin for these words.
I took the liberty to translate your fantastic article to swedish and published it on my blog.
http://www.daddys-sverige.com/3/post/2013/01/ls-erin-pizzeys-manifest.html
As a father who have been fighting the hopeless fight in Sweden for more than six years now, it was heartwarming to read your manifesto. I gives me hope. If you ever need help with translations into swedish let me know. We are as you are all aware also suffering heavily under the evil empire you describe.
More about that and me in my previous articles here. http://www.avoiceformen.com/author/joakim-ramstedt/
We are a lot of men and women here in Sweden that will stand with you in the continuous struggle for freedom from this evil movement.
This is great news.. and welcome. Erin for all that you started and for good, it is ashame it went the way it did.
For what you have said it reminds me of what I saw in the movie Pursuit of Happyness, where Will Smith with his son goes to a shelter and the women says ‘Sorry you cant come in but your son can’. I don’t think too many actually took notice of this and many would think, that wouldn’t happen, but it does.
Domestic Violence happens to both men and women.
I am sick and tired of all preferential treatment just going to women.. and I can vouch for that in my workplace. I am still recoverying from shoulder surgery (due to my work) and rather than be given my old job back (warehousing), they have found me office work to do.. yet a guy who had similar surgery was not offered this. It bloody annoys the heck out of me of when this is done. I did NOT ask for the new placement it is what they offered me and unfortunately I have to take it. But as soon as I have more strength back in my arm/shoulder I will be getting back to what I was employed to do.
But once again.. WELCOME Erin, great to have you onboard.
“Very quickly they began to set up shelters in America under the banner of that twisted mantra. I was very alarmed and desperate to get anyone to listen to me, which became a source of ridicule. Men laughed at the feminist movement in the early days and when I tried to warn them they said I was paranoid.”
41. He who exercises no forethought but makes light of his opponents is sure to be captured by them.
-Sun Tzu
Thank you for understanding and listening and of course your statement and personal history. In general all I ask is for an equal world and equal humanity. You are one a many humans (men and women) who believe in equality and how feminism has mutated into the “death or servitude of men” mission.
I am a husband, father and son to some of the most beautiful and kindest women the world will ever see and I love them for that. I will be their protectors as long as I can and I am happy to have their love and respect. However I have seen far to many friends lives ruined by the 1% women who are violent, manipulative and plain evil (just as there are men) and in the end some have not survived. there is little to no support, respect or belief for these men and I wish to help bring forth the truth that both Men and Women are capable of evil and than feminism’s real mandate is to dominate.